stressed and need help

chrissports

Ok, I need to figure out a way to relax.  I took a month off from clomid and felt fine.  I went in for my CD3 tests yesterday and now I am stressed and tense about if this month will work or not.  Any help of how to destress will be greatly appreciated.  My neck and back are killing me.

joyfulnature

Are you back on Clomid?

Because that stuff has bad side effects for a lot of people. 

If you are back on it, then I would see if you could try to tell yourself, whenever you start to get stressed, that "it's the clomid."

If that doesn't work, I would ask your RE if you can switch to another drug.

If you are not on the Clomid, and you are stressed just because of TTC (and actually, even if you are on the Clomid, some of these could help):

-Exercise, especially outdoors.

-Do something nice for someone else. It could be something small, like baking or making something for your DH or a neighbor. Or you could volunteer somewhere.

-Movies and books always work for me - I get engrossed.

-Take very deep breaths several times a day. Close your eyes and focus on your breathing. Sounds hokey, but works for a lot of people.

-Do a craft project.

HTH, and hope you feel better.

JilliansMoma

chrissports-

Have you tried acupuncture?  It totally helped me to relax and go with the flow.  While I was TTC my DD I went 2-3 per wk.  My Dr. put me on a program of so many sessions and we worked out a payment plan too. I'm not a fan of yoga but I have heard that it can help with stress.  I also love to read and that helps to take my mind off of things.  Nothing deep when I'm trying to relax but go the used book store and buy some old Harlequin romances they are mindless easy reads and also help me "forget" about TTC. 

GL

 

izzourclue

I recommend all the typical exercise, massage and acupuncture (if you can afford it) etc...  Yoga is excellent.  If you haven't tried it before, I recommend attending a class for a while rather than trying a DVD.  Many people "think" they are doing the poses correctly, but they aren't even close.  You really can't know until someone literally "puts" you in the pose.

A good book series works for me.  Reading, especially before bed, relaxes my mind because it forces it to focus on the book rather than obsessing on whatever has me freaking out that day.  Harry Potter, Twilight, Percy Jackson are all great.  Easy to read, great stories, hard to put down.  I am just starting the Golden Compass series now.  

One thing that I found was amazingly relaxing is feeding ducks.  We have a duck pond in town and when I go there and feed for just 10 minutes, my brain is totally preoccupied with the hilarious ducks running for the food and I walk away feeling so happy and relaxed.  Good luck and I know you'll find what works for you. 

kinsalebride

for me the biggest thing was to always keep busy. plan nights out with friends, DH, etc. and stick to things you'd normally do that you enjoy. when i did acupuncture i found it stressful because i hate needles and was only doing it because of the supposed help it could potentially give with TTC. it's not something i ever would've done otherwise.

Joe'sSweetPea

I find that getting out of the house is always best for me.  That may be retail therapy (or window shopping... I do that a lot), lunch and mani/pedis with girlfriends, going to the bookstore with hubs and lunch outside near the bay.

Sometimes, if I am really stressed and nothing else seems to be working, looooong drives with a private stop to cry really works wonders.  Crying seems to flush away a lot of emotions.