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Update on DH not ready to TTCAL

Brady1*Brady1*
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For those of you who remember my post the other night about DH saying he wasn't ready to ttcal, first THANK YOU for your support. You girls are amazing.

DH brought me flowers yesterday, and we talked late last night when he got home from work.

1. He said he didn't think my body was ready yet. (Ok I think I know my own body pretty well but I'm still listening)

2. He's afraid if we tried this cycle he thinks there's more of a chance we'd lose this one too. ( no reason why he just feels it)  He said waiting 1 more cycle would make him a lot more comfortable. 

4. He's going to quit smoking!!!! and Take his vitamins and extra vitamin C to help make sure his little swimmers are up for the job. And will be ready as soon as my next AF shows. 

I was really excited to try this cycle but, can totally understand how he feels and respect that. I just hope this cycle goes by fast and I get my next AF sooner rather than later. 

Thank you all for your support I really appreciate it!  

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  • michroccmichrocc member

    I'm so glad you were able to talk about his reasons for wanting to wait and that he was sweet about everything and wants to work hard. 

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  • Olive44Olive44 member
    Yay!  Great news on all parts!
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  • jen629jen629 member
    My DH had the exact same concerns....I am glad you talked about it :) {{{HUGS}}}
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  • 3ltlones3ltlones member
    I'm glad you talked and that you feel better about things.
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  • SonadoraSonadora member
    I hope this cycle goes by quickly for you.
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  • ksyknelvr73ksyknelvr73 member
    I would definitely take this as a good sign...he wanted to sit down and consider things and he wanted to think it through. And although waiting one more cycle can be tough, it will be time to TTC again before you know it. I'm glad he shared things with you and you guys were able to talk everything out. GOOD LUCK : )
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  • PixiestxPixiestx
    That's not bad at all.  I'm glad you guys talked and worked it out!
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  • BeachColeBeachCole
    That's really sweet he's so concerned and that he's going to do so much to help! At least he's not wanting to wait to terribly long, either. GL to y'all, I hope the wait goes by quickly :-)
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  • trendymomtrendymom
    so glad you guys were able to talk things out. GL!!
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  • uklawgirluklawgirl member
    I am so glad that you two got to have a good talk about all of this and get it worked out. Now let's just get AF on her broom and over to your place!
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  • dondraandluisdondraandluis member
    I'm glad you guys talked and got a plan worked out! How sweet that he brought you flowers!
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  • PeetiePiePeetiePie
    I didn't see your post the other night, but your DHs reasons sound just like mine.  Execpt he's still smoking.  What a sweetheart to bring you flowers.  Broken Heart
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  • bbhalphenbbhalphen member

    I'm glad yall sat down and talked.  He sounds really concerned and sweet.  I hope this month goes by quickly for you!

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  • butterfly843butterfly843
    Glad you guys talked about it. I was so happy when my dh stopped smoking a few years ago.

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