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feeling guilty?

sejabernathysejabernathy
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so as much as i appreciate this, it makes me feel horribly guilty.

 

MIL has had the kiddos since about 1pm and she said she would keep them over nite so DH and I can actually sleep and maybe spend a little time together. i have loaded her up with ebm and we are heading over there to say goodnite since DH just got off of work...

 

BUT it makes me feel like i am pawning my responsibilities off on someone else (she did offer though) and i miss them sooooo much (thought i KNOW i need the break desperately!) 

 

ugh! sorry...i just feel bad :-(  

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  • Temp159135562506975Temp159135562506975 member

    i couldn't have done it - but i don't think you should feel guilty. some people are better at leaving their kids than others - i'm not good about being away from mine over night (but during the day I'm totally fine with it, lol). 

    Get the sleep!!!  you are not pawing off your responsibilites- she is loving it I'm sure - and it's one night for her - you've got about 18 years more nights :)

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  • kimarino13kimarino13

    I also couldn't do it, but I am weird like that.  ;)

    Enjoy your sleep!!!


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  • LaViolettLaViolett

    If she stayed with you, you probably wouldn't be able to rest, and you deserve a good night's sleep. 

    And there's nothing wrong with going over there and sleeping on her couch if you can't make it through the night!!

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  • MoMandAMoMandA
    Wow. You are so lucky. Get off the Bump and sleep. I am so jealous.
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  • sunnybrook.sunnybrook. member
    You are not pawning off your responsibilities. You are taking someone up on an offer to help. Your LOs are in safe and loving hands and your MIL is probably thrilled to have this time with them. Enjoy your night and get some sleep!
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  • Rose.9.6.03Rose.9.6.03 member
    Dude, I could have totally done it!  When my DH went away on business when the babies were little, we'd use a night nanny and it was the best thing EVER.  Seriously, don't feel guilty about getting a little sleep.  You'll be a better mother for it tomorrow.  =)
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  • LMK8605LMK8605

    As long as you know they are in good hands and will be loved and cared for during the short time they are away from you, you shouldn't feel guilty.  Of course, the 1st overnight we left the twins with their granny (who watches them during the week while we work) we both felt SO guilty! 

    You will feel so much better after overnights or even little breaks that I really believe it makes you a better parent.  Not that everyone needs them - it doesn't make you a bad parent if you don't want to be away from your babies either... I just know that for me, a few hours of sleep or a few hours with my DH really makes those days when all they do is fuss or the nights when they won't sleep SO much easier!

    hope it went well :)

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