If you plan on having more kids...

CaitlinJ22

after your two kids...how long do you plan on waiting? I know some of your already have more than 2, or are pg with the 3rd--what's your opinion, would you have waited longer, had kids closer together etc?

DH and I arent sure and wont make decisions til after DD is here for a while, but we dont want our potential 3rd to be too far apart from the 2nd, but then again I also dont want 3 u 3...any input? Thanks 

shari_rngleson

if it were up to my dh we would start trying for #3 when #2 is 7-8 months....but honestly i need to wait a year this time.  (my dh is 41 and i am 33 so he wants to get it done if we have a #3!)

eaglesfan700

I am thinking maybe around this time next year.  I am 37 now, so we can't wait too long, especially if we want to go for #4

 

bim38106

IF we have a third (and that's a big IF), then we'd like for DD2 to be around 3+.. not too much older, but 3 or 3.5, maybe even 4.

I wouldn't mind waiting 4-5 years and doing 2u2 again, but DH would never go for 4 kids And I don't want 3u3 or even 3u4. I don't think I could handle it, mentally I need DD1 to be in school before I want to introduce another NB to the mix

runnergirl79

I think we're going to start ttc #3 in Sept.  That would put DS at just over 2 years, and DD at almost 4 years older than #3 if I happen to get pregnant right away.

agmaso

We hoped to get pg with #3 right away like we did with #2 but it didn't happen early enough so I just got on BC (I wanted a 2010 baby and AF returned early this time as well even though I EBF)

Not sure if we will have anymore... maybe in 3-4 years when the girls are ready for pre-k and K

moonfaerie

If things go my way, we'll try for #3 when L is 2 1/2 - 3 years. That means #2 would be around 1 1/2 - 2.

jkelly41

IF (and I second- that's a big if) we have a third, I think I'd want #1 to be at least four years old.  That would make #2 just shy of three.  DH doesn't want a lot of space between our kids, so I think that's the longest I could get him to wait.

lkf041

We would like to have ours close in age again ... I think, #2 isn't here yet so depending on how that goes we will wait to make that decision down the road.  In our heads, we would like #2 and #3 to be spaced about the same as #1 and #2 (18 months apart).

Now if I have an amazing baby it may be sooner rather than later:)  We want 4 kids (well I want 4, my Dh wants 5-6).   

caymanbride

I feel the same way as you -- I don't want # 3 to be so far behind the boys that he/she isn't involved with them as much, but I don't think I want # 2 and # 3 to be as close in age. # 1 and # 2 will be exactly 2 years apart. We're thinking about # 3 maybe when # 1 is 5 and # 2 is 3?? 

edsamyb

We plan on trying for #3 when the new baby is 6 months old.  I always wanted my kids to grow up together and I have a job with a very flexible schedule and lots of family nearby, so it makes sense for us.

HarrietNJMommy

Well, I already have the 3. They are all 1.5 years apart (1 and 2 are 18 months, 2 and 3 are 19 months). Even though we're in a good routine right now, I would have done it DIFFERENTLY.

We wanted 4 kids total. We wanted to do 2u2, then a space, then 2u2 again. This isn't what happened, and it was VERY VERY hard for me (and for DH) the first year of DS's life, even though he was a laid back child. All 3 of my kids have been bad sleepers, and none of them have STTN until close to a year old. Also, I have NO help around. It's me 24/7 without any big breaks......that's hard to do.

Adding a 3rd (no matter what the spacing) becomes logistically more difficult. Getting 3 meals packed, 3 kids out the door, etc. Once you are outnumbered, it's a whole different ball game (zone defense vs. man-to-man defense).

Also, most people overlook the financial part. The newborn stage is the LEAST expensive part of it. Think vacations, eating out, grocery bills, clothing, sports, activities, etc. All cost money. It's not just some extra diapers and wipes and formula (if you FF).

GL to you whatever you decide. Lots of this is based on your situation and your (and DH's) personality........i.e. - if you have ANY help whatsoever (even 1 day once a month is a big difference), good sleepers, kids in school, etc.

flgator

I would like a 3rd but I don't know how far apart they should be.  I know I'll BF for a year so it wouldn't be before then.  But I think I would like to give my body a little break.  I don't have an answer, but I share your thoughts and want to hear what others say. 

HarrietNJMommy

flgator:

I would like a 3rd but I don't know how far apart they should be.  I know I'll BF for a year so it wouldn't be before then.  But I think I would like to give my body a little break.  I don't have an answer, but I share your thoughts and want to hear what others say. 

I wanted a break from EBF too. I just stopped nursing #3, and it was 5 YEARS of either being PG, BFing or PG AND BFing........

Only now am I getting my break!

hamilton.ja

We're actually planning on a bigger gap between 2 and 3 for a variety of reasons but one being that we're buying a house that, while it has 4 bedrooms, will still be really tight if we added a fourth person full time. So we'll see.

Mama Jan

we plan to wait until the boys are in preschool and then do 2u2 again.

Nanna

We are trying for #3 right now. We want our kids close in age and to get the "baby years" over with sooner rather than later.  

tan110180

I wanted to have two close together and then a break and then two more close together.  However, my third had a different plan.  He chose to come sooner than expected.  I wanted him born in 2010, he came in 2008!  I don't like three children.  There is an odd man out all the time!  Two gets along great, add in the third and its chaos!  So we will proabably have a fourth in a year or two!  So there will be an unfortunate gap but I'm ok with that, just not what I originally planned.

haleybeth81

We're going to wait until this LO is 2 1/2 yr old.  My DD #1 is a late walker and just in case this DD is as well I want her to be older.  Also I have to plan around tax season so it's either 1 1/2 or 2 1/2 and my poor ute wants a break lol.  Hopefully I can get down to a healthy weight and get in shape prior to preg #3 as well

SweetBaby2004

We just had #3 and we had planned for this baby to be closer in age to the other two but we had trouble TTC this time (took almost two years total). 

We are considering #4 and the plan is to TTC #4 to be 2u2 if we decide to do so because we loved the spacing of DD#1 and DS.