"They're twins 3 yrs apart"

DavezWife

We're at the playground today, and there's two moms with 5-6 kids running around between the two of them.  Small talk, yappin....  and I asked if those super cute girlies were hers.

"Yes, they're twins 3 years apart."

Now I know from eavesdropping that she had some involvement in ART. (talk softer if you don't want people to hear) and I also know she probably means she did IVF & then a FET from the same batch.

But I kinda snorted a bit at the AW of her statement. Maybe I shouldn't have? Do others go around saying that? I just thought it was odd.

You should have seen her face when I walked away from commenting on that. Ahhhh snap!

AvaLikeLava

It's how I feel about G and this one. Except that when you look at the definition of "twin" it doesn't apply.

Instead I can say "My kids were conceived on the same day, but born 2 yrs apart". Let them scratch their heads at that one.

I heard the term "littermate". I like that one

laura&dan05

I think about that a lot now that we are considering doing a FET.  If we are lucky enough to get pg from the FET it will be Hannah's twin born a few years later. I'm not sure I'd go around advertising that on the playground but I do think it's kind of cool.

TakYelgif

Well technically she is correct but her statement has AW written all over it!

MBandBud

HA!  You should bring her matching shirts the next time you see her. 

epphd

Why is the AWing any more than any other statement about her kids? I think it's kinda cool that she's so open about it - the more people talk about ART the more "fertiles" will understand that it's (a) common and (b) not all about HOMs.

ladychicago

epphd:

Why is the AWing any more than any other statement about her kids? I think it's kinda cool that she's so open about it - the more people talk about ART the more "fertiles" will understand that it's (a) common and (b) not all about HOMs.

i totally agree.

rispergirl

Honestly, I think that's dumb.  They're not twins.  Not even a little.  Grow them in your belly at the same time and then they're twins.

JustaKidAtHeart

While I agree that we all should be more open to help erase the stigma for the varying degrees/lengths we had to go through.  I am very open about my trials and what I went through to get my boys.  While I was lucky enough to be able to get pregnant quickly once we got help.  It is an interesting concept "conceived on the same day but born years later".  The comment kinda bothers, me I dont know why, but it does.

artygirl

I was going to post something along the lines of epphd's response.  It sounds to me like it's just a clever way to let other people know about IF/IVF.  

Other aspects of her may have been annoying, but I don't find that in itself to be annoying   

Christakim

Her statement implies that you have to know something about ART, couldn't you have come to that conclusion without eavesdropping (not saying you shouldn't be eavesdropping, just saying that you would've known that anyway)?  It's very very weird that she would say that out loud to someone who may not know anything about IF.

DavezWife

oh I'm all for talking outloud about ART. No problem, and bring it on.

I guess if you would have sat there and listened to her like I was, this chic talked NON STOP about herself, and her body, and what she liked, and what she thought, and what she she she she... you get the idea. Maybe that's why I made the "AW" assimilation, because you could even tell by the tone on her friend's face that she was sick of listening to this chic yap about herself.

lol.

But I also think that if you're going to talk outloud about ART, then do it with full facts and be honest. Yes, they're "twins" but we all know that the average Joe on the park bench isn't going to quite get the technical details to this.

She also biched and moaned after any person stopped by to say how cute her girls were (they were cute) saying "man, can't I go anywhere without someone telling me how cute they are? I know they are! move on!"

We're heading back there tomorrow with a hidden camera. this gal's a peach ;-)

 

crystalgirl

DavezWife:

oh I'm all for talking outloud about ART. No problem, and bring it on.

I guess if you would have sat there and listened to her like I was, this chic talked NON STOP about herself, and her body, and what she liked, and what she thought, and what she she she she... you get the idea. Maybe that's why I made the "AW" assimilation, because you could even tell by the tone on her friend's face that she was sick of listening to this chic yap about herself.

lol.

But I also think that if you're going to talk outloud about ART, then do it with full facts and be honest. Yes, they're "twins" but we all know that the average Joe on the park bench isn't going to quite get the technical details to this.

She also biched and moaned after any person stopped by to say how cute her girls were (they were cute) saying "man, can't I go anywhere without someone telling me how cute they are? I know they are! move on!"

We're heading back there tomorrow with a hidden camera. this gal's a peach ;-)

 

Okay the "twin" thing was a little weird to me, but THAT is incredibly annoying.

Kim777

rispergirl:

Honestly, I think that's dumb.  They're not twins.  Not even a little.  Grow them in your belly at the same time and then they're twins.

I get what she is saying, but this is how I feel too. My grandmother says similar stuff about my boys being triplets and it embarrasses me - not because of the IF aspect. We are very open about that. I just have no idea what it is like to have triplets. I haven't dealt with the stress of a triplet pregnancy or raising triplet newborns...or toddlers...or teens! So I wouldn't make that comment.