oh, I messed up SO BADLY

cjsbdl

I had lunch last week with three former collegaues who have remained good friends. We get together about once every 4-6 weeks.

One of them is about 20 weeks pregnant with her second baby and was having her "big" ultrasound yesterday. We were all very excited to hear, and when we didn't hear from her yesterday I sent an email that said something like, "Well?!?!? We're all not so patiently waiting to hear boy or girl!" and everyone else chimed in with their guesses.

I got an email from her this morning that said the u/s did not go well and it looks like they will lose the baby.

$hit. $hit. $hit. I should've known her silence yesterday meant something bad. I even thought about it for a split second before I sent the email. WHY did I do that?? I feel so badly that she had to read all that when she must've been so devastated.

Ugh, I hate this. I'm heartbroken for her.

BoxTer

That's so sad. But don't beat yourself up about it. There was no way you could have known. I'm sure you will be there to support her now and that's what matters!

chocolatechip06

I'm sorry, I know you will be a support for your friend during this hard time.

Waiting4baby08

Ouch.  You didn't know.  But now that you do, how you react and speak to her will be much more important to her.  Hugs to your friend. 

dundasgirl

I agree. You are good friends and you being there for her now is much more important than your blunder.  Apologize and move foward.  How awful for her.

beebe929

Oh no that is terrible.  I am so sorry for your friend.

Don't beat yourself up.  We can't all be ultra-sensitive 24/7.

 

madhatter2003

I agree, don't beat yourself up...just be there for them now.