Interesting observation...chivalry

LisaK2b

So this weekend when I was running errands, there was a father and his son by the door and they were leaving and I was coming in.  Then I heard the dad mention to his son to keep the door open for me (then he says to him to always remember to open doors for ladies).  I thought it was pretty cool seeing chivalry being taught and passed onto the next generation!  I guess chivalry won't totally be dead once DDs get older...

lilygirl

So nice to see people still teaching their kids this.

I had to go through a storeroom with a guy I used to work with a couple of months ago - about 5.5 - 6 months pregnant. He did his part and left and said that boxes didn't seem too heavy; I should be OK. He has four kids; I can't imagine he would have been OK with someone doing that to his pregnant wife.

rayskit10

you know, i don't even consider it chivalry. i call it good manners. a woman should also hold the door open for another woman, esp one coming through with 2 children. i am amazed at the people who will stand there and watch me struggle with something while managing my 2 kids and not offer to help- and i mean like getting something off a high shelf at the supermarket when i have truitt in the cart and mathis in the sling.

anyway, it's very nice to see kids being taught manners. i hope my kids have 1/2 the manners and courtesy of their father. even then, it's more than most people

 

LisaK2b

While pushing a stroller with one hand and holding Emmy's hand in the other, I was trying to get into an elevator and the lady in there didn't even try to hold the doors open for us!  The elevator door almost closed on me while I was in the middle of it but luckily the sensor worked and opened it. 

Quizzle

LisaK2b:

While pushing a stroller with one hand and holding Emmy's hand in the other, I was trying to get into an elevator and the lady in there didn't even try to hold the doors open for us!  The elevator door almost closed on me while I was in the middle of it but luckily the sensor worked and opened it. 

 

Well... I can say that I never push the door open button on elevators. Of course the reason for this is I NEVER hit the right button. I always seem to hit door close, so I do more harm than good.... 

ayersfam20

I agree with it just being good manners.  That's great that the dad was teaching that to the little boy.  DH always opens the doors for us in the car, stores, etc and tells DD everytime he does "the boy should always open the door for the girl.  If there are no boys then you be the nice one to hold open the door for everyone."

Sometimes it is tough when people don't want your help.  There was a man in a motorized grocery cart the other day at HEB obviously struggling to put his groceries onto the belt to check out.  DD and I asked him very nicely if he would like us to help him put his groceries on there and he said very rudely "why would I need your help?!" and kept doing his thing.  I guess if I came across people like that I would be hesitiant to offer help to strangers all the time too.  

LisaK2b

I still think there are things that are consider chivalry (gentlemen like ) versus good manners (what everyone should do)...an example is at work, the men usually let all the women on and off the elevator first.  Sometimes it even goes overboard where a man would be in the very front of the elevator doors and when it opens, instead of just getting out, he'll scoot to the side and make everyone shuffle around a little... 

And I always keep the door somewhat open with one hand for others if they're behind me, but I normally do not open the door and let someone go first (unless they're disable or have kids or something heavy that they're carrying).   

darva

Quizzle:

LisaK2b:

While pushing a stroller with one hand and holding Emmy's hand in the other, I was trying to get into an elevator and the lady in there didn't even try to hold the doors open for us!  The elevator door almost closed on me while I was in the middle of it but luckily the sensor worked and opened it. 

 

Well... I can say that I never push the door open button on elevators. Of course the reason for this is I NEVER hit the right button. I always seem to hit door close, so I do more harm than good.... 

haha!  I do this too!  I always end up hitting the stupid door close button and yelling OMGOSH!  I'm sorry! lol 

I agree, just manners... I teach my girls this... Along with 'yes ma'am/sir and no ma'am/sir' etc.  It drives my DH CRAZY to hear kids talk to adults and address them by their first name and answer them with 'yeah'  So these are things that are continually 'pushed' on our girls.  We do not answer them or respond if they just say 'yeah' or whatever and they always always always have to address an adult with 'Miss or Mister' (so, Mr. Ray or Miss Viula hehe )  or if they are relatives, by "uncle brian" rather than just 'brian.'   

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That's great!!  It amazes me too that people have no manners these days. I've actually held a door open for someone while holding Aiden or trying to get his stroller through and not even received a thank you. And of course I've had people turn and look at me, see me trying to get a stroller through and let go of the door right on top of me. 

noyoucomehere

This is an interesting topic. Where many would consider this chilvalry or just good manners it wasn't so when I lived in CA. I remember when I moved there, I quickly noticed what I perceived as really rude men not holding doors open and such. I asked someone about it one day at work and they basically said that it's an equality thing. I shouldn't expect a man to hold a door open for me any more than I'd expect a woman to. And that's just how they do it in San Francisco.

I personally can't let a door close behind me without looking back. It's just how I was raised, but I can see as the women's rights movement continually evolves that our "manners" may evolve with it.