I Don't Wanna Go! Don't Make Me Go!

InACitySoNice

I'll try to make this short ... No promises.

I'm supposed to go visit family down in DC this week.  Like, today.  But I have to do it on my own.  This means, jump in a cab with 5 days' worth of stuff for me, and the two kids jammed into as few bags as possible, plus the stroller, the nebulizer, the medications, and what's left of my sanity.

The train's another nightmare.  DD #2 loves walking everywhere and will raise bloody h*ll if she's not allowed to, DD #1 loves public bathrooms and I have serious OCD when I'm in them and it stresses me out. 

Then getting down to my father's house ... not childproofed, no air purifier to mitigate the dust and spores, DC's in full spring bloom which brings with it all sorts of allergies for DD #1 and not having the purifier means more medication and if that doesn't work, a trip to the ER ...

And then, I think we'd have to take the train back to NYC with no help.

Is it worth it?  Do I stay here and send apologies for the second time in 3 weeks?  Do I go and hate every minute of it?  I just don't know what to do. I know DH wants me to go, but won't go with me because he doesn't want to be away from work for that long (yeah.  he's a brain surgeon, in high demand). 

I don't want to go.  I should go.  But I really, really don't want to.  It's not fun, it's a hard trip in the best of times (these are not the best of times), but I'll feel guilty if I don't.  HELP!!!  What would you do?

TheSkimmy

oh man. It sounds like you need to go and get it over with!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BOO!!! I'm sorry! I hope it's not as bad as you expect!

mrsolsenk12

Honestly if it was that much stress, I wouldn't go. Do you have someone else who can go with you? A friend or other relative? It sounds like you wouldn't enjoy yourself at all.

InACitySoNice

Darn it, Skimmy!  I thought I could count on you!! 

roaringrock

I wouldn't go. in this weather I won't even go out for milk!

the trip sounds too stressful for me. if you have great support at your destination then maybe I would reconsider. dh and I took ginny to the aquarium, out to lunch and then to the children's museum on saturday. it was brilliant but we were both FRIED by the end of the day. I cannot imagine handling 2 children all by myself.

TheSkimmy

InACitySoNice:

Darn it, Skimmy!  I thought I could count on you!! 

I know... but if you hadn't already cancelled I would think you could. Not sure how many times you can cancel without making your family upset. Ohhh an idea... could your dad come down and help you travel back up there??? Would that help? How long of a trip is it?

hannah&ben

I actually would not go, all pain in the a$$ aside, it's the allergies and threat of an ER trip that would keep me far far away.

I'd call my dad and tell him I love him a whole big bunch and we miss him like crazy but we just can't right now.  We need more help and to come at a time that's less awful for DD.

Is it an option to have them come to visit you soon?

DavezWife

they need to come see you. end of story.

What are you going to get out of going? Sure sounds like nothing but the need to drink. ;-)

tnkrbl21

That does NOT sound like fun at all!!  But (and this is a big but) if you're going to feel guilty about not going, you might as well go and get it over with.  Is there anyway that your parents could come pick you up?  I know that sounds weird, but maybe if the stress of getting there was taken away, you might be more inclined to go. 

InACitySoNice

Thanks, ladies ... You've all (with the exception of Skimmy, my conscience) made me feel a lot better.

My father is 86 and hates NY so having him come up here out of the question, unfortunately. I'm just so stressed out, and I'd rather spend the money that I'd use for the train on a carseat for a certain little someone who needs one.  Desperately.

No one from my family visits me.  They never have.  I'm always the one who has to travel.  I just feel bad that they haven't seen DD #2 since Christmas. 

Roaringrock -- I don't think you got the memo. The Children's Museum and the Aquarium are supposed to be visited on SEPARATE days.  Not the same day.  Ever.  Of course you were fried!  My Goodness!