My baby's initials will be A.S.S.

taraksohal

So my DH and I have been arguing for about two months over our baby's name, and the only one we both like starts with an A. Unfortunately, our baby has to have a certain middle name that has been in both of our families for over 4 hundred years (it's a cultural name). That middle name starts with an 'S'. So my child's initials will be ASS. It has taken so long to decide on the first name, and my DH doesn't seem to think the initials will be a big deal since we're not into initials or monogramming stuff, but I think my son will grow up and really resent our decision. My DH won't even let me add another middle name to have it spell something else. He's being so stubborn! It's really hard for us to find names, because we're trying to keep tradition alive and name our son an Indian name, and it's damn hard to find names that are easy to pronounce. Is my child going to hate me someday?

JulesDiane

I wouldn't do it.. Kids can be very mean.

jodi_foster

I would not do it.  To be honest, when I saw the title to your post I giggled.  I know how hard it must be to find an appropriate answer though!  Goodluck!

amy0105

It will be a big deal (I teach middle school) -- I remember a kid who had the initials "B.R.A." We were relentless...

DH and I decided on a name and realized the initials would be D.I.C. - we decided NOT to use it...

Don't do that to little one Unless you have a 4th name or something in there...honestly...

megwitt

Being a high school teacher I will tell you to try really hard to change your hubbys mind! Kids can be really really cruel!!

sweetmelodies&harmonies

taraksohal:

So my DH and I have been arguing for about two months over our baby's name, and the only one we both like starts with an A. Unfortunately, our baby has to have a certain middle name that has been in both of our families for over 4 hundred years (it's a cultural name). That middle name starts with an 'S'. So my child's initials will be ASS. It has taken so long to decide on the first name, and my DH doesn't seem to think the initials will be a big deal since we're not into initials or monogramming stuff, but I think my son will grow up and really resent our decision. My DH won't even let me add another middle name to have it spell something else. He's being so stubborn! It's really hard for us to find names, because we're trying to keep tradition alive and name our son an Indian name, and it's damn hard to find names that are easy to pronounce. Is my child going to hate me someday?

Maybe! I'd be pretty pissed that my parents knew my nickname would be "ass" for my entire life, and gave it to me anyway. 

Please try to get YH to reconsider! I like your idea of adding a mn (maybe your maiden name), at the very least. Otherwise, you just have to find another first name.

charlies-angel

I would not do that to my child

MorissaW

I would try to add another name in there. Kids can be VERY mean.

Estrayer1

I went to High School with a girl with the initials A.S.S.  No one let her live it down.  Actually, I just went away this past weekend for a Bachelorette Party and it was all girls I went to High School with and someone actually said, "I can't believe her parents named her that knowing her initials would be A.S.S.".  We graduated 9 years ago and someone was STILL talking about it. 

I wouldn't do it!

LaurelBee

Sorry, I agree with the other girls- don't do that to your son!  It might not be a big deal to your H now, but start calling him ASS and see if he likes it.  That might change his mind... 

What about using the middle name first and the first name in the middle?  SAS?

rlscheck

How about if the have to initial large documents like mortgage and loan documents?  I think we had to use all 3 initials for our mortgage.  I would feel really awkward if I had to write out A.S.S. on everything!

doremi29

Even after childhood- keep in mind resumes and stuff like that where a lot of people post first, middle initial, and last name....i think it would be a little awkward!

IceHockeyMama86

My initials were going to be A.S.S and I am disappointed that they aren't ! How the heck are other little kids going to make fun of your LO, kids don't run around telling everyone their middle names..

bronte1745

that was my deal breaker.... couldn't do that to a child. I remember writing out my initials in school so even if they don't mention what their middle name is the initials will be used more than you think.

lovinfall

I would consider adding another middle name to offset the A.S.S. issue. You husband needs to see the light and hopefully there is someone that can speak to him.  Adding a second mn does not diminish the family tradition.

 

ETA:  the 2nd  and 3rd sentence got cut off.

 

StephanieDM

I wouldn't do it either. For some reason, all I can think of is those LL Bean monogrammed backpacks that EVERYONE had when I was growing up... His would say A.S.S. Poor kid! Or a briefcase when he's a grown up. Or when he has to initial things... Not to mention the teasing he'll receive when he's young. I know it sounds silly now but it won't be when your kid comes home crying because all his classmates keep calling him "ASS".

I'd be really mad if my parents did that to me.

tlmommy2b:)

The honest truth is yes he will probably be really pissed. And yes kids are mean (I teach, I know). And as an adult he will be required to initial things...think about how many times you use your initials when you buy a house, car, rent or lease something...to have to use ASS would be horrible. Sorry but I would change the first name. 

tlmommy2b:)

IceHockeyMama86:

My initials were going to be A.S.S and I am disappointed that they aren't ! How the heck are other little kids going to make fun of your LO, kids don't run around telling everyone their middle names..

Yes, actually little kids (elementary) do go around telling middle names and such. And sometimes teachers and schools post full names with middle names included, so even if he didn't share it, it would most likely get out. I have been teaching for 10 years, so I am sure about this. 

 

amy0105

Could be fun for a monogrammed towel - my DH would like that

But, honestly, don't do it...every official document has the middle name printed on it...and kids do tell middle names...I loved mine because it has "ET" in it (Beth) I told everyone! 

FutureMECC

sweetmelodies&harmonies:

taraksohal:

So my DH and I have been arguing for about two months over our baby's name, and the only one we both like starts with an A. Unfortunately, our baby has to have a certain middle name that has been in both of our families for over 4 hundred years (it's a cultural name). That middle name starts with an 'S'. So my child's initials will be ASS. It has taken so long to decide on the first name, and my DH doesn't seem to think the initials will be a big deal since we're not into initials or monogramming stuff, but I think my son will grow up and really resent our decision. My DH won't even let me add another middle name to have it spell something else. He's being so stubborn! It's really hard for us to find names, because we're trying to keep tradition alive and name our son an Indian name, and it's damn hard to find names that are easy to pronounce. Is my child going to hate me someday?

Maybe! I'd be pretty pissed that my parents knew my nickname would be "ass" for my entire life, and gave it to me anyway. 

Please try to get YH to reconsider! I like your idea of adding a mn (maybe your maiden name), at the very least. Otherwise, you just have to find another first name.

This for sure!  I know a kid who was made fun of because his initials were ATM....like ATM machine.  That is all it took for him to be made fun of.

Can you spell the name a different way so it doesn't start with an A?

Jennicap

I remember growing up and spelling out your initals, I would never do it!

GroomzMcFinehiney

I agree that your kid will get made fun of over this.  She will probably survive it, though.  Everybody gets made fun of, and if you think you will ever find a name/outfit/car/job that will save your child from ever getting made fun of, you'd be delusional.  So don't let that deter you from using a name that is important to you.

But, there's no law that says you can't have 2 middle names.  So assuming the name is Amanda Susan Smith, you could always go Amanda Susan Jane Smith, so her initials would be ASJS.  Or whatever works with the names you actually have.

pom-mom

My DH and I were having a similar, but not as bad problem. The initials of the names he wants to use for our bub spell out LOL. I had to put my foot down and say "No way man" just because there is no need to make a kid's life any harder by giving them a name or names that will get them ridiculed. 

I grew up with a last name that opened me up to a lot of ridicule all through school and college. I couldn't wait to change it when I got married. But seeing as you are having a boy, there is no changing his name through marriage and he'll be stuck with A.S.S. for life. Put the foot down with DH! Then when your son is older you can laugh about it with him how he could have had the initials A.S.S. He'll thank you for looking out for him.

squishles10

We chose a different middle name since our LO initials would have been DAM.  The middle name we want now goes with a second name option, CAM.  I wouldn't do it, even if you both love the name.  I knew (and still know) most of my friends middle names- it gets out, even if you don't write it on everything.

JaZavitz

What about giving the baby a second middle name.

Then the baby's initials would be A.S.F.S (just an example)

If you really like the names, just go ahead with it, kids get teased for any and every reason.

felecia_hope

DON'T DO IT!! Yeah, I understand the cultural thing, but please, please, please don't do that to your kid. He will have a hard time, rest assured with his initials being A.S.S. How horrible!!

LoriZoo

Ahhh!  We were in the same boat!  I have wanted to name our baby (and will) Alexander or Alexandra since I was in high school...who knew I'd marry someone with the last name Sullivan?!  My husband was very clear he did not want the middle initial to start with S or A (A.A.S.)!  I would definitely consider a different first or middle name!

AdaraMarie

I would not want to have those initials

jacquelinethorne

I wouldn't do it. While you and your DH may not be initial people, kids think about that stuff. I remember talking about what peoples' initials spelled in grade school. Kids so easily find things to be mean to others about. Why give them fuel for the fire?

smashley2244

My first and middle initials are A.S., and I truly avoided starting any relationships with guys that had "S" last names. Luckily I didn't fall head over heels with anyone named Smith, so we're good. Seriously, don't do it. Either change the first name or add in another middle name.

rubiafaerie25

taraksohal:

So my DH and I have been arguing for about two months over our baby's name, and the only one we both like starts with an A. Unfortunately, our baby has to have a certain middle name that has been in both of our families for over 4 hundred years (it's a cultural name). That middle name starts with an 'S'. So my child's initials will be ASS. It has taken so long to decide on the first name, and my DH doesn't seem to think the initials will be a big deal since we're not into initials or monogramming stuff, but I think my son will grow up and really resent our decision. My DH won't even let me add another middle name to have it spell something else. He's being so stubborn! It's really hard for us to find names, because we're trying to keep tradition alive and name our son an Indian name, and it's damn hard to find names that are easy to pronounce. Is my child going to hate me someday?

My nieces' initials are A.S.S too.  Ashley Sara S.  I never heard her say anything about it or about anyone teasing her.  She's 14 now.  Only one I ever heard laugh about it is my DH.  And possibly a BIL or two.