Okay, can I go casual? Re: Funeral

SpeedGlenn

So Bif's grandmother passed away today.  They are doing "Family Visitation" tomorrow from 4:30-5.  Public Visitation on Sunday afternoon, and then the funeral is on Monday.

I've never done "family visitation" on a separate day from the public visitation.  Maybe it's a yankee thing to get them in the grave in a hurry?  Do you think I need 3 formal outfits or can I get away with a casual outfit for the family visitation on Saturday?

marryingacoach

First off, sorry to hear that. Losing someone no matter the age is difficult.  

How casual are you talking- jeans? no, khakis? yes. Well before I answer ...is it a church or the funeral home? I would say more dressy casual at church than the funeral home.

I assume the reason they are having a private family visitation is she has a large family and they want to give them ample time to say their goodbyes before the others.

ECUGirl2004

What do you mean by casual?

SpeedGlenn

I do mean jeans.  They're $100 fancy jeans though!

Evidently, one of the aunts wants it to get it over with as quickly as possible, so they're dragging it out over 3 days .  It's not an especially large family. It's just a private visitation for family only.

withoutshoes

It honestly depends on your family.  My IL's would go in jeans.  However, my family would die before they dressed casual for a funeral.  (different folks, different strokes...)

To be on the safe side, I would go in a casual dress/skirt.  

Sorry to hear about your loss!   

cmbrown

So sorry Speed.  You had said she wasn't doing well.  Sorry to Bif also.

I think you can do casual.  Every one I have went to was more casual.

SpeedGlenn

It turns out we don't really have to go to the family visitation and it sounds like we're not.  So, I'm off the hook with just 2 formal outfits.

ECUGirl2004

I would probably not wear jeans to the family visitation, but it would probably be okay to wear jeans since it's just family (depending on the family).  I would probably wear something like slacks and a blouse.

Oh, and I'm sorry about his grandmother.   

SpeedGlenn

Thanks for the condolences ladies.  She had really aggressive Alzheimers.  She hasn't been "here" for a lot of years.  While it's always sad to lose someone, I'm glad that she is finally at peace.

bobsbride2006

Sorry for your loss. Let me know if you need anything (we're off all this week)

shoeaholic0403

I'm so sorry for you loss.

When in doubt it's better to be over dressed than under dressed. Especially in the south.

I don't know that I've been to a family only visitation that was also allowing a public visitation.