Just a thought about avoiding pics with your kids...

Kitten80

until you lose more weight.  I saw this mentioned a couple times in at least one of the posts below regarding family photos.  I totally understand because I was very particular about pics DH took of me & DS and felt I looked huge in a lot of them.  Same thing with our family photos from the first 3 months.  So they aren't my favorites,

But...

Thought I would put it out there that 1. By our teen years my mom would complain that all the pics were of us & Dad because she was always taking the photo - and I can relate because its very much that way in our house.  More importantly, 2.  My mom died this summer.  I have very few photos of her, especially when she was young & newly married and even fewer of her and me together.  I wish there were more.  I wouldn't care how "fat" she looked or if it wasn't perfect.  I would just like to have pics of my mother who loved & raised me with me as a baby.

So, maybe take them - you can always re-take photos when you do lose weight!

blessed_wife

Bump gods should totally make a "thumbs up" option because you would for sure get it!

Well said!  And I'm sorry about your loss

NY-allie

poopteen

Totally agree! And besides, no 'after' picture looks as impressive without a 'before'!

JennifernKevin4ever

I agree with this. I am not happy about my weight, but I do want to be in pictures with my son. I take them anyways.

Sorry about your lose.

kit443

Cityplanner

I'm responding just to bump this. 

It's not weight in my case, but whenever DD is around, I feel not pulled together - hair in a ponytail, nothing fancier than yoga pants and a hoody, glasses on - and I often avoid pictures.  You totally gave me a kick in the can to get over that.   Thanks for the post. 

CalinsBride

ITA. Its not about looking perfect, its about being able to flip through an album and relive those moments.

And I'm sorry you lost your mother. That must be really hard.

deeanneharris

That is very good advice and really true. I wish I had more of me and my mom.

sophabelle

wow... this is something every new mom should read..... and you just gave me a kick in the rear that i needed.

thank you!!!  

DoubleDiamond

 I'm so sorry about your mom.  

EJDIII

hilanic

AND

I am so sorry you lost your mom! Reading your post brought tears to my eyes. Your experience and willing to share your thoughts has touched many.

I will now take pictures with abandon and stop putting off the professional family portraits! Thank you!

*KC*luvs*RJ*

ITA!!!

jolis_petits_bijoux

  And, I'm sorry about your mom.

changvoll

I totally agree with you! I am lucky to have pictures with my mom. I grew up with a mom who had cancer and never knew what was going to happen. Some of my favorites are the ones that we took together with my sister. I am blessed that she is still here, but I will ALWAYS cherish them! For me another important picture is the generational ones. My sister has some of her and mom and her girls and I have one of me, mom & Abby, I will always take advantage of those and one day hope to have all the girls in a picture so that all the grandchildren have them! I am also one who takes the bulk of the pictures and I have to ask for others to take them for me! I want my little girl to grow up knowing that we have tried our best to document her life through photos and video. Granted I am not the best at printing them out since they are all digital, but once she gets a little older then I will print out my favorites and scrapbook them for her. 

Kitten80

  Your all welcome & thank you everyone!  I am glad my thought & experience helped you ladies. 

Trust me, I am always asking DH why he never takes photos when I am dressed well or cute & waits til I have mis-matched PJs, a 2 day old ponytail, and am sweaty to take the photos, but what can I do?  Other than remind him when I am looking cute to get that darn camera out & document my "pulled together" moments as well. LOL.

Losing my mom has been very hard especially since having DS makes the things I always appreciated seem like amazing accomplishments now (just how did she get dinner on the table, have after school snacks made, clean the house, pay the bills, mow the lawn, and still make it to PTA?) .  There is so much I would like to tell her & ask her...give your moms hugs next time you see them.  I appreciate the kind words; I don't have much family left & they ALL live OOS and I rarely, if ever, hear from them.  I was THE family girl who gave up dreams to stay close to home during the divorce because I was always a family girl & didn't want to be far from them.  Ironic, they talked me out of moving when I graduated from Grad school then one or two at a time they all moved - to where I wanted to live. And I never hear from them.  Go figure!  So your thoughts are very appreciated.