WWPGALD?

mkoelker

Im going out to dinner with some of my really good friends tonight.  One of them was in my wedding and the other helped out with the wedding a lot.  I want to tell them about my LO, buts it's still early.  I know they will be there for me if anything happens, I just hate having to 'un-tell' people.  One of the girls got pregnant and placed her baby up for adoption when she was 18, so I also feel that it is a touchy subject with her (maybe?).  What would you guys do?

MrsDCruz

How does your DH feel about you telling people? My DH and I agreed not to tell anyone at all until 12 weeks so I just stuck with that plan.

mkoelker

he could go either way.  He already told his srg. at work, and i'm sure he has already opened his mouth.  

I just know when I don't order a drink they'll be all over me like stink on shiit

darkskyy

Depends why you want to tell.  Do they know about your past experiences? How would you feel about them knowing if something went wrong this time?

Every time I'm tempted to tell someone, and think I have a good reason, I realize that I don't want them to know about the past, and I wouldn't want to explain any problems. I still haven't told anyone at all.

mkoelker

They do know about the previous loss. They have always been very supportive.  I just get nervous.

xleslieraex

I placed a child for adoption when I was 19, not a touchy subject. I would tell, cause I have a big mouth. I learned with my last loss I will tell either way. I would talk about my losses, and most people didn't know I was even pregnant with the second loss.

Eviebee

I think if they are the type of friends you would tell about a loss, then I'd tell and hope for support and excitement to share. 

LemonLime10

I know what you mean about getting nervous. We told both of our immediate families when I was about 10 weeks. I planned on telling my best friend around then too, but every time I went to say it, I just couldn't. I didn't end up telling her until about a week ago. We are still waiting to 'tell the world'. I would say do whatever you are comfortable with. If you feel like saying it at dinner, go for it. If you can't bring yourself to spit it out, then you probably aren't ready. GL!

mkoelker

Thanks for your insight ladies! You are the best!

shall923

We told family and close friends right away. Our thought was why not share the happiness when you have the chance. We would have told if we had a loss so might as well share early and enjoy. Luckily we have continued to share the happiness. GL and enjoy your dinner.

OCIrishBruin

If they give you grief about not drinking I would tell them.  Otherwise, I wouldn't bring it up just yet unless you are 100% sure you would want them to know even if you weren't seeing them today. 

We told our close friends (a couple) last weekend because they immediately noticed when I ordered water at happy hour. 

mkoelker

My biggest thing is that they have a friend who didn't tell them she was pregnant.  They found out on FB about her LO.  Not b/c she had a previous loss, or anything of the sort, but b/c she said they didn't like her SO.  Her choice, I just don't want them to feel like I was doing the same thing.