I'm a little overwhelmed.

SnowflakeBaby2009

I'm a single Mom to my 11 week old little blessing! I just started a new job 2 weeks ago, which I LOVEEEE, but I'm starting to feel a litttttle bit stressed out. I get up with LO, take care of him all while trying to take care of myself, eat, get ready for work and get housework done. Then, before I know it it is time to leave when my Mom gets home. Then I work and get home at 930pm. Then I get to eat dinner while my Mom is still awake, and change my clothes. Then, I try to get LO ready for bedtime. For some reason, he has been extremely fussy and staying up as late as 2am the past week or so. I'm overwhelmed. I rarely get to have any time to actually enjoy and play with LO. I'm constantly on the go and doing something. Then, when I do get a break to play with LO or do something for myself, I have to do dishes/laundry/cleaning so I don't have to hear from my stepdad that 'taking care of a baby is easy and i do nothing all day'. Even though I'm doing everything, being a supermom, and working, its never enough.

On top of it, I've been very lonely. I am lucky enough to have off work Fridays and Saturdays, and only work till 1pm on Sunday mornings. So, I was seeing someone recently. We have been friends for over 6 years. We were in middle school together, and liked each other all throughout high school. He is the first man I've brought around Nathan and he adores him! Well, after we get close and I let him in he admits he has a fear of commitment. He has never been in love. He came close once and she betrayed him and cheated. So, once things started to get serious with us, he started to back away. He used to brighten my bad days. He knew that I had to work nights and was overwhelmed on bad days, so he would help me with LO. Also, if LO wasn't wanting to go to bed, and I was dead tired, he would keep me company on the phone until LO went to sleep. He made my workdays go by faster because I always had a call from him when I got off. I just miss that. I loved talking to him, especially since he loved LO. Whenever I wanted to see him, it was a joy rather than an inconveinence for me to bring Nathan with me. I guess it all happens for a reason. Maybe he'll realize that he needs to stop being so scared, or maybe he'll realize he misses me. I don't know. I am starting to think I'll be lonely for quite a while. Oh well. At least I have my LO.

Sorry. Vent over... for now

GLynn2009

It will get better I promise.........

ladyaylena

Hang in there!  You are doing a great job mommy!  We all felt overwhelmed at some point or another.  It is very hard as a single mom.  I took it one day at a time and found little things I could change that saved me time or made things easier.  As the PP said, it will get better! 

achase123

Definitely hang in there.  It CAN be overwhelming.  I think many of us can relate to everything you are going through. 

My thoughts on the guy are that it sounds like he unfortunately isn't ready to commit.  Don't wait around for someone to decide if they want to be a part of you and LO's life.  I am sorry that you were seeing him and he let you down-he obviously isn't deserving of you and LO.  This is why it is so hard to have a relationship when things are so fresh.  I also found out the hard way and realized that I couldn't go through feeling so disappointed after things didn't work out.  It was a harsh reality check that maybe I just wasn't ready.  And you are right, everything happens for a reason even though it may not seem like that at the time. 

mrgn

Being a mommy is a thankless job. Being single means 100% of the work falls on you. Just remember that you are doing the right thing for your LO. I think it is very hard to date while caring for a baby so young while they are so dependent on you. When I feel lonely, I just snuggle up on DD and tell her how much I love her. She usually smiles and I feel a whole lot better!

fauxshelley

mrgn:

Being a mommy is a thankless job. Being single means 100% of the work falls on you. Just remember that you are doing the right thing for your LO. I think it is very hard to date while caring for a baby so young while they are so dependent on you. When I feel lonely, I just snuggle up on DD and tell her how much I love her. She usually smiles and I feel a whole lot better!

Awww, I do this too.  I stay so busy, I rarely have time to realize I am lonely.  When my break up was fresh, I couldn't avoid thinking about it.  Time heals, and I have fallen into my new normal routine, kwim?   You will too and it will get easier.  Hang in there.

IceHockeyMama86

Aww =[ this actually sounds like what may happen in my home once my LO is here. I work 3rd shift and when I go back to work LO will be staying with her Dad, but I can see my Step-Dad being a total d*ck about things not getting done around the house. I sympathize with you girl, just keep your chin up and smile even when it feels like you can't! Things will get better, they always do!