sleeping arrangement help- LONG

doggylovr

Background: nursery is on a different floor than ourbedroom, NOT ideal but we live in a 2 bedroom house and we bought when it wassuper $$ so we aren?t going anywhere any time soon so we just have to deal withit.  DS is currently sleeping in our room,though we are ?planning? on putting him in the crib in the next few weeks or so,which is downstairs from our bedroom. 

MIL is coming to watch DS so I can go back to work inMay.  Here are the different sleepingarrangements I can come up with but want to know what you think may be the bestone. DS will be about 4.5 months when we start this and it will be for 5 weeks.

 

1.       option 1- Put DS back in the PNP upstairs in our room soMIL can sleep in the nursery on a bed. I don?t know how well kids go from thecrib to PNP and vise versa.

2.     option 2-   Keep DS in the crib and have DH and I sleepdownstairs in the office on an air mattress. (not in the same room as DS) andgive MIL our bedroom.

3.       option 3- Bring the crib upstairs to our room so he staysin the crib as opposed to the PNP but be in the same room as us.

Basically I am weighing if he can easily go back and forthbetween crib and PNP, being with us, not being with us. I have some time tothink about it but am beginning to stress over it?. Sorry so long

 

Thanks for the help ladies!!!

eeclem

How long is MIL staying with you? If there's room enough for an air mattress in the office, why don't you just put a bed in there for her?

 

eta - I see you said five weeks. I would try to turn your office into a reasonable guest room for that amount of time. 

claraj

Is your MIL coming to stay permanently (ie, she is going to be your daycare?) I agree with eeclem, if she's there for the long-term, turn your office into her room/office.

If it's just a short-term thing, I think your baby will be fine moving to a PnP for a few days and give MIL the baby's room.

doggylovr

it will be for 5 weeks...the reason we wont put MIL in the office is that it is not really an office:(.  It is supposed to be a 2nd family room so there are no doors to the room, and the stairs to go both upstairs and downstairs go right through it...so every day in the morning, DH and I, and the dogs will have to go past her and so there is no privacy whatsoever....

 very weird that we live in a small TH and there is a living room and a family room but only 2 bedrooms

i know its not ideal at all:( 

Sofka

I don't know about your son, but my DD took a long to adjust to new routines so I would not keep switching him b/w PnP and crib and then back again, only to change again in 5 weeks. If he's in a PnP in your room now, why don't you just keep it that way until after MIL leaves? He'll have enough of a routine change with a new person taking care of him w/out changing up his sleeping arrangements too, IMO. For us, continuity of routine is very impt

ETA: if those are the only options, I'd go with #2 so that he's used to sleeping in his own room in his crib and there is as little change as possible to his routine (after you move him from PnP to crib)

vtkgirl77

I personally would not give up my bed for MIL for 5 weeks. I think having a guest for that long is stressful enough and so I would definitely keep my own bedroom. Either put her in the office or the baby's room.

As far as moving the kid around, I think it's probably good for him to learn to sleep in different places. DD sleeps in her crib at home, the crib at daycare, and the PNP at grandmas. I like it that she can sleep in different environments. So, I wouldn't view that as a negative thing. That's just my two cents.

ETA: I just saw the other post about not moving the kid around. I guess I have to caveat my statement with the fact that DD is a good sleeper. If she weren't a good sleeper, I'd probably have a different view of things. But letting her sleep in different environments has worked well for us.

doggylovr

vtkendra:

I personally would not give up my bed for MIL for 5 weeks. I think having a guest for that long is stressful enough and so I would definitely keep my own bedroom. Either put her in the office or the baby's room.

As far as moving the kid around, I think it's probably good for him to learn to sleep in different places. DD sleeps in her crib at home, the crib at daycare, and the PNP at grandmas. I like it that she can sleep in different environments. So, I wouldn't view that as a negative thing. That's just my two cents.

 

thats true..i never thought of the flexibility as a positive:-) 

Sofka

as a comment to VTKendra's post - I think it's different for a baby to sleep in different places not at home vs. within the home, my DD also sleeps in a different place at my Mom's and will sleep on a mat at daycare (god, I hope she sleeps). I meant that at home - I prefer for her to sleep in one place. But as she said, it depends on the baby. To this day, ours is a horrible napper. And she was a horrible sleeper until well past her 1st b-day.

tomandcourt

eeclem:

How long is MIL staying with you? If there's room enough for an air mattress in the office, why don't you just put a bed in there for her?

 

eta - I see you said five weeks. I would try to turn your office into a reasonable guest room for that amount of time. 

My thoughts exactly. I would see the office as a potential third bedroom in this situation - even if it's just a single mattress or something, at least you would all be in your own rooms, with less disruption for your LO.

ETA: Just saw that this isn't exactly "private." Ugh. But still - I get that MIL is doing you a favor by helping out and watching your LO, but five weeks is a long time. What be acceptable to you, as a new mom on little sleep, for that long? Maybe being on the same floor as your LO will be good while he's transitioning to the crib?

Artslvr

Knowing your MIL is coming, why move him out of your room at all?  Why not wait until she leaves?  I saw you put "planning" in quotes, I take it that means that plans can change?

That way she has her own room (the nursery) and you have your own room, and baby stays put.

 

Hey Jellisy

Artslvr:

Knowing your MIL is coming, why move him out of your room at all?  Why not wait until she leaves?  I saw you put "planning" in quotes, I take it that means that plans can change?

That way she has her own room (the nursery) and you have your own room, and baby stays put.

 

My thoughts exactly.  If you want the LO to get used to the crib, I would move the crib to your room now and transition from the Pack and Play to the crib.  That would also give your mom more room in the second bedroom.  5 weeks is a long time to be in someone else's home and giving your mom her own space would make that go a lot smoother.   

doggylovr

thanks ladies:-) maybe we will put the crib in our room, our room is huge..only big room in the house and then transition to his room in the summer. thanks

Artslvr

doggylovr:

thanks ladies:-) maybe we will put the crib in our room, our room is huge..only big room in the house and then transition to his room in the summer. thanks

Yes!  Esp. if you have a big bedroom.  (I know for us, there is no way a full size crib would fit in our tiny bedroom with our king size bed).  Good solution!