- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
Austin Babies
Setting the record straight
I debated for a long time about whether or not posting this would make matters better or worse. In my mind, when someone says something about me that is completely untrue, my first reaction is to ignore them and not give any clout to what they said. But I cannot stand by and allow my name and my husband's name to be slung through the mud, especially when there are incorrect assumptions going on about what happened. So I'm going to attempt to tell "my side" of the story.
#1. I asked MC to delete the posts that either had my screename mentioned, or posted inflamatory things about me. I'm more than happy to own up to that.
#2. OF COURSE I told my DH what was going on with ** and her DH. We both know them and have known them off the board and unrelated to the board for a long time. It is absolutely not wrong for me to mention something TO MY HUSBAND with whom I share everything about someone we both know.
#3 I had no knowledge of my husband's text message to **l's husband until now. My DH simply sent ONE text message that read "hey, what's up dude?" to her DH, then a second text stating who he was just in case her DH did not have his name stored in his phone any longer. When I questioned my DH about this he says he had absolutely no ill intentions, he just wanted to connect with an old friend to make sure he was okay. There is nothing wrong with that. And it is certainly out of liine for ME to be blamed for something I had absolutely no control over.
#4. The suggestion that I have been spreading information about ** to "other people" is 100% untrue. I do not know where that came from, and all I can say is that I have never and would never spread rumors about her or anyone else. She and I have had our differences in the past that are totally unrelated to this board or her IF struggles. However, I have SEVERAL times emailed her offline in attemps to just let her know that I wish her nothing but the best. And I truly, truly do. I have prayed for her and thought about her, and I would not wish what she has gone through on anyone.
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Setting the record straight
The Blog
Your guess is as good as mine.
Sending you a hug because I think you AND *** probably need one. And seeing as how this post has been viewed eighty times already with no comment, I figured you could probably doubly use one.
This. 100%
Thank you for sharing your side of the story; it was big of you to do when the easiest thing is to let rumors pass.
I still think there are two whole sides to every story, and nobody but the involved parties knows the truth. (and rumors will get us nowhere.
)
I am sad we lost a nestie to off-the-board drama. I hope all parties are confident in their actions at the end of the day, and that the rest of us can move forward somewhat drama-free.
Thank you for your perspective. Every story can be seen from many sides. *** post sounded very hurt and angry. It was hard to know what was really happening, particularly in the wake of the trauma she's already dealing with.
I hope that you and she can discuss this and work out your feelings. It was shocking to see her GBCN.
I want to apologize for my own part in fanning flames. I am glad that you chose to give your story.
Ditto.
ditto
If your husband is anything like my husband he is always trying to 'be there' and support others. If I knew something about our friends I would tell my dh too. We are very close like that, and share everything. I'm sorry it turned into something much worse. *hugs*
ditto.
What a sucky situation to find yourself in today! I think you've handled it gracefully, and I don't think it's anyone's business but yours and name removed's. But thanks for sharing your story. (((hugs)))
This. I truly hope you two can settle your differences and that she is able to return to this board for support.
i'm sorry you feel that people who dont even know you are spreading rumors about you. certainly not the first time on this board and truly it just makes me disappointed in women and our lack of loyalty for each other at times.
hang in there girl- i totally understand wanting to clear it up! i hope this helps
One last thing, then I'm done giving this issue fodder.
Thank you for what you said. I really wish that it could have been just an offline issue between me and the person(s) involved, which is why I do not discuss things like this online. But unfortunately it becomes public domain when you post it on a public message board, and for me, that can affect my business. It's one thing to have personal drama with someone and just let it be a private issue; it's another thing when my livelyhood is possibly being affected by something that I should have been approached about privately. I realize that not everyone will agree with me on that, but I had to put that out there.
I've been staying out of the entire thing b/c quite frankly it was gossip and I didn't want to partake. My initial thoughts were we didn't know what the text said, we didn't know what the person said to their DH, we don't know what exactly even happened between *** and her H from the text and it was a lot of flame throwing with a very high lack of information.
I think you did the right thing posting your explanation and frankly I think everyone needs to calm down.
Ditto. Not a good time for me to be poking in I guess. The first time was last week and now today. I have no idea what's going on, but hugs to both of you.