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AFWife1229

I would post this on the military spouse board...but I think I'd be eaten alive. Sometimes being a officer's wife sucks! I mean I'm sure it's not as bad when you're older, but I'm 23 and a Captain's wife, that's not typical. They have all these groups, like Officer's Spouse Club, which would be awesome to join...but I'm not middle aged! Every other wife I've met is probable 10 years older than me. Also, I can't stand it when people assume that because DH is an officer that we're made of money. Yes, they make more...but come on, it's the military, we're not millionaires! When I was working in retail a year or so ago, people would ask what my DH did and I would tell them and I would immediately hear..."Why are you working then?" It drove me crazy! We just moved to a new base too and it's smaller so I was excited that maybe we'd meet more people and it be more close-knit. Well...DH's new office has a major and another captain and himself, the rest are enlisted. By the end of the year...my DH will be the only officer left. This wouldn't be a problem except the military's dumb rules of officer's aren't supposed to hang out with enlisted outside of work I guess. It's stupid. Ugh...vent over.

AFWife1229

agis:

There are no rules about spouses of officers and those of enlisted men - you should join one of the exercise classes or something like that on base.  There were actually a lot of wives there and no one asked about the husbands.  You should also try to make friends with your neighbors if you do live on base - they should be the same rank (that's how it works on posts).  I would try and meet people out of the military at the kid things around your town.

See, I kind of wish we did live on base for that reason, but we don't. DH doesn't think it's worth it to give up the BAH for it. The neighborhood we just left would've been perfect now with a LO, but of course we moved and now live in a subdivision in Missouri where everyone has 5+ acres...so not real neighborly. Lol

grapeape73

Umm. 10 years older than you isn't middle aged.  Now I'm depressed.

AFWife1229

grapeape73:

Umm. 10 years older than you isn't middle aged.  Now I'm depressed.

I know...I didn't mean they were all middle-aged. It's just weird to hang out with people who are closer in age to my mom than me. Granted...my mom is abnormaly young. Lol

kattyleigh

Aw, hang in there sweetie.  I actually used to be an Air Force Officer myself...I've been wanting to tell you that for awhile.  I did my four years and seperated as a Captain.  I've never been on the spouse side, but I do know how lonely it can be living in an unknown place and having to make new friends, etc.  I used to be very active at the gym/fitness classes like a pp said.  Also, look into the Officer's Spouses Clubs.  I know there has to be a ton of activities for moms and babies.  That is the awesome thing about being in the military, there are so many opportunities to get out and about with other people.  I truly miss that.  Maybe go to the base community center and check out offerings or look on bulletin boards.  PM me if you want to discuss anything else okay.