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Bad reception at work?

staceb_1staceb_1
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I just wondered if anyone else had a rude awakening when they returned to work. I've been talking to another friend who just had her baby, and we both feel really resented and alienated by our colleagues now that we're back to work. She's already found another job to move to, and I'm thinking about looking.

I only took 8 weeks instead of 12, but it seems like everything that happened while I was gone was my fault, even though I had everything perfectly in place before I left. I wrote an 11 page manual for my replacement and trained her for three days! Everyone seemed to love that I was pregnant and they were super nice, but now they seem to resent my leave and completely not comprehend my current situation / lack of sleep.

My boss told me that he can't legally tell me not to have more kids, but that "it would be nice" if I didn't for a while. A coworker keeps asking me why I don't just use formula (the logistics of pumping are keeping me from pulling the on-the-cuff 13 hour days they keep trying to throw at me all of a sudden - my schedule was very fixed in the 3 years before leave, so why now? ). 

 Is anyone else having a really bad time going back to work?

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Re: Bad reception at work?

  • vmm0016vmm0016
    People expect you to be like things were before the baby and that is no longer the, for me anyway.  Baby comes first not work.
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  • jmrussell03jmrussell03

    I took 6.5 weeks and all I keep hearing is "WOW! You are back early!" Mind you, I was put off work at 28 weeks for PIH so I haven't worked in 16 weeks. Plus, STD only covered 6 weeks! So, why is it so bad that I am back!

    You need to re-assess your situation. Do you love your job? Do you think you would be happier if you went somewhere else that accepted your new limitations as a mom?

    Work is work. It is not a constant. I doubt you plan on spending the next 30 years there. Your happiness is most important. Happy mom= Happy baby 

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  • staceb_1staceb_1
    imagejmrussell03:

    I took 6.5 weeks and all I keep hearing is "WOW! You are back early!"

    6 weeks? I still felt awful at 6 weeks. You have earned endless respect from me.

    Maybe I'm just being sleep-deprived and jumpy. I used to love my job and this constant unease is making me reassess a lot of things. I should probably wait until DS STTN and I get real sleep to make such a big decision. It's just painful right now.

     BTW your son is adorable and that expression is so cute.

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