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Wedding WWYD

TwoChickensTwoChickens
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I'm invited to a few weddings this spring/summer.

The invitations have all been addressed to me and "guest".

Often times, we don't RSVP because...well....its just not typically done in the south.  So...whether I go or not doesn't impact anything.

However....if the invitation was addressed to me and "guest", am I sort of expected to bring a date?  Because then....it brings up a whole other issue.

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  • lilpigletlilpiglet
    I don't think you are expected to bring a date, I would think they are just giving yout he option, that if you want to bring a date, then you can.
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  • emilykristene2006emilykristene2006 member
    I think they are just allowing you to bring a guest. Can you just bring a girlfriend? Or, go by yourself?
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  • bugmommybugmommy
    imageTwoChickens:

    Often times, we don't RSVP because...well....its just not typically done in the south.  So...whether I go or not doesn't impact anything.

    I was born in Charleston and know about 50 Junior League ladies that would faint if you told them that.

     You are being offered the opportunity to bring a guest.  You are not required to do so.

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  • jettagurljettagurl member

    IMO, if there is an RSVP sent, you should be RSVPing regardless of where you live.  Why would someone spend money on printing/sending RSVPs (and return postage) and not expect it back? 

    On to your real question...I don't think they expect you to bring someone, but that you are welcome to do so, and to RSVP whichever way you choose.

     

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  • TwoChickensTwoChickens

    lol bugmommy!

     

    I know the owners of the venue...and I know their prices for food...so my presence won't make a difference.

     

    And yeah...I'm thinking about going alone...the groom is HOUNDING me "You're coming, right?!" every time I see him...lol.

    I just don't know if that's a bad sign, going to a wedding alone.

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  • lizlemon77lizlemon77

    I know I could never live in the south because having people not RSVP would drive me insane!!! 

    I think they are being nice by allowing you to bring a guest but I don't think they expect you to.  I would bring a date if I was already seeing someone, but I wouldn't hunt one down or bring a girlfriend, especially if I'm going to know other people at the wedding.  Why should they pay for a meal for your random girlfriend?  When DH and I got married I really wanted to be surounded by my friends and family and people that I knew.  Strangers had no business there!

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  • TwoChickensTwoChickens
    jettagurl, there was no RSVP card sent.  Just a simple invitation.
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  • jettagurljettagurl member

    imageTwoChickens:
    jettagurl, there was no RSVP card sent.  Just a simple invitation.

    ah....so it's not even requested to RSVP.  Then I understand why you wouldn't.  

    That's exactly why I don't put on invites I send out for the kids' parties....I don't want the hassle/headache of dealing with RSVPs.  But I'd never seen a a wedding one without (and I think the other ladies here assumed an RSVP was sent as well).  

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  • Muffins_MomMuffins_Mom member
    My very southern grandmother would spin in her grave about your no-rsvp comment. :) BUT if there's no way for you to rsvp (no card) then you can't be expected to rsvp.
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