shower

rgkw

Hi Ladies, 

 I have a 4 year old DS and have gotten rid of all of our baby stuff in the last few years. I was wondering if having another baby shower is bad in bad taste or is it ok? Any suggestions?   

danolitafawn

I have always heard that second showers are no no's..but I have been to a few and I don't really see a problem since most of the people that came would have given the same gifts whether there was a party or not..It really depends on how you, your family, and your friends feel about a second shower.

Nurse_D

We give each other showers ( my friends) just to help each other out. For second babies, most had a girl after having a boy the first time, or vise versa. Then third babies we just decided to do card showers and give them gift cards. We are all very close, so it's just something we do for each other.

 

 

 

hollowstar

Have one and provide lots of food and make it a good time so it is obviously not JUST about gifts, maybe make gift bags for guests and their children. Register for items but make sure it's only what you absolutely need. You can also add on the invitation that you accept hand-me-downs and other secondhand items. I think it's in good taste as long as you're honest with guests. I agree with Nurse_D that it shouldn't be an issue at all for close friends and fam. Let friends know you're happy to throw them a second baby shower should they need it.

kjg5445

piecesofflare:

This isn't really up to.  You don't throw your own shower.  If someone wants to give you one, they will, but I don't think you can expect big ticket items for your second.

this is what i was thinking. are you throwing your OWN shower?  i didnt consider having a shower for this one (although my children will be 7 years apart!) and had not mentioned anything about it and my aunt brought up she wanted to throw us one.  i dont think its tacky depending how far apart your kids are and perhaps the gender of the children. i duno everyone is different.

HorseyMama08

My husband and I were discussing this at our DO yesterday. He was disappointed when I told him we wouldn't have a shower with this baby. Our kids are only 2 years apart so I feel like that's too close together to have a shower. We have talked to family though and I have a feeling if we find out we're having a girl MIL won't be able to resist throwing us a shower. We will need some more things with a girl than a boy so I can understand registering for necessities with different genders. Most of my sons clothes are very boy... and it would be hard financially to buy everything on our own if we have a girl.

paigel716

I don't think it's a problem seeing as how far apart the two children. I could see it being a "no-no" if the kids were like 18 months apart.

 Besides, I am down for a Double Baby Shower, the more guests the merrier.

wife1014

HorseyMama08:

My husband and I were discussing this at our DO yesterday. He was disappointed when I told him we wouldn't have a shower with this baby. Our kids are only 2 years apart so I feel like that's too close together to have a shower. We have talked to family though and I have a feeling if we find out we're having a girl MIL won't be able to resist throwing us a shower. We will need some more things with a girl than a boy so I can understand registering for necessities with different genders. Most of my sons clothes are very boy... and it would be hard financially to buy everything on our own if we have a girl.

um, really... If your children are two yrs apart there is no way you should be having another shower.  If anyone in my family wanted to throw me a shower, I would politely decline.  If I were invited to a shower for a family member/friend after just attending one two years prior there is no way I would go.  I find this in very poor taste.  Now, if a group of my closest friends, my mom, MIL, sis wanted to take me out for lunch to celebrate that would be a nice and acceptable gesture.  BIG difference!

To OP, you do not decide whether a shower is thrown for you.  Personally, at 4 yrs apart I wouldn't want another, nor would I register.  It's all just poor taste.

Having a second child costs just the same as having a first.  I cannot imagine knowing this, not being able to afford it, and continuing with getting pregnant.