Would you RE-circumsize?

m_and_m

If you had your baby boy (real, in your belly, or hypothetical) circ'ed at birth but the standard amount of foreskin was not removed, would you have it done again? Assuming it is not causing any medical issues now or in the future, and knowing that you would have to put him under general anesthesia because of his age (toddler, not infant).

FWIW, my brother is partially circ'ed and neither of his wives had any idea it was any different than someone who was fully snipped. And believe me, the first one has seen more than enough penii to know the difference. .

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MrsHoyt

Nah.  I've seen a few (in anatomy class, duh) and none of them look alike.  They are all special snowflakes.

MrsRegis

"special snowflakes". Made me laugh out loud!

Taytee

**giggles** penii

I voted the "only if" option because if it were obvious while still in the hospital it was done wrong, I might let them "fix" it. But after the fact, not a fan. In fact, I probably should have voted no. Can I get a mulligan!?

brideonjuly8

if it didn't look any different, wasn't causing any pain and would have no effect on sex, health, or anything else, then no. 

shanwalk2

I'm still undecided on this whole subject... so I guess hypothetically "if" I had decided to do it once, I'd probably only let them get a re-do if he was an infant.

mcurban

tommy needed to be re-snipped due to an adhesion. i wouldn't call it re-circ'ed b/c it was literally about 3 mm of skin that had gotten stuck. we were at the urologist having his kidneys checked - he was ~2 mos old. they threw some numbing cream on there, waited a couple minutes and he was (seriously) none the wiser. just looked at me and cooed the whole time. this was during a time in his life when he had the smelliest farts in the world. he farted on the dr. and i was horribly embarassed. his farts were 'everyone clear the room' bad.

i digress. 

after the urologist fixing tommy's adhesion, i started worrying that jack's had adheared, too. just like hoyt said, they're all special lookin', and as much as i love me some penis, i'm no expert. but jon and i talked about it and figured, if we couldn't immediately tell that something was wrong (just like we didn't notice w/ tommy) then there was no need to sedate him to have it 'fixed.'

long story short, i voted "only if he's still a baby"

mcgee

We didn't circ at all, and I'm pretty opposed to it, but if I'd let DS be circ'd and they didn't remove "enough", no freaking way would I let them go back and take off more of his penis.

kiarox2002

I didn't vote because we wouldn't have circumcised in the first place.

BoxerMomma

kiarox2002:

I didn't vote because we wouldn't have circumcised in the first place.

me too. DH might not agree with me, but i'll fight that fight if and when i need to. i love the shirts that say "if god wanted you to have foreskin, you would have been born with it." craaacks me up. 

BubbleToes

mcgee:

We didn't circ at all, and I'm pretty opposed to it, but if I'd let DS be circ'd and they didn't remove "enough", no freaking way would I let them go back and take off more of his penis.

This. 100%

libbyann

I voted maybe. There's a whole lot of "ifs" in the situation that would have to be considered. More than likely, though, if it wasn't causing an issue we wouldn't do anything about it.

We had a situation like mc - a tiny part of Will's had re-adhered, the pedi put some numbing cream on it, and was able to pull it away rather than snipping. He had no clue it was going on and even though it was more a "cosmetic" fix, I'm glad it was able to be done while he was just a couple months old and had no clue what was going on.

CollieJade

i'm in the no circ at all category, so i voted no.

cia

mcurban:

this was during a time in his life when he had the smelliest farts in the world. he farted on the dr. and i was horribly embarassed. his farts were 'everyone clear the room' bad.

 

I still maintain that Tommy has (or had) nothing on my DH in this regard. 

mcurban

cia:

mcurban:

this was during a time in his life when he had the smelliest farts in the world. he farted on the dr. and i was horribly embarassed. his farts were 'everyone clear the room' bad.

 

I still maintain that Tommy has (or had) nothing on my DH in this regard. 

dude, if your dh's smelled as bad as tommy's, you wouldn't have married him. 

but, tommy's wicked gas went away, so yeah, your husband wins...for now. 

mcgee

cia:

mcurban:

this was during a time in his life when he had the smelliest farts in the world. he farted on the dr. and i was horribly embarassed. his farts were 'everyone clear the room' bad.

 

I still maintain that Tommy has (or had) nothing on my DH in this regard. 

I don't know.... neither one of you were around Alex in the first two weeks or so of his life. It was amazing the smells that came out of that poor baby! I mean, he farted once when my mom was holding him, and she started coughing and finally yelled "Come get him, I can't breathe!"

mcgee

BoxerMomma:

kiarox2002:

I didn't vote because we wouldn't have circumcised in the first place.

me too. DH might not agree with me, but i'll fight that fight if and when i need to. i love the shirts that say "if god wanted you to have foreskin, you would have been born with it." craaacks me up. 

I really want to get the one for Alex with Yoda on it that says "May the foreskin be with you."  Mike would probably flip out.

JezcaM

i said no because there's no way i'd do it a second time, much less initially. we didn't circumcise our daughter, either.

MrsAJL

We would not re-circumcise if the only reason to do so was aesthetics.  Ben's circumcision was a conservative one as they typically are in a bris. Only enough foreskin is removed to satisfy the religious requirement.

However, Ben had a trapped penis (lots of adhesions around the head). Since he had to have surgery to reposition an ectopic testicle anyway , his urologist took care of the adhesions. So in a way, his surgery did make things look better.

I guess my point is that we wouldn't have circed if we didn't feel it was an important thing for us religiously and had we not circed, we probably would not have encountered the adhesions and trapping.

I'm kind of just rambling now...

libbyann

JezcaM:

i said no because there's no way i'd do it a second time, much less initially. we didn't circumcise our daughter, either.

Not trying to start something here, I promise. 

But female circumcision is waaaaayyy different than male circumcision. Just sayin'.

Taytee

libbyann:

JezcaM:

i said no because there's no way i'd do it a second time, much less initially. we didn't circumcise our daughter, either.

Not trying to start something here, I promise. 

But female circumcision is waaaaayyy different than male circumcision. Just sayin'.

I'll not got there either but... Ditto.

ali-1411

They have a new technology for circumcision.  They put a little plastic ball thing on the penis and it falls off after a few days.  No pain, less risk of infection.  I read an article on how they are using it more and more in Africa because circ'd boys have less chance of contracting HIV. 

I would use the little ball thing to fix a circumcision.  I wouldn't have a toddler sedated to fix it.

m_and_m

FTR, I am not in favour of cosmetic circumcision. But I didn't want to make this a pro/con debate (I think we've all seen how those turn out... ).

Because I would not choose to circ any sons I may have, I would definitely not choose to do it a second time if I lose that fight with DH (and whether or not it will EVER come up is a huge what if). 

I do know a little boy who's parents feel that his circ was botched, based on not enough skin being removed. They seem to be embarrassed about it, even, and have isses with him ever being naked. They've seen several Dr's about this and have finally found one who rec'd they have it redone. I think this is the 4th or 5th Dr they've consulted. Personally, I think it is ridiculous to put an 18mo toddler under general anesthesia for something so minor, especially when taking too much can cause problems later in life but taking too little does not (or at least, in the case of adhesions, can be fixed if it is truly necessary). His parents have spoken to me about it at length, and I do know that there are no medical issues being caused by this "excessive" foreskin.

So I was basically wondering if my thoughts on not redoing it were mainly because I would not shoose to do it in the first place, or if other pro-circ moms feel the same.

*The hardest part is keeping my mouth shut when they discuss it with me. Not my child, not my decision, and I already told them my thoughts when they asked. But we all know I have strong feelings on pretty much all things parenting related.