Did anyone give birth alone with just the Drs and nurses?

wildfloweragain

This is going to be a possibility for me.  DH may not be able to be there.  He probably WON'T be there for the beginning and I have someone to bring me to the hospital.  As I'm thinking of who else could go with me, I sort of just feel okay with the nurses.  They are awesome for the most part.  But they wouldn't be able to stay with me the whole time, right?  Would I be totally alone some of the time?

josie402

DH was there with me, but the nurses were in and out the whole time.  They just stopped in once an hour or so to check on things (I was induced).   Once it was time to push, they were obviously there, but you'd probably be on your own for the most part through the labor.  Good luck with your decision!

jettagurl

I'd have someone there....the nurses aren't in there the whole time you are laboring, so I'd want to have someone with me.  For me, I'd probably have my BFF.  My mom/stepmom both would drive me bonkers and I don't have a sister.  

And sorry if this is too personal, but why won't/can't DH be there?  

JOEBunny

I am pretty independent, but I would never give birth alone.  You need a sane, pain free person there for you.  I would hire a duala or someone if I did not have a friend who could make it.   Both times, the doctors/nurse were about to walk out of the room and DH sugested that I needed to be checked because it had been a long time (I was fine with letting them go), both times, the baby was almost out when they checked me.  He was also there if something had not gone well.  You don't want to do this alone.

I had a friend drive myself and DD to the hospital.  She stayed with me and helped with DD (who was in the room with me) until DH came.

goodheartedmommy

IMO, you need a support person--do you have a friend, sister, etc? I can't imagine doing it all alone.

Ashley&Bryan

I would hire a doula for sure.  Just so you have someone you can trust there with you until your DH can get there.  Not like you don't know what's going to happen or anything, but what if you need a c-section and you need someone to talk it over with?  GL! & CONGRATS!!

veloelle

I'd have my sister there. If not my sister, then I'd hire someone I know that is/was going through doula training. The nurses would go hours w/out checking on me, which was what we wanted. I wouldn't have wanted to be alone, in labor, for hours at a time.

wildfloweragain

DH was laid off by our city and just got a job with another city (fireman.)  So he has to go tot the training again which is 17 wks long.  And you don't get any days off your first year.  This is what wanted, so we knew this may be coming.

MelandJeff

I find it incredibly hard to believe that they wouldnt make an exception for his wife having a baby!?!?!?!??!

wildfloweragain

I planned to ask a woman who was my daycare provider growing up, close family friend, and also is a birthing instructor at my hospital if I could hire her as a doula. I haven't been able to reach her, though, and I know she teaches during the day so I'm starting to realize that may not be as big a possibility as I thought. I'm totally comfortable with her.  Maybe she can recommend someone.

wildfloweragain

Possible that they would let him go, but getting a hold of him and getting him here in time may be an issue.  I was a total of 4.5 hours with DS.  I'm trying to think of different scenarios and what I would do.  Also possible that I deliver on a Friday night and he's here.  Or that I go early and he hasn't gone yet.

jorie

That's a tough situation...I'm sorry:(  I know this might not be popular with everyone, but I'd probably ask my dr if she'd be okay with inducing me early so DH could be there.