Why don't people RSVP?

JOEBunny

I know it is my fault.  DS's 1st birthday is Friday.  I was lazy and sent an email invitation instead of a regular one. 

I invited 12 people/families and have only heard from 6 of them.  It just make me mad because we are serving dinner, cake and drinks (including adult ones, it is on Friday from 4 to 8).  I have to do the shopping tomorrow and Thursday and have no idea how many people to buy for. 

If I thought they were all not coming, it would be one thing, but I really think that some of them will.  

Am I just too anal about RSVPs?  Do you just buy a ton extra and not worry about it?  I hate wasting money and food.

Heidisean

Honestly, when I get an e-mail invite I think I am a last minute invite. Either way they should respond. I would just buy a little more. You know 6 are coming already so plan for 10!

hopefulmom

I think some people are lazy, rude just don't "know" what proper etiquette is.  I would try emailing them again and asking if they plan to attend since you need a head count.  Obviously these people do not have parties themselves or they would know you'd need to know how many are coming so you can plan food, seating, etc.

Kersbear

hopefulmom:

I think some people are lazy, rude just don't "know" what proper etiquette is.  I would try emailing them again and asking if they plan to attend since you need a head count.

This.  It drives me crazy when people don't RSVP.

baby*love

I hate tracking down RSVPs but feel like I always have to make calls at the last minute to get my counts. Soooo annoying. GL!

superherostocker

It is super annoying and a little rude when people don't rsvp. but on the other hand maybe they haven't checked their email?i agree plan for 10

Hooray2005

While not RSVPing (regardless of type of invite) is rude, I think it's easy for evites to get buried in people's in-boxes, and people forget to respond (I know I'm guilty of this for things like MOMS club gatherings, etc.) - I open the evite, get distracted by something DS is doing, and then honestly forget to go back to it.  Lame reason, but might explain why people don't respond.

That said, I'd send a quick reminder (guilt) email "Hey there, I'm heading out to do the shopping for DD's upcoming party and hoping you'll be able to join us for dinner on Friday.  Would you mind sending me a quick note letting me know either way? Thanks so much and hope to see you Friday!"

**searches inbox to see if I've forgotten to respond to anyone**

Sunflower777

Drives me crazy too. People are so lazy about it these days, this guy even wrote an editorial about it in the NY Times! 

https://www.nytimes.com/2010/03/15/opinion/15cooper.html?src=me&ref=homepage