so frustrated with dh *sigh*

MoniqueJW

he found out last night that his driving license is about to be suspended. The way it works here you have so many 'points' and he lost them for speeding twice (barely over the limit, like 5 mph, but they are really strict here as cameras catch you speeding, not cops) then he accidentally turned left on a road 15 minutes before you were allowed to (can't during rush hour), etc. Anyhow, dumb things, but now he has zero points.

They give him the options of 1. lose your license for 3 months, then you get to start over again with you full 12 points (if you lose any they go back on your license after 3 years) OR 2. you drive on good behavior for a year, which means if you get caught doing ANYTHING in that year you lose your license for 6 months

he wants to do the 3 month thing as obviously it's easiest & would mean he gets his full points back soon

HOWEVER, the timing could not be worse, I am due in 3 months, I was counting on him driving us to work (especially as I get bigger) and most of all, how will I get to the hospital if I can't drive as I'm in pain & he can't either?? and what about visiting me at hospital? yes there is public transport but..... it just freaks me out. Why can't he just drive like a grandma for a year and think a bit about me (selfish, I know - but geez, I would like to get the baby home in OUR car from the hospital and not worry about ME maybe having to drive it!! what if I have to have a c-section?)

anyhow, I got mad this morning, saying he CANNOT do the 3 month thing, now I dunno.... should I just suck it up & let him? but argh all the what ifs scare me

 Also it just makes me mad because I have also been driving here for a year and have not lost ONE point!!!!

ZooBaby2010

I'm with you on this one.  What if, heaven forbid, knock on wood, you went into labor early.  Who would take you to the hospital? 

Sounds like he needs to think through his plan.  

On the flip side, if everything goes wonderfully, hopefully he'd end the three months before the baby comes.  

chantellio

It is not selfish to ask him to obey traffic laws for a year.  Does he plan on speeding when your baby is in the car?  I have a tendency to drive too fast sometimes too, and no one is perfect.  But seriously...if it were my husband I would be p*ssed that he didn't learn from the first infraction and was looking at a license suspension anyway.  I would tell him to suck it up and drive the flippin speed limit and maybe try paying attention to traffic signs.

MoniqueJW

yea his 3 months has to start on a certain date (not up to us) which would put him ending it about a week after my due date

if I'm late - fine, but that's a BIG what if!!!

I said the only way I'd even consider him doing that is if we have SIL added to our car insurance so she could drive me if need be (she totally would, and lives down the street from us)

kg_08

I would actually side with your husband on this one. What kind of cop is really going to say anything if he's driving to the hospital because you're in labor!?!  As far as other transportation to work.. I'd suck it up.

If they are so strict there and he got caught for going 5 over, do you really think he will go a whole YEAR without anything going wrong? Then he would lose it for 6 months without a choice.

MoniqueJW

kg_08:

I would actually side with your husband on this one. What kind of cop is really going to say anything if he's driving to the hospital because you're in labor!?!  As far as other transportation to work.. I'd suck it up.

If they are so strict there and he got caught for going 5 over, do you really think he will go a whole YEAR without anything going wrong? Then he would lose it for 6 months without a choice.

oh he could not drive me to the hospital period if he was without a license, if he got caught they would come down hard on him, regardless or the circumstances because he would be driving without a license, then he would be without one for even longer, plus a big fine....

yea that's my worry though, that he won't be able to make it a year without getting caught for anything *sigh* I just wish this had come through months ago, as me driving to work now would be FINE - it's ONLY because it falls over my due date that has me worried..... the hospital is a good half hour drive from our house

 

MWoodside

I'd have him do 3 mo now.  Most first time moms don't go early, but even if you did you should still be able to drive to the hospital.  For example I work an hour away from home so if I go into labor at work I am driving myself to the hospital.  I think it'd be more annoying if he *tried* to do the year thing & failed losing his license for 6 mo.  Based on his driving history he is unlikely to make it a year w/ no fvck ups, KWIM?

MoniqueJW

yea true

thanks for the input - that's why I wanted to come here with this - to get some unbiased opinions as I know I'm a bit irrational lately:)

I guess we'll sit down & go through all the pros & cons together tonight & decide....