Is your daughter...

Brewster

a "Daddy's girl"?  Maren is showing a strong preference to MH over me lately.  I am trying not to develop a complex about it, but it does kinda hurt my feelings.  She will cry if he hands her to me and she clings to him for dear life.  He is a great dad and I am so glad that they share this bond, but it leaves me feeling left out.    Maren will do the same thing to me if he is not around and someone else tries to take her, but it is like I don't exist when he is here.

Noah is showing a slight preference to me lately, but it's not like he is shunning MH or anything.  When I found out Maren was a girl, so many people told me to just wait and that little girls just adore their dads.  Is it true for you?

knmommy

for the most part yes, both girls.  If he is home, they prefer him over me.  Which is fine w/me because he works long hours and its nice to get a break!

Goose51504

I can't say P has a clear preference now, but she is extremely fond of T and has him 100% wrapped. However, I can remember when she was MJ's age that she went through a stage where she just wanted him...for everything.

Now that she's older, there are a lot of things she'd prefer me do for/with her. However, he is more of a pushover when it comes to discipline, so she's quick to run to daddy when she wants to do or have something to which she knows I'll say no. Smart girl. However, when push comes to shove, she'd choose me over him in a second.

I think it's great that MJ (and P) have dads who are involved and are nurturing. It willl make the world of difference in their future relationships with men. I only wish that I was as close with my father as P and T are right now.

 

AnnapolisLari

Nope. She'll run to him when she wants to, but when push comes to shove, she's a mama's girl.

 

debs1018

Actually, yes. It makes me a little sad, but he is so great with her, and she clearly loves her daddy. My son has always been a mama's boy and still is. Now I know how MH feels.

BubblyToes

I don't have a daughter, but speaking AS a daughter, I have ALWAYS been a daddy's girl. 

And W?  Totally mommeh's boy.

brightning

Nope. She has been a 100% Mommy's girl from day 1. She never went through a phase when she preferred him. It has definitely hurt his feelings.

hikerbeth

No.  She never had that "Daddy phase" that I was so looking forward to.  However, my DH travels most of the time, so that probably has something to do with it.  In the last year (starting when she turned 3 or so) she misses him more when he's gone, wants to talk to him on the phone, is excited when he gets home, etc.  But she'll still choose me over anyone.

ans1999

DD is a mommy's girl. I wish she had a little more preference for my DH. We just came off of a 3 month separation due to moving for DH's job. So I think she is just used to me doing everything. My DS started loving daddy at about 18 months and he is attached to him when he gets home. It is super cute.

tammy79

Yes, DD is a complete Daddy's girl, she will will cry if DH hands her over to me, and she also pushes me away if I come near her while DH is holding her. DS is a daddy's boy too, but not nearly as bad as DD. DH is loving every minute of it, sadly the girl has him wrapped around her fingers already. 

Marchmamma

both girls are daddy's girls.  I get to carry lunch boxes, papers, and blankets as Daddy gets to carry out the girls and they give him tons of kisses and hugs.  Lucky me.

MelandJeff

Ian preferred MH over me until a few months ago. It SUCKED. Now, he prefers me. Yes, I am gloating.

veloelle

Yes, DD is absolutely a daddy's girl, always has been. She goes to him first if she's hurt, tired, etc. It was a little hard for awhile when she was younger, but I didn't take it personally because at 18 months I figured she wasn't doing it to punish me. Now that she's older, I do like that she still thinks he is her everything. And she doesn't favor him as much.

Angela814

No. She's totally a mommy's girl. She has been forever. The only time she cries for her daddy is when I won't let her get her own way.

GrowingFamily

No, both of our DDs are momma's girls, for the most part.  They have gone thru some short phases, but have mostly preferred me.  But I am with them ALL. THE. TIME.

ilovemygirls

Don't let it hurt your feelings- it's awesome!  My girls love doing certain things w/me & certain things w/their dad.  I love it when they flock to him for daddy time.  I was just reading an article the other day in a local mag that a father wrote.  He had several great points such as:  "How does a daughter feel comfortable about being herself and being able to express herself in truth and integrity with the opposite sex? Practice makes perfect.  If a father doesn't practice this with his daughter, then where does she learn?"  "How does a daughter know the difference between real respect and gratitude for who she is v. a plot to wine & dine her to get into her pants? When her father takes the time to take her out to movies, dinner and has meaningful conversations with her that have no sexual connotations whatsoever."

I just loved this article.  Time with a father (for both boys and girls) is so important.  Obviously for those that don't have a daddy in their life, time spent with a trusted male in their life would serve the same purpose.  Revel in your kids' time with their dad- it's so important!!

Lisa102304

Angela814:

No. She's totally a mommy's girl. She has been forever. The only time she cries for her daddy is when I won't let her get her own way.

 

YEP. Only time DD wants DH over me is when I say NO to something.