I just need to vent.. (long)

ilovemyprince

I can't stop shaking my head and crying from what happened this morning at our house. First let me start from the first day this problem started. We have very rude people that live next to us. We have tried and tried to make peace, but nothing works with this family. They have a 12 yr old (smart ass) little boy, who has made my 5 yr old cried serveral times.  They put a basketball hoop up about 8 feet from our house. (seriousy?) So my husband went over and talked with the dad to ask him to move it, (when the ball bounces it just echoes through our house, and actually woke up LO). Well when my husband went over there the guy started yelling and telling him to leave. My dh is a very calm and happy person (he's a praying first type for geez sake)...He's the nicest person I know. Well my DH said sir, theres no need to yell, I'm just asking for you to move it away from our house, and out it on your own property. Well the guy says "your making me shake, you better go away before I do something to you"    WHAT!!!!!!! I could not believe what I was hearing. So my DH walked away, and I called the cops asap, (even though my DH is a pastor type and a "happy" person, he was starting to get PISSED and I could see the fist start to close lol) I know he wouldn't start anything, but you better believe he would end it!!

Ok anyways, our landlord shows up, and tells us (this is where I lost it) That we need to ge out of the house in 90 days!!!!!!! The reason...bc he is friends with this other guy?, and my DH and I are "problems" why bc we are young!!! He said that. and there's nothing we can do about it, bc he owes the whole community.

We have always had this problem where people treat us like kids. I'm not saying we're perfect people, but we are good people, we are always helping people, always trying to make peopple happy. We get the short end of the stick always   So now we have to move. I know Gods plans for us are good, and this happened for a reason. But just sucks that our kindness is always overlooked. I'm so sad for DH He is the grestest guy and is trying to do whats best, he is heartbroken that this happened. we are thinking maybe moving out of state, we have always had problems here. Not a way I wanted to start my weekend.

If u made it this far, thanks for letting me vent and listening. T&P's please. Thanks ladies

Danikat15

Oh that completely stinks!  It sounds completely unfair.

I would try to look on the good side though.  You won't have to deal with the neighbors anymore (sounds like a good thing from what you've said).  That, and if the landlord is a friend of the neighbor, it might have been just the start of other problems.  It would always be your word against theirs and who would the landlord side up with?  

 

ilovemyprince

Danikat15:

Oh that completely stinks!  It sounds completely unfair.

I would try to look on the good side though.  You won't have to deal with the neighbors anymore (sounds like a good thing from what you've said).  That, and if the landlord is a friend of the neighbor, it might have been just the start of other problems.  It would always be your word against theirs and who would the landlord side up with?  

 

You are so right. thanks for actaully reading all that lol...I think my Bump friends are more here for me than my RLF at times.

S2BMrsO

Ugh... I'm so sorry!! That is so lame!! That's totally unfair to you. I hope everything works out!! **hugs**

sleepingbeauty825

The combination of your post and post-pregnancy hormones made me tear up a bit. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I know what it feels like to feel descriminated against for something you can't help, and it's awful. Don't feel defeated though, something good could (and will!) come of this. Keep holding your head up, mama, and show that stupid landlord you don't have to be old to act like an adult.

MrsRebecca

Do you really want to continue living there though? You're going to have nothing but problems.

It sucks, but it sounds like you'll be better off.

CTri17

oh wow my prayers go out to you. God has a plan to be sure.

I would find out if it is legal for him to kick you out "because you are the problem because you are young" did you and your DH hear him say that? I'd write down exactly what he said. So that it is in writing. E-mail it to yourself today so that you have the date that it was said on.

I'd look into bringing something up against him, you didn't do anything wrong and you have been nothing but cordial. 

What did the police say?

Will your DH be able to find another pastorship soon or no?

aegrimm

There's a house for rent on my street!

I'm sorry honey, {{hugs}} I agree with the PP, it sucks to be discriminated against because you're young. Happens to me ALL the time (I'm 24).

ilovemyprince

CTri17:

oh wow my prayers go out to you. God has a plan to be sure.

I would find out if it is legal for him to kick you out "because you are the problem because you are young" did you and your DH hear him say that? I'd write down exactly what he said. So that it is in writing. E-mail it to yourself today so that you have the date that it was said on.

I'd look into bringing something up against him, you didn't do anything wrong and you have been nothing but cordial. 

What did the police say?

Will your DH be able to find another pastorship soon or no?

The police said that there was nothing he could do unles that guy actually touched my DH. I just want to leave and not even got into court stuff with the landlord. We just want to get far away. DH is just so upset, i feel awful.

denahamilton@cox.net

I am so sorry this is happening to you!!! You are one of the SWEETEST chicks on these boards and it breaks my heart that this is happening to you and your DH. It is unfortunate that you have to move but I am positive that good things happen to good people. For some reason this was meant to be. I know it is so annoying hearing stuff like this when you are in the moment but you will look back on this and realize why it happened.

I hope my words brought you comfort and not frustration. I feel for you and your family right now....we too are young. I am 23, DH 28. We always get treated like kids. We had DD1 when I was 19 he was 24. But we are great parents, pay our taxes and contribute to society. Age isn't everything people!

ilovemyprince

denahamilton@cox.net:

I am so sorry this is happening to you!!! You are one of the SWEETEST chicks on these boards and it breaks my heart that this is happening to you and your DH. It is unfortunate that you have to move but I am positive that good things happen to good people. For some reason this was meant to be. I know it is so annoying hearing stuff like this when you are in the moment but you will look back on this and realize why it happened.

I hope my words brought you comfort and not frustration. I feel for you and your family right now....we too are young. I am 23, DH 28. We always get treated like kids. We had DD1 when I was 19 he was 24. But we are great parents, pay our taxes and contribute to society. Age isn't everything people!

DH and I believe everything happens for a reason (Even this), thank u so much for your kind words. You bump girls are just amazing

Melissa & Eddie

I'm so sorry your having to deal with this!  I would take it as a blessing in disguise though...you move and then you won't have to deal with such rude neighbors.  I know the feeling about being walked all over all the time and I hope things work out for you guys!  DH and I were considering moving out of the state bc of all the drama but it would break my moms heart not to be near us....we do however have to get out of our rental as well so your not alone.  Keep your head up

Kaybee44

That is completely unfair to you guys. What bull crap. "You're young". It just makes me so mad. It's nice to see that you are going to take the higher road and not bother with going to court. I think you would be much better off not living near these people. Sending you guys some really good place to live dust!!!

NeverKnew

Do you have a lease?  Is there anything in there about the lesser terminating the contract early?

jhenry1204

I know what you mean about getting treated like kids, DH is 29, and I'm 26 but we both look MUCH younger.  It's so frustrating. 

Under the circumstances I would find a new place to live immediately.  If the landlord says you still owe him rent (say if you found one tom), tell him that he's throwing you out for unjust reasons and you'll take him to court if he persues it. 

I'm so sorry you're going through this.  DH and I are believers in the "everything happens for a reason" thing too.  I don't think you all would even believe me if I told you a quarter of the things we've been through in the last 3 years.  In the end, after all the frustration is settled, tears have dried, and life begins to be normal again, we always find that there is always a little sun peaking through those clouds it just hides sometimes. 

Good luck hun!

itkatydid@gmail.com

I'm so sorry!! I can't imagine having to move right now with a baby! HUGS to you! That is really really crappy that your landlord would kick you out because he is friends with the neighbors. Lame.

You are such a sweet person and I know you guys will be better off. Let us know when you find a new place.

elyshaswedding

I am so sorry.  I am shaking right now FOR you, because I can't even imagine how someone could be that rude, or how someone could cause a young family with a newborn to move out of their home for a petty, selfish reason.  I wish you lots of luck and hope you find a much happier home elsewhere.

kattyleigh

I am really really sorry.  That is just not cool of your neighbors, what an @sshole with no heart.  I feel like it's illegal or something for your landlord to just kick you out.  Is there a lease?  If it makes you feel any better (about the move anyways), DH got transferred for his job and we had about a month to move to another state...when DD was just four weeks old.  It was stressful but now we are settled and enjoying our new place.  It was a lifesaver to have his family come help us move.  Do you have family nearby that can help you out? 

As much as it sucks right now, in the end, I think you will be way happier and feel a weight lifted off of your shoulders when you move far away from those jerks.  No more "walking on eggshells" every day.

only1erin

that sucks but those people would just cause you moe and more problems anyways.

NastyAnnie

*Hugs* You and H are going to be just fine sweetie. Even if it doesn't seem like it, things like this happen for a reason. No matter where you live, people are going to be blessed by your kindness and goodness of heart, so go on and bless some people who deserve it!

woolgathered

That person sounds like nobody I'd want to know, and now you get to move, so you don't need to know them any longer. I feel bad for the people who live in your house next, though. I'm sorry they're jerks.