WWYD - work 4 longer or 5 shorter days?

mauceddie

 

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I am going to be a SAHM in 4.5 months. Yee-haw!

I currently work 4 days/week, 32 hours. DH said he wanted me to quit sooner because he's sick of doing the drop-off (I pick-up). (He's been doing the drop-off since January when my hours were increased).  I won't quit sooner because our big annual project is due in July and it would be really bad for me to not see it through.

So now, he's pushing me to split the 32 hours over 5 days/week, so that I could do both drop-off and pick-up. I really don't want to because A) I think he should take some responsibility since he benefits from me working, and I really enjoy my long weekends with the kids.  He thinks that because I'm only going to be working for another 4.5 months I should do this for him.

 WWYD?

august06mom

I need to know why he doesn't want to do drop-off.

mauceddie

august06mom:

I need to know why he doesn't want to do drop-off.

He just doesn't like it. The kids are hard to get out of the house quickly, he loses his patience, they have tantrums, etc. Basically, because he's getting to work later than he would like.

elm1032004

Unless there is a valid reason for him to not want to do the drop off  I wouldn't alter my schedule.  It's only a few months.

AggieCouple

It sounds to me the cost/benefits analysis weighs in favor of your continuing your current schedule.

AggieCouple

It sounds to me like the cost/benefits analysis weighs in favor of your continuing your current schedule.

LisaK2b

If 4 longer days is what works best for you and you enjoy it, I say stay with it since it's only 4.5 more months.  After that, he can stop doing that drop off since you'll be staying at home (which I think is a harder job than working - this is coming from a working mom). 

xbrooklyngrl

um no, I think he needs to suck it up and let you have your 3 days off.

Why should you do both when this is working ok?

Halo79RN

IDK, if he is getting to work late and runs the risk of repremand, I'd say go the 5 days.  but really, what's going on in the mornings?  who's getting the kids dressed and fed?  how early are you leaving? how bout him?   Is there a way to get the kids up earlier so they can get out the door earlier?

either way, it's only 4.5 months. 

august06mom

In that case I think he should suck it up. I wouldn't ask my DH to forfeit a day off every week for that reason. Unless he needs to be at work earlier -- whether because his boss said to or because he's trying to look good -- then I'd tell him to just wait the 4 months.

Jerseygirl16

mauceddie:

august06mom:

I need to know why he doesn't want to do drop-off.

He just doesn't like it. The kids are hard to get out of the house quickly, he loses his patience, they have tantrums, etc. Basically, because he's getting to work later than he would like.

I'd tell him to grow up and that being a parent isn't always about doing things you like.  You do things you need to do too.  No way would I give up a day off and it's only a few months.  He'll live.

hikerbeth

I would choose the 4 days/32 hours.  I loved that schedule when I was working.  It was great to have a "day off" where DD and I could do stuff around town and/or we could make long weekend travel plans.

hopefulmom

I have worked 5 - 8 hours days, 4 - 10 hour days and 3 - 12 hour days (plus a 4 hour day).  I loved the 4 - 10 hour days but I think mostly because I worked Mon-Thurs and had Fri, Sat and Sun off.  I would opt for the longer days.  I love having the extra day off.

KellyGreen

My work schedule is 32 hrs per week, Monday - Thursday (just like yours) and there is NO WAY that

a) my husband would ask me to make this accomodation

b) I would agree to it if he did

Fridays are my days with our son.

springfallwed

I just wanted to say H no to that! Unless he has an extremely valid reason, then nope. Maybe you need to remind him that it's only 4.5 months for HIM. Sorry, this is a sore spot. I work 4-10s and this past Fall DH decided to help coach little league football (you know, because we have a daughter who was 2 at the time and doesn't play football). He informed me that I was going to have to change my schedule or leave early everyday because he needed to be at the field by 6 (which is when I get home, exactly). Yeah, didn't go over so well; and yeah, still a bit sensitive to it...apparently.

Sorry, for the vent there. GL and congrats on becoming a SAHM soon! That's awesome!