Who took what when things ended?

kjh44

I was thinking about the last post about achases bed situation and I was curious who took what what when things ended.  X and I had just moved into our apt. and he brought all the kitchen things/bedroom furniture/patio furniture, when I kicked him out, I kept everything.  What makes me laugh is when he divorced his first X, she took everything also and he bought all new.  Now I have all of his "new" things and his parents had to go buy him a new bedroom suit so he'd have somewhere to sleep at night.  The only thing he took was the Keurig Coffee Maker (which I can't really use anyways at the moment). 

Oh and his grandma (the mean one) gave me her antique rocking chair as a baby gift but announced in front of the family that when X decides to get rid of me, she wants it back... I still have that also and don't plan on giving it back until she personally asks for it.

peeps61308

Well, I took what I absolutely needed. Our bed and DD"s furniture. I left everything else in there and ended up with all of it minus his recliner, the sofa and the 62" television. I am now planning on going through it and selling 99% of it at a garage sale in a few weeks!! Money goes to my Destin vacation fund this summer...woohoo

ErinC27

I took just about everything, including a very nice knife set that he got as a wedding gift when he married his first wife. All he took was the desktop computer (I have a laptop), his desk, and some of his clothes.

Kerianne1176

good question!

I left the apt my husband and I were sharing.  We just got married in August so all the stuff we ( RATHER I) registered for....is in there....when I first left i felt like saying...keep everything. Now...I am not so sure.

I dont want to be one of those wives who divorces and takes half of everything...but i know there is a lot he wont use....plus we just bought a new king size mattress for 1500 and I am sleeping 7 mos pregnant on a crappy day bed (single) in my parents house and sharing it with 2 cats!  The mattress is the poorest quality too.

how do you figure out who gets what?

achase123

X basically got the bedroom furniture and a few things like the bbq, and his tools...and the lawnmower....cracks me up because the stuff he got he didn't really need anyways.  He bought all new furniture and he has no lawn to mow, and he doesn't need the bbq because he already had one.  I got all of the other furniture and kept our chocolate lab.  He had two other cow dogs that he took.  The lab was originally his but he started ignoring him when he went off the deep end.  He used to take him everywhere and then got the other two dogs and abandoned him....kind of like how he abandoned me.  He kept threatening to take the lab and I wouldn't let him.  He was my only companion when I was pg, I would let him sleep in the house to keep me company while XH was gone doing lord knows what.  A$$HAT!!!

ErinC27

Kerianne1176:

 

I dont want to be one of those wives who divorces and takes half of everything...

 

 

What? Why the heck not? You absolutely should get half of everything. Don't you think you and the baby will need it way more than he will?

inbetween

When H first left he took his work clothes, two pants underwear, socks, toothbrush and toothepaste, deoderant. That's it!

After about 4 weeks I packed up all of his clothes and any personal belongings I could find of his. It took him an additional 2 weeks to even come get it!

I offered him our living room furniture and the 52" tv. After another month of the tv sitting here, I sold it on craigslist.  If when we move he hasn't gotten the living room furniture I may sell it.

He took the dishes, and pots and pans and thats it. We are using my moms now.

I will start new once I'm living on my own.

 

MorgansMommy10

I left him and left every single thing behind. I walked out with just the clothes on my back. My parents have been very helpful and helped drive me to work until I could save enough to buy a used car and some clothes.

mommymanda2010

Peeps--Let me know when you have that garage sale, I LURVE shopping yard sales and I'll be out there first thing

peeps61308

mommymanda2010:

Peeps--Let me know when you have that garage sale, I LURVE shopping yard sales and I'll be out there first thing

It is going to be Saturday, April 10. I will have household items and a lot of baby stuff!!

DarthNBJenni

I got the house, my car, living room furniture (I bought before marriage), bedroom furniture (I bought before marriage), the plasma in the living room, HD DVD player, and pretty much 95% of everything else.

He took his clothes, random crap, the blu ray, Wii, and the smaller plasma from the bedroom (leaving a nice hole from the mount - jerk).

To the previous poster asking who decides - you can do it the easy way, or the hard way. The easy way would be trying to talk sensibly with your x, and dividing assets and THEN having a lawyer draw up papers. This is what we did. The harder way is via mediation, or having your attorey, or a judge, figure it out.

Also, anything left behind after 30 days you are free to donate and use as a tax write off

GLynn2009

I took my personal things and the kids personal things. I wanted nothing he had or the bills that went with them. I got DD bedroom furniture when we moved to another state because I had just paid cash out of my bonus to upgrade he to big girl room just months before I left.

We bought hand me downs and rented until I got on my feet. We did not have much be we had what we needed. The older I get the less stuff I need.

mommamelmo

X had originally agreed to leaving with the crap tv, his x-box, dvd player, computer, car and knife set... He basically was going to walk away with nothing but his game stuff (and knife set he has had since he flunked cooking school). But then his mom got involved and told him that he needed to take more then that... He took the crap cat scratched leather couch he found somewhere, pots and pans, all electric kitchen things except the microwave, his knife set, the knife block/set we got for when we got married, the flat screen HD tv, the blu-ray, his x-box, computer, lawn stuff, and car. He left me with the crap tv and the broken dvd player - I think he broke it just to piss me off, laptop (becasue I'm still paying for it), bedroom set (minus bed), living room set, dining room set, dishes, glasses, cutlery... I dont know if I am missing anything, my parents packed me up.

I was trying to split things evenly based on their worth... he was most interested in the best for his gaming and could care less about the rest and said that he was trying to leave me with stuff when I get back on my own for the kids and he would buy new.

ErinC27

Oh, he also took the car because I didn't want it. He didn't want it either but the loan was in his name and both our names were on the title. There was no way for him to get out of it but there was a way for me to get out of it. It will probably be repo'd soon though.

keychain01

MorgansMommy10:

I left him and left every single thing behind. I walked out with just the clothes on my back. My parents have been very helpful and helped drive me to work until I could save enough to buy a used car and some clothes.

DITTO, I left everything behind me, except my luggage, and went later to get the rest of my clothes (the ones he didn't decide to trash). I'm soo glad I didn't announce the baby registry til I got to MD. Now I have everything for the baby! Yes I had to get furniture (IKEA BABY) but I love the fact that I started over again! Nothing will remind me of him except the baby inside me, and these days he feels like MINE....ALL MINE!!! Oh and I also took a football that was signed by some Hall of Fame winner. He was mad about that! But my son will appreciate it very much! I might sell it or toss it around the back yard with little Ethan!

blondnearby

I was really fortunate because as we were dividing assets my mom was getting rid of her furniture so I gave him my mom's old furniture and a bed my dad had bought to move back in to my parents house right before he died.  The only things he took from the house were the 51 inch tv and a recliner.  The house was in my family's trust account so he couldnt touch it.  I got to keep out 4 month old mattress, all of the dvds (he collected so many of them. funny story about the dvds below) the furniture, pretty much everything.

Funny story: So when he was still livng here and we first separated he had moved into my moms house.  Well when it was his visitation we would switch and he would stay at the house as to not uproot DD#1.  Well I found out after that stopped that he had been stealing the DVDs out of the cases.  He had just moved to CO at this time too.  So i called my lawyer and she told him that what he had done was theft and if he didnt return them he would be held in contempt of court and that I would prosecute to the fullest extent.  Needless to say I got back the over 100 DVDs he stole from me...

BadaBing327

I took Logan's bedroom furniture, the dishes (we had another set in storage for STBX to have), the TV in our bedroom (gift from my parents), and the dining room table & chairs (gift from my parents). Everything else I left in the apartment for STBX. Logan & I are living with my parents so I didn't need much.

ashkandi

X took most things, though he didn't have much, but left some things. He saw some of his stuff in my house and he's like "That's MY rug, that's MY ottoman, etc."  I'm like well you left it here, you're problem not mine, not like I stole it, and I use it for YOUR daughter, take it if you want it THAT bad, and he's all no, no, you can keep it...

Shahlala

I took everything. He took his stupid wolf statues, cooler filled with his ***, his yankees and wolf blanket and his clothes. Oh, and his dvd player and dvds. I seperated them since I had just bought 4 dvds on the day we got married and I wasn't letting him take any. I do regret letting him keep 2 of the dvds that I had paid for. =/ I kept the dresser and stand he left there ( My mom took them for my brother) The chair and couch went to my brother, and I took all the cans and bottles and sold the bed for 25.00. I told him I'd burn it before I ever slept in it again!

meghan_marie

peeps61308:

mommymanda2010:

Peeps--Let me know when you have that garage sale, I LURVE shopping yard sales and I'll be out there first thing

It is going to be Saturday, April 10. I will have household items and a lot of baby stuff!!

Woo hoo! I might have to make the drive for that one! LOL

meghan_marie

Oh. I packed up everything that even reminded me of him. All his clothes, CD's, everything! And gave it all back. I asked for my sister's twilight series and my XC clothes back. He gave me the series back (with the covers torn off) and one pair of my XC shorts. Oh well. At that point I didn't feel like arguing and didn't really want to see him again so I left it alone. I bought her a new series but I'm left without any of my fondest HS memories and the only clothes that might fit my preggo self. I kept his pictures and a memorial CD of his grandfather (he has plenty copies) for Brynlee. So if daddy doesn't come around she'll at least know what he looks like and the CD had her great grandpa quoting parts of the Bible and had many other pictures of Josh's entire family in it. At least she will know what they look like one day.