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Ryan 5/2010, Kyle 1/2007, Eric 3/2005
Update on me and Baby Ryan
Thanks again to all who have asked about me and sent your thoughts and prayers. I am still on bedrest in the hospital but the OB feels like I can be discharged home tomorrow since I haven't been having anymore bleeding or contractions. I was diagnosed with a complete placenta previa yesterday (no longer just "low lying") so I will be out of work indefinitely and at home on bedrest (couch or bed) for a long while.
The hardest part is the logistics of caring for my two little guys. I normally only work 2 days a week and care for them on my own 3 days a week while DH works. I can't realistically care for them on my own while on bedrest (although my mom is on my case as to why can't they "play independently at home for the day while you watch them from the couch"- thanks, mom) so we are thinking of increasing their time at preschool from 3 half-days a week to FOUR days a week full day 
It is breaking my heart to send my just turned 3 yr old to school so often and both of my boys are going to have a big adjustment not having their "mommy days" that we all so enjoy. I know it is just a blip in time (hopefully at least another 10 weeks while little Ryan cooks and matures) but it is heartbreaking to not be able to be the mom to them that I want to be. They've been coming to visit me in the hospital and loving sitting in bed with me while we work on coloring books or watch a movie. So, we plan to have lots of picnics in bed and movie dates with mommy. Hopefully they won't feel too disconnected from me Mommy guilt is the worst.
I know it's crucial that I follow the bedrest restrictions so we are trying to call in as much help and resources from friends and family as possible. It is so hard to ask for help (even though so many have offered!). Ugh. Just trying to keep my eye on the focus of my little guy as well as the emotional and physical well-being of the rest of my family. Pretty overwhelming!
So, hopefully I will be home tomorrow and will likely have lots of time on the computer for catching up with you ladies 
Thanks again for your continued thoughts and prayers.
Ryan 5/2010, Kyle 1/2007, Eric 3/2005
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Re: Update on me and Baby Ryan
Anne - I'm so glad things are looking good for you and it's just bedrest (even though the idea of it is very overwhelming I'm sure!). I hope Ryan stays put for another 10 weeks, and the time passes quickly.
I'm sure your boys will enjoy being at school and getting some energy out so they can come home and be a little lower key in bed w/ mommy.
I'll be thinking of you and praying for you and baby Ryan!
Ryan 5/2010, Kyle 1/2007, Eric 3/2005
I am so glad to hear such a positive update!
Your kids will love going to pre-school for full days. They will learn all sorts of new things and come home to sit with you and tell you about it.
Take care of you, accept help as it is offered, and don't feel guilty in the least! You are doing everything you can to have a healthy baby boy in a few months time.
yes really
Glad you're doing well. I've been praying for you guys.
I totally understand about the bedrest and two kids. My mom was there for most of my bedrest, thankfully. As much as you have the best of intentions to do exactly what you're supposed to and stay on the couch, one wants a drink the minute you sit down, then two seconds later someone needs to go potty and the first wants that toy on top of the bookcase, etc. etc. It just doesn't work or work for long. I tried my best, but it was next to impossible. I was lucky b/c I only had three days at the end of my bedrest when I was home alone with the girls and I just did the best I could knowing I was mostly done with it. I couldn't imagine trying to do it for 10 weeks home alone. It's so hard to focus on the little one inside when you have two outside screaming for attention and that little one is quiet and snuggled up. Preschool will help and it's only for a few weeks. The boys will love the attention and get their energy out there. Can you drive?
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(((hugs))) You are so right that it really is just a blip in time. When it is all over and you have a healthy baby in your arms, you'll hardly remember all of this. Really and truly.
It wasn't easy for me to ask for help when I was on bedrest but people really did want to help. I had neighbors, friends, and family all who were just waiting to be asked and once I asked they were awesome about taking the girls to things and just hanging out with us for hours. It all worked out but the kids did watch a lot of tv during those weeks.
Don't you wish we had the block function?
I'm glad everything is ok with Baby Ryan.
In regards to being heartbroken, I get that. I'd be really sad if I had to send my older DD to school more often. Not because there is anything wrong with it, but because we're used to having that time together on the days I'm home and I would miss it. I think its pretty normal and acceptable to be sad about a change in routine, no matter who beneficial it is.
Annelise 3.22.2007 Norah 10.24.2009 Amelia 8.7.2011
Wow, Gibs, you are getting pretty desperate here! As someone who sends their 3 yo to daycare 5 days a week for 9+ hours a day, even I can't find your 'offensive' angle...
T&P.
Mommy guilt is the total worst.
Ryan 5/2010, Kyle 1/2007, Eric 3/2005
gibs is a turd.
Hang in there Anne and baby Ryan. As the weather warms up, the kids might like the extra school/play time. Can a family member help you out?
oh gibs, you so crazy.
I'm pretty sure everyone else read that statement to mean that the change in routine was going to be difficult not that daycare sucks and RUINS LIVES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think everyone else understood that. Change in routine can be hard to for kids.
You missed the rest of the quote: 'but it is heartbreaking to not be able to be the mom to them that I want to be.'
(I put it in bold and underlined to try and help you out
Glad to hear you and baby Ryan are ok. You are doing the right thing, it will be an adjustment and it will suck for a little while but the gains in the end are totally worth it. All of you will be great.
Good luck!
gibs, seriously I generally enjoy your callouts, but you don't see the difference in being a mom who can do whatever w/ her kids vs. being bed-bound? Regardless of daycare, SAHM or whatever, that is a huge change and difference. And YES, it is hard to be a mom when you are having to, I don't know, STAY IN BED! wtf.
I would say it's borderline impossible to be a mom in every sense of the word and in every way you usually are while confined to a bed or couch.
She's been all over this board begging that her little guy can stay inside her and keep maturing and be born healthy and full term. Now it looks like she's going to get what she wishes for. And she whines about having to send her 3 year old to school more hours than he already goes? Sounded kinda ungrateful and whiny to me. If I had 2 and a 3rd one inside who I was praying would be full term, I'd be grateful as helll to have 10 weeks to rest and grow the little one and not go on about how heartbroken she is to have to increase her 3 year old's hours at preschool. WHatever.
REALLY?!?! You are an ass, gibs.
FWIW, I undertand completely what she means. It's hard to think about having to change your entire routine, especially when it comes to young kids. I would hate the thought of sending my 3 year old to school FT, also. I don't even have our 6 year old kindergartener going full days yet- she is 1/2 days.
Good luck with everything. Hope boys adjust quickly. You can still have mommy evenings with them, even from the couch....
Take care of yourself and baby Ryan!
I'm sure given the alternative she is grateful that this is her situation. HOWEVER, that doesn't mean she can't be upset or bothered by a huge change in routine for her kids. I mean, how many moms post before they have their 2nd that they are nervous or upset about just having a second baby in their lives? It's going to be a huge change, and it's not going to be easy. It's okay to be worried about it or heartbroken that your children are going to have to deal with a lot in the next 10 weeks.
but whatever, that complaint of yours is more valid than it's offensive to be upset about sending your kid to preschool, so CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!
This, word for word.
I am sure it will be difficult, probably more so for you than for them
, but it will work out.
THE most important thing is that Ryan stays put for a while and that you stay healthy.
I'm glad to see the update, I was thinking about you guys.
You take my ovaries, I take your yarns.
Good luck! What a big change! The boys will LOVE school though, I'm sure! It will be harder on you than them!
((((((((((hugs))))))))))))
Cook baby, cook!
I am sorry you are going through all this...the end will be awesome though holding your new LO in your arms. At least this is a time frame and not something permanent. 10-15 more weeks and it will all be back to normal (with an addition)!
Remember...this too shall pass! (((HUGS)))