Wanted to punch a lady in the face at church today

Marchmamma

The girls were being a little silly during mass.  We were at my parents church, they do not have a cry room.  We usually sit in the cry room because we have a very active 19 month old.  The girls are usually pretty good during the mass

Today they were being a little silly and giggling.  They were not loud or bothering anyone (so I thought or I would have pulled them out) and I did tell them to stop.  The lady behind me mumbled " I would have NEVER allowed that"  I turned around and gave her the dirtest look and said "sorry for letting them smile since we just buried their grandmother, my mother yesterday". grrrrr  way to judge a person IN church.

Mrs.JDD

Your subject line makes me laugh.

I'm sorry about everything else...I'm sure it's been a terrible few days for you.

oparcm

I'm sorry and I would've wanted to do the same thing.  How are you doing yourself?  I was 9mths along when my mother died and that was so hard.  I hope your other girls are helping you to keep yourself busy and all.  I know it is hard.

GettinNervous

I cannot stand when older people think they know everything about mothering. How can so many people be perfect? The answer is . . . they were not. They just think they were. I was just telling a friend that when older people say they had their kids potty trained by a certain age, I say we should really add another 6 months to a year to that age because they are "forgetting" how it really was. I just hate bitter old biotches who love to judge. Church or not.

*Amy*

So sorry for your loss.  People can be so rude sometimes, and in church of all places!

cnybride2be

 

Big hugs for everything.  I am so sorry for your loss. 

   and do you ever see said lady with her young grandchildren in church, with her children?  with anyone?  (wait it wasn't your normal church..nevermind)  but my theory is yeah you would have never allowed it and so they are nowhere around you. 

  your subject line made me lol. but...then i read your post and felt the exact opposite. i'm so sorry.

 

 

championmama

That's no way to treat a visitor.  That's horrible.  I've learned through observation that most people are accepting of children's behavior in church.  And, those that don't have nurseries or cry rooms, should be accepting.

I tend to worry about my kids being too loud, even though they are being good.  Honestly, I think it is unreasonable to expect a 3 year old to be perfectly silent for 30 minutes.  My kids have to sit in church during singing and the communiion before heading off to Bible Hour.  I used to be so worried about their behavior, but I quit worrying when one of the Elder's wives told me once that my kids were behaved, I just worried too much.  Now, I hear different little voices and noises throughout the worship any given Sunday, and it doesn't bother me anymore.  Now, if blaire stomps her foot and yells like she did last Sunday, I'll take her out and talk to her.  She's only done that once.  Natalie has been going to the nursery, but I'm going to start bringing her into the church until the sermon starts just to get her used to being in there.

Sorry about my long reply.  I'm also sorry to hear about your Mom.  I hope you and your family get through this tough time. 

hopefulmom

I wouldn't worry about it.  If they don't want kids in their mass they need to provide a cry room.

I do have to say though that a child messing around in the seat in front of me is a distraction...no matter how hard I try to hear and pay attention.  Our church DOES have a cry room, a nursery, and several children's rooms based on ages and STILL people (church members) bring their kids into the sanctuary.  The kids are not listening, the parents aren't listening...so I wonder why they even bother to come to church unless it is to just see their friends.

BTW...sorry for your loss.  It's always hard loosing a parent.