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Vent that my BR ladies will understand...
So ladies, can you tell that I'm getting to that cranky point in the pregnancy? I've had my share of vent's lately, sorry! The pain has increased considerably and the pain pills don't make a dent anymore, so I'm turning into an uber b*tch.... anyways, here's my vent for the night so I can stop b*tching to Troy about it...
My SIL had sent me an email and I sent one back to her. They were casual emails chatting about pregnancy, babies, ect. She just had her second baby a few months ago and so we've chatted a bit about our pregnancies over the months. She gained a lot of weight with her last one and was so ready to give birth when she did at 37wks to a healthy baby girl. So I had mentioned in my email that my contractions have gotten really strong and driving me nuts. That I'm so done with pregnancy and just ready to be a Mom. I also mentioned that I felt bad saying it.
I get a lecturing reply email about how I shouldn't wish being done with pregnancy for the sake of my baby. That her (full-term) baby had to go to the NICU and it was sooo horrible. Now, we've never heard about this NICU buisness before, the baby was fine and they went home the next day.
This completly p*sses me off. I've been on BR for 20wks, my back hurts so bad that I haven't pooped for 4 days because it hurts to push and I have contrax all the time and they wake me up throughout the night. Mind you, because I was thinking about my baby, I didn't have the surgery that would take away my pain. And this is the SIL that told me I can't make it through labor without an epi (which I most likely can't have because of my back) and to make sure and send my baby to the nursery and leave her their the whole time we are in the hospital so we can have privacy and sleep.
I'm not sure if this makes any sense. I think I'm losing it from being on BR so long and my back. I'm just soooo upset. I know I'm overreacting, but holy cow. I feel like she called me a bad mom because I'm reaching the end of my line...
Thanks if you read this far, and feel free to join in and vent if you need to...
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Re: Vent that my BR ladies will understand...
Michelle--your SIL obviously doesn't know you very well and has no clue what you've gone through thus far. If she had, she would never have made the NICU comment. You understand what you're up against. You understand the ramifications of having Livy at 33 weeks pregnant. You watch the high-risk ladies do it everyday and end up with NICU babies. You of all people get it.
Now, as the mother of a NICU baby, it pisses me off when pregnant mommies who DON'T get it talk about how ready they are to be done for NORMAL pregnancy discomfort when they're 33-34 weeks pregnant or even earlier. That being said, it's still not my place to dress them down based on my experience. I can tell people all day long, "No, you really DO want that baby to stay in there until he/she is ready," but that means nothing to people who haven't experienced complications. Does that make any sense?
I think I told you this before, but someone needs to kick your SIL's a$$. Seriously. She needs to quit telling you how to do things and judging you by her experiences.
If I've said it once, I've said it a million times--every pregnancy is different, and people who want to give advice based on events specific to their OWN pregnancy need to just mind their own f***ing business.
Hang in there babe. You're doing great!
I'll hit her for you. Please? I am in a b!tchy mood and I need to take it out on someone.
You're not wishing harm on your baby. You have had a tough pregnancy and God forbid, you're tired of it!
I'm sorry you have to deal with idiots like her. It's almost over! And you have us to understand you.
Trust me, I understand. I spent so long at the OB today that I am just in a horrible mood all day. I sent Nate to work and told him to not come home until tomorrow because I was going to be a horrible b!tch for the rest of the night.
God. I am never a crazy raving person and I feel so insane.
Just know that I completely feel you. And, even though it pains me to leave Jack at the NICU unit every night, I fully know that I could not have stayed pregnant a day longer. As a matter of fact, doing so could have killed us both.
You know your body, and your limits. And it's totally not cool for your SIL to be a b!tch for no reason. You have every right to be done, Michelle. You have my Ts & Ps.
I'm sorry you have to deal with her. Can you just not talk to her for a few days so you can try and forget about it for a bit? That's what I have to do with my SIL...
I can't imagine the pain you are going through. I've only been on bedrest for 8 weeks, and I am already tired of it. My first was born at 24 wks and I have said out loud that I am ready to be done being pregnant. That doesn't mean that I actually want the baby to come early, it's just really hard being stuck in this bed! It would really bother me too if my SIL made up a story about her baby being in the NICU and acting like she knew everything about it. You're doing what is best for your baby, making a HUGE sacrifice. Hope she realizes what she's doing to you.
your sil sounds like a royal pain in the a$$. of course you want your baby to cook as long as possible, but it doesn't make the pain you are in any more bearable!
as much as i want to cook my little beans as long as possible i can't even imagine what another 3.5 months of bed rest is going to be like!