Weirdest FB friend request

Yodajo

Months ago I posted here about how my mom was out shopping when an exboyfriend of mine approached her.  He told her how his brother, Jim, died and asked her if she would give me something (he had an envelope in his hand).  He is the one ex of mine that she truly dislikes, so she said no.  I confirmed by doing a little googling that his brother  did die like he said.  I never contacted him and forgot all about the meeting until now.

Fast forward  today and I get a friend request from..... the dead brother?  I think their dad has the same name, but I never really knew him and doubt he remembers me at all.  I dated him like 13 years ago.  There's no picture or any other info on the fb page.  I'm thinking this is his way of trying to contact me?  I have no clue.  I almost want to friend him just to see what's up and then delete him. 

 

ans1999

I would so want to know what is in the envelope. Did you know the brother well? Your ex does sound a little crazy. Why can't he just friend you in his own name?

KrisBriMcBunny

I had an exbf that I was doing everything in my power to make sure he didnt find me.  Well he "found" me on FB....he sent me a message saying how he wanted to friend me and that he's been looking for me for a long time.  I blocked him.  Yeah I was curious but I didnt need that kind of stress in my life if he actually found out where I live.

Sounds to me like its his creepy way of getting in touch with you.

joseysbride

  I remember this story.  There is no way I couldn't accept that, just out of curiosity.  After you figure out what's going on, you can always defriend him.

And please tell me what happens!

Yodajo

ans1999:

I would so want to know what is in the envelope. Did you know the brother well? Your ex does sound a little crazy. Why can't he just friend you in his own name?

I was curious too, but I figured finding out wasn't worth having to talk to him again.  He is a little crazy.  The only possible reason for not contacting me in his own name would be that maybe the FB page is a memorial page for his brother?  Do people do that on FB?  I really wasn't good friends with his brother.  Its so odd.

Yodajo

joseysbride:

  I remember this story.  There is no way I couldn't accept that, just out of curiosity.  After you figure out what's going on, you can always defriend him.

And please tell me what happens!

You think I should? 

Hmmmm...   You're usually the voice of reason, so maybe I will!

ans1999

When you say crazy- do you mean stalker crazy? If so, I probably would let it go. Otherwise I would be so curious and probably friend him.

joseysbride

Yodajo:

joseysbride:

  I remember this story.  There is no way I couldn't accept that, just out of curiosity.  After you figure out what's going on, you can always defriend him.

And please tell me what happens!

You think I should? 

Hmmmm...   You're usually the voice of reason, so maybe I will!

I don't know...I've done this several times.  Accept the request, look around a bit, defriend.  No harm done.  I don't usually care what those people think anyway, so if they figure out I friended and then defriended...who cares?  Maybe that is a bad attitude?!

Yodajo

joseysbride:

Yodajo:

joseysbride:

  I remember this story.  There is no way I couldn't accept that, just out of curiosity.  After you figure out what's going on, you can always defriend him.

And please tell me what happens!

You think I should? 

Hmmmm...   You're usually the voice of reason, so maybe I will!

I don't know...I've done this several times.  Accept the request, look around a bit, defriend.  No harm done.  I don't usually care what those people think anyway, so if they figure out I friended and then defriended...who cares?  Maybe that is a bad attitude?!

No, I like that attitude.  I will let you know what happens!

Dougsgirl4ever

You could always friend him & look at his account hopefully before he has a chance to see you friended him & then block him?

Yodajo

ans-yes, he was a little obsessive!

DaiLyght

Doesn't it send you an email when someone confirms your friend request? If you accepted, looked around, then de-friended him, he might know?

What I'm most curious about is the first part of the story. If your mom was out shopping, how did he know to have this envelope already to give to you. Makes me think he stalked your mom to find her in the first place. Eeek

Dougsgirl4ever

DaiLyght:

Doesn't it send you an email when someone confirms your friend request? If you accepted, looked around, then de-friended him, he might know?

Yes, he would know but who cares it's not like she sees him in real life.

kelly&paul

once someone requests you be their friend you have total access to their page for like 30 days. So you can go check him out without actually accepting him. also, I've found that ALOT of people didn't change their settings when facebook changed, so you can view their wall and photos. If you do accept him, change your settings so he can't view anything of yours, you go into your privacy and add his profile where it says 'everyone but....." good luck.

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Yodajo:

I was curious too, but I figured finding out wasn't worth having to talk to him again.  He is a little crazy.  The only possible reason for not contacting me in his own name would be that maybe the FB page is a memorial page for his brother?  Do people do that on FB?  I really wasn't good friends with his brother.  Its so odd.

Yes people set up memorial pages on FB, I've seen several.  Maybe that is it.