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Pregnant after a Loss
Down in the dumps
This whole week it seems like I can't get out of a funk. As I move farther and farher along in my pregnancy, I have been missing my family more and more. I just wish we lived closer to eachother so they could share this experience with us. I do call them 2-3 times a week and send them updates and pictures all the time but it is just not the same as having them here.
DH and I don't have many IRL friends that live in the same state and the ones that we do have are younger and not in the same spot as we are with marriage and starting a family. It is hard to relate sometime.:(
I hate this lonely feeling that I have and I wish I could get past it. It also doesn't help that work makes me miserable too. It probably doesn't help that I am tearing up as I write this. ::sigh::
Those with family far away, how are you dealing?
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Re: Down in the dumps
Oh JQ I am so sorry. My family is just a couple of hours away but DH's family is all on the East coast. And we dont have a lot of IRL friends either... I think thats what gets me the most.
We have friends that are either still single and partying everynight and the other friends are all flakes (all.. meaning BOTH of them!) We keep talking about how we need to find more friends and it really gets both of us down as well.
And eventhough my family is pretty close, I am not that close to my 2 sisters, just my mom. That is hard.
I hope you can find a way to get out of your little funk, just know that we are here for you!
I hear you on this point!! (((HUGS)))
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Lydia, born July 12, 2010
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I live about 3 hours away from my friends and family (for the most part, some live waaaay far away..or in a different country), don't have a lot of friends here..just acquaintances or "work friends".
I'm not feeling terribly lonely..yet...but I bet when baby arrives it'll change.
My goal is to get myself out there once we have baby, so we can meet other moms and dads and make a new "family" network.
Oh sweetie, big huge hugs to you.
My family lives in a different country and Dh's family, well.... his mom lives nearby but is disabled and we don't get along.
I do have friends, and that helps. I also signed up for the town's mother's club and am slowly making new friends, and that is very nice. They are all very helpfull.
When baby comes, I think I'll feel less lonely, since baby will be my new BFF!!!!
you have us here. (and feel free to pm me and get my e-mail and phone number too!!!)
This sounds like my friends, BOTH of them as well. DH said we should put an add on Craigslist.
I really, really, really hope he was joking.
I am so sorry sweetie! You know that I am always here for you to talk to! I wish we lived closer....
((((HUGE HUGS))))
I'm hoping to be able to get out there as well and find some families. We tried last summer at the pool and met some people with young kids but then they ended up being insane and drunks. Yikes!
I hope you are able to find a family network as well.
I am so sorry you are feeling lonely, JQ. I don't have any experience with this, but I wanted to give you a big, giant hug. We are all here for you whenever you need a friend.
(((((HUGS)))))
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Aww, thank you Luvs. I appreciate it and will probably even take you up on it.
DH's parents live close to us but I just don't have a strong relationship with them. For some reason I feel like I can't be as open with them.
Hmm, a mother's club. I will have to see if there is something like that around here. I get so nervous when meeting new people though. I always feel like I'm being judged. Maybe I can meet some people at our childbirth class in a couple of weeks. That way DH can break the ice.
I am really sorry you are having to go through this. I will tell you.... if you sit on the beach without pants on you are going to get sand in your crack...
Love you JQ hang in there, please be happy... you deserve to be happy!!!
LOL. Especially if you dig down with your butt to make a nice hole to sit in.
I absolutely understand. I have felt incredibly homesick lately. I do have some friends here, but none of them really have kids, and I just feel disconnected lately since I have no interest in going out all night to bars like they do. The few friends I did have who were SAHM's have all gone back to work. Many of our "friends" are more my DH's friends than my own. I try to go to Mom groups and meet other Moms, but it's just not the same and I have trouble finding people I really connect with. It makes me miss my Mom and the rest of my family (even though they kind of drive me bananas when I am home). I miss going to family gatherings/bbq's and that sort of thing. DH's family is here, but his family is a horror show, so it's completely not the same.
I'm sorry you're feeling sad about everything. All I can say is I hope friends and family can visit often, and you can do the same. I think I remember you saying you planned to go back to work...but maybe try to find a Moms group on the weekend to connect with other parents.
Once the baby comes I will say for me at least...I have become very content with doing things as a family, just DH, DS and I. Suddenly when you have a kid you're reminded to try all these new and exciting things you never thought to do before. It's been a lot of fun in that regard.
Big hugs! Sorry about the novel.
JQ, I know all too well how you feel. It gets really really hard sometimes and I think the hormones increase it. Sometimes I feel so lost and so alone here and I just break down and have a good cry. I have no one but my DH and when he pisses me off then I really have nothing. I wish I had better advice, but I think I?ve just gotten used to it. One of the biggest reasons I am so excited for Gabe to be here is that. I won?t be so alone anymore, I will have my little man and we will be BFF?s and do everything together. I think it will make the next three years we?ve gotta be here go alot faster.
I just constantly try to stay connected to everyone through Myspace and FB. And I talk to my mom everyday. They do come visit but not enough or as much as I?d like them to.
I am sorry you are down in the dumps, if you aren?t far from the beach try to make a trip and clear your mind. That sometimes helps, but other times brings back all the memories.
And I love you so much friend. You girls really are more than my support system and get me through the days I have like that.
Thank you ladies! This is why I spent most of my days on this site and I can't stay away. You are all so wonderful.
I'm so sorry you're feeling sad. My family is about an hr from me so I really can't complain. I miss them a ton at that distance so I can only imagine how you feel. Can they maybe pop down for a visit? Aren't you thinking of moving up by them??
Let us know if you need anything..but believe me, I know how hard it can be. Hang in there!!
Kelz- I too find it hard to connect with people. I'm really shy at first so it takes me a long time to get to know someone and usually that other person gives up or is not interested. I really miss all the family gatherings as well.
You and a few others mentioned mom groups so I am defintely going to look into them. We are trying to go see my parents in April we just have to check with the doctor and get the time off.
KT- I hope the 3 years passes by quickly but not too quickly) for you while you are playing and running around with Gabe. I know how much you have cherished seeing your parents when they came down the past few times.
Big smooches ladies. Thank you!
You might need a shovel to get all that sand out, I know I would with the rate my booty is growing lately!!
I wish they could come see us but my Dad works on comission so he needs to be there plus he doesn't get much vacation. He is hoping to come down the week of my EDD. DH and I are trying to head up there in April and look at some houses. Our plan is to move there but with some unexpected dental bills and taxes, I'm afraid that our savings is going to take a big hit and we won't be able to do it for another year. Plus we really need to find jobs up there first. It's a goal to work towards.
I'm so sorry Jacquie!
Remember WE are here for you!!!!!!
Maybe you could send them some pics of your belly and a letter or something so you can share your thoughts and feel more connected?
((HUGS))
I know you all are and that's what makes you guys so amazing. I have shared my blog with them and always let them know when I post something new. Maybe I will send them a nice card as well.
I felt this way the whole time we lived in Brazil, it was awful. Now that we've moved back I wish my family was farther away, but that's neither here nor there.
I'm sorry you're feeling this way! All I can say is that once your LO arrives, you will probably be too busy to be lonely
(((Hugs)))
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