So, yesterday, DH tells me that a co-worker of his is going to be trying for a baby with his wife. His friend's wife is 27, and his friend is 28, and they have never tried before.
Anyway, he says that they have been doing fertility testing.... And so I asked DH if she/they suspected something was wrong... and it turns out, they don't suspect anything, they haven't tried at all.... They just lied to the doctor and told him that they'd been trying for a year and it didn't work, and they wanted fertility testing etc.. right away.
That really rubs me the wrong way!!! I wonder how many ppl are doing this!! It's stupid people like this that make wait times ridiculous, and make it harder for people who actually need these appointments to get them.
Not to mention.... why would you put yourself through all that if there's no reason to believe there's anything wrong with you??
Re: I wonder how many people do this!!
One of my friends- she says theyre trying right after the wedding in November. She said she'll give it 3 cycles and if shes not pg by then shes going in for testing. I told her they wont for a year and she said "we'll just lie. I know Im going to have trouble getting pg".
I had to hang up. She has no family history of issues, her periods are regular and "normal", she has been off of BC for a while already, her sister got accidently KU a couple months ago.
My other best friend said that she thinks its for the attention. Because her wedding will be over, if she doesnt get pg right away (and get the attention from that) that she has to play the IF card to get attention. I will never understand why people WANT to have problems. Or want to have testing. I hate it.
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I think my biggest problem with my DH's friend's case in particular is that they haven't even started trying, they're doing this before they even give it a chance, and for no reason at all.
This is completely understandable though. You had a reason to believe that something was wrong. If DH's friend would have said she hadn't had a period in 4 months or something, then it wouldn't phase me.. it's that there's nothing wrong with her. She has absolutely no reason or suspicion to believe that she can't conceive.. she's just impatient.
ETA: My cousins wife was just like this! They were only trying for three months then went on to testing and she had IVF (so she says) done. ( I swear she did it all for attention.)
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I have a family friend who has two kids. With both, after the first month of trying, she went to the RE to do testing. BOTH times, the RE did some tests and told her she was already KU. Ridiculousness!
Are you saying you wouldn't want to get expensive and painful testing done for no reason???
That is so stupid.
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