Working moms- I have a question

deeanneharris

I would say it is a mix of both. I do not my any means regret working though. Some people are a better fit as a sahm and some are as a working mom. Good luck with your decision.

mommytobe2009

I answered this once but for some reason it didn?t post so here it is again. I stayed at home with my now 2 ? yr. old for almost the first year and now I work full time and my children stay with my mother during the day (they started in daycare where she taught the preschool). I, personally, think I do better with my kids now that I work. It makes the time spent with them more precious. I don?t feel it has taken anything away from my children. I still do every activity with them that I did with my now 2 ? year old when I was home with him. We do cookies for the holidays, gingerbread houses for Christmas, egg hunts, events at the mall for the kids, etc. You just have to make your schedule and stick to it. I really think I am a better mother because it gives me time with adults all day and I am also making money that I can put them in things like swimming lessons, Gymboree, get front row seat to see my 2 ? year olds favorite cartoon on ice (without me working we never would have been able to spend that on tickets), etc. In regards to my kids, I think it makes them less clingy. My oldest was very clingy and wouldn?t stay with anyone when I was home and now he will stay at preschool and the church nursery. Of course he will stay with grandma too. I also think you get used to have that added income so it would be hard for me to just let all that money go right now. My husband was laid off last year and we are able to actually live off my salary alone if that happens and vice versa if I were to get laid off so I would be afraid to let that go as you never know what the economy brings. Even if the economy improves, I would still always work at least part time so that I had that adult time. Good luck. It will work out no matter what decision you make because in your heart you will know which is the best for you. Only you will know that.

mommytobe2009

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I answered this once but for some reason it didn?t post so here it is again.

 

I stayed at home with my now 2 ? yr. old for almost the first year and now I work full time and my children stay with my mother during the day (they started in daycare where she taught the preschool).  

 

I, personally, think I do better with my kids now that I work.  It makes the time spent with them more precious.  I don?t feel it has taken anything away from my children.  I still do every activity with them that I did with my now 2 ? year old when I was home with him.  We do cookies for the holidays, gingerbread houses for Christmas, egg hunts, events at the mall for the kids, etc.  You just have to make your schedule and stick to it.

 

I really think I am a better mother because it gives me time with adults all day and I am also making money that I can put them in things like swimming lessons, Gymboree, get front row seat to see my 2 ? year olds favorite cartoon on ice (without me working we never would have been able to spend that on tickets), etc.  

 

In regards to my kids, I think it makes them less clingy.  My oldest was very clingy and wouldn?t stay with anyone when I was home and now he will stay at preschool and the church nursery.  Of course he will stay with grandma too.

 

I also think you get used to have that added income so it would be hard for me to just let all that money go right now. My husband was laid off last year and we are able to actually live off my salary alone if that happens and vice versa if I were to get laid off so I would be afraid to let that go as you never know what the economy brings.  Even if the economy improves, I would still always work at least part time so that I had that adult time.

 

Good luck.  It will work out no matter what decision you make because in your heart you will know which is the best for you.  Only you will know that.