Words of encouragement needed please

devilingucci

I don't really post here often but I am hoping that maybe some of you can give me some words of encouragement....

DH and I are TTC again (we are both 34 and would like to have another child).  This is our first month trying and to be honest, I am scared to death to be pregnant again.  I would love for AJ to have a little brother or sister but I am just so nervous.

I had a incredibly rough pregnancy.  GD, IUGR, etc.  AJ was born at 35 weeks by emergency c-section weighing 4 lbs 3 oz (he was in the NICU for a week), I developed a staph infection from the c-section and was hospitalized for almost 2 weeks.  Then when we got the placenta patholgy results we found out that it was loaded with blood clots and lobes but have no explination why... so the next pregnancy, I will take baby apirin and hope that it helps.

AJ is such a little tough guy but he has had a lot of ups and downs.  He was born with a split thumb which will require at least one surgery to correct (the first surgery will be this summer), he had horrible issues with formula and reflux, emergency double hernia surgery at 6 weeks and now it looks like he might have an issue with a lazy eye (we are going to a specialist this week).  I know none of these are huge things, but it is difficult when I see people just breeze through pregnancy and then have no problems with their LO's.  I know that sounds terrible but I can't help it.

I guess it's just one of those days where it feels like everything is worse than it is.  AJ's eye issue is new so I'm dealing with that, he just got over an ear infection and is teething like a mad man (6 teeth - none have broken through yet).  So I am definitely sleep deprived...

I guess I just need to know that others have gone through this and that it can be done... LOL 

 

SBMBride406

I'm sorry you have gone through so much. Our doctors advised us not to have another, but it's not something we've really made peace with yet. My MFM said if I got pregnant again, he would do bi-weekly cord flow studies to check on my placenta and hopefully catch an issue earlier. Have you seen a MFM yet? They may be able to put you at ease, to some degree.

BTW - I grew up near where you live (in Poughkeepsie).

devilingucci

My neonatologist and OB both said that we could have another and that they think that the baby aspirin should help but they aren't sure.  I think I would feel better if they knew why it happened the first time around.  I have a great team of doctors and I do trust them but it still doesn't completely put my mind at ease.  I think I am just having a bad day... LOL

Poughkeepsie is pretty close to me... I am in Mahopac! 

Thanks for the response!

Ali05

((Hugs)) I'm sorry!! It is hard sometimes. There never is a guarantee that it will be easy. It's def normally to envy what some moms take for granted. We re considering TTCing again and it is a scary process bc of the past. Anyways I hope you feel better. FWIW: there are a number of preemie moms who go on to have uneventful pregnancies. I'll pray that you're able to experience a full 9 months of pregnancy

snickerdoodle27

I'm sorry you had such a rough go of it. Your LO is adorable, by the way!! If you really want another one, and it sounds like you do, then find a doctor who will support your decision. Most likely b/c of your issues with your pregnancy you will have to see a high risk specialist to closely monitor you and the baby. He's not even a year old yet, and with the csection you probably shouldn't get pg right now anyway. My OB told me it takes a full 18 months for your body to fully recover from that. I developed HELLP with ds but thankfully had no issues with dd. Though I was treated for elevated BP and monitored very closely. I was terrified of HELLP again but thankfully all went well. Just relax, focus on your LO and take it one day at a time! There are plenty of women who choose to have another baby, regardless if their dr thinks it's a good idea or not. I think the key is finding the right support system.

msalinardi@live.com

I was just thinking that you owe it to yourself to have another, especially since your LO is SOOOOOOO cute!!! You should defiently see a MFM before you start TTC. You should ask if they can run tests to see if you had an underlying clotting disorder.

devilingucci

Thank you!!  I did have the "million dollar" clotting test done... Everything is completely normal so they aren't sure why it happened.  I never had high blood pressure, no clotting issues, etc.  So hopefully with some baby aspirin and a lot of monitoring it won't happen again... It's just always a worry!

JstnJL

Our son was born with bladder exstrophy; his bladder formed inside out on the outside of his body and his penis is several deformed.  This is a pretty rare birth defect (1 in 400,000 births) and we have a 1 in 100 chance of another pregnancy with bladder exstrophy.  He was in the NICU for 7 weeks and has undergone 8 surgeries so far, with several more planned.  I have watched my babys hips be broken and metal pins coming out of his bones.  I am terrified of having another baby with his condition.  I do not think that DH and I would be able to handle going through this again.  I totally understand how you are feeling.  It is normal.  I do not know how I will handle if we ever try for another baby. I hope this help.