Question - regarding more drama with MIL and FB

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A week ago MIL put up a passive aggressive quote that read "attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference." She had IMed me on Facebook and I had to cut her short because I had a TON of homework to do. It must have pissed her off. She always does this when shes getting a mood swing and I become the root of all things evil

So, I notice she had put up a picture of her and DH dancing at our wedding as her profile pic. Thats fine and I don't care at all, but I decide to check out her wall to see if she has made any snide remarks. Someone comments on the picture with "love the picture!" She commented back with "Thanks. I do wish things were like they were then if you know what I mean."

Well, MIL what exactly do you mean?

DH has talked with her before about gossiping about our family. This isn't the first time she has pulled something like this. She was fine for a couple of months. It seems to me shes testing boundaries again.

I need an outsiders opinion. Am I thinking too much into this?

Toosdai

I think you sound a bit full of yourself to assume that every comment on your MIL's page is about you.

If you don't like what she is writing - A)Don't read it and Drop her as a FB friend. It might cause drama but so what? In the end, you are trying to limit drama by keeping your relationship offline.

FWIW, she sounds like a real peach.

EastCoastBride

I don't doubt you, I don't doubt you have real issues w/ MIL.  And sure, maybe those comments are about you.

But- I do agree that you need to be careful about reading EVERYTHING through the eyes of "this must be about me".  Her quote?  She may have had a bad customer service experience.  A friend may have been snide w/ her.  Who knows. 

If you read everyting on her page as if it's about you, you might really create issues where there are none!  Even if she hates you, she does have more going on in her life than you.  So- again, be careful. 

And to that end- my advice is the same as the PP.  Stop reading her FB.  If you can't keep yourself from going to her page, then unfriend her.  To me- this is kind of an example of where FB is causing more of a problem than it's worth. 

Also, I'll be really honest here- there is "gossiping" then there is her venting.  If she doesn't like you, if she tells her friends "I wish DS had never married her" - well, those are her feelings and she is allowed to express them. 

Gossping is spreading 1/2 truthes about you - which is actually what you're bordering on.  Granted, you're here on an anonymous board talking about her - but what you're saying is tanamount to gossiping. You THINK this stuff is about you, but you really don't know and you're making her look bad w/o knowing the full truth. 

 

amstep

She can't play the passive aggressive game until you play back.  If you don't let it bother you, then what's the point? 

If it really is a vague attack on you, direct confrontation is the best way to stop passive aggressive people in their tracks.  Stop by her house and sit down and tell her directly what bothers you and why. 

If you don't, you're allowing it to go on, and you're basically doing the same thing (talking bad about her to us).  The cycle continues. 

megs042107

I would just let it go.  If she wants to be all passive aggressive, let her be.  It's immature and dumb.  And I wouldn't play into her role as the victim.

eyezikswifey

I have had so much FB drama in the past over inlaws mostly my sil that I really just wanted to throw my computer out of the window! My best advice is to let it go. If you confront her with it she will deny it was about you(and it really might not have been!) and it will just create a big messy situation. I like the advice your second poster said to you..I wish I had gotten that advice about 3 weeks ago before I told my sil and her aunt where to go and how to get there !

christine52078

I sort of had a familiar situation with my BIL's wife~i just didn't like some of the stuff she was posting(whether it was directed at me or not) so I deleted her. It didn't go off so well with her, but oh well.