How do you define supportive?

jenifairies

In the post about being uneducated, it seemed like there were differing interpretations.

There were some who said they wouldn't be supportive, but I couldn't imagine not supporting your kids. Disagreeing, being disappointed, trying to steer them, yes. But unsupportive to me makes me think of people disowning their kids, abandoning them, not being involved with them anymore.

So wdyt? What's the difference to you?

MrsRebecca

I agree with you- being supportive means loving unconditionally and without judgment even when you don't agree with the choices your kids/family make.

 

HarrietNJMommy

I didn't even realize that people said they wouldn't be supportive in the post.

Being supportive is being there for your kids and loving them unconditionally. You do NOT have to like what they are doing, and you don't have to "support" them financially if it's something that you strongly disagree with. I hope that make sense.

Chrisy-Wyobride

Being unsupportive to me is making negative, rude, demeaning comments to them or about them.  Also not helping them w/ their family stuff (babysitting, etc) because I don't agree with whatever they are doing.  It is not as drastic as disowning to me.

ali-1411

Good question.  When I got pregnant at 19, my parents gave me a choice.  Either keep in school or I was kicked out.  I kept in school.

Staying in school was a good thing to do.  But I wish they would have been a little more supportive of other options. 

There are times I can imagine not being supportive of your kids.  Drug abuse is a good example.  But not over unexpected pregnancies and college choices.

fwiw - I used the college example in that post.  But I support other options like trade/tech schools or even the military.  DH never went to college, all his training and schooling is from the Army.

Temp174496125006552

To me, being supportive means being there for the people in your life, 'having their back' and them knowing that they can count on you...no matter what.

mandymack

MrsRebecca:

I agree with you- being supportive means loving unconditionally and without judgment even when you don't agree with the choices your kids/family make.

 

Absolutely!