Need help - NSAIF related - LOs in wedding?

LovingLife_06

I am due with #2 June 23 and my cousin's wedding is July 31(I am having a c-section at 39 weeks, so I'll have around 6 weeks after DS is born).  We are very close and I am in the wedding.  She called this weekend and said that she really wants to have BOTH kids in the wedding as Babies of Honor.  DD will be 14.5 months at the time of the wedding.  I'm hoping she's walking by then, but there is no guarantee.  She is having her niece in the wedding as a flower girl and she said something about having her pull DD down the isle in a wagon.  Ok, not bad.

Now, for DS, who will likely be around 6 weeks old at the time of the wedding, she is talking about strapping a Baby Bjorn on her brother and having him "carry" DS down the isle. 

I still need to talk to DH, but I'm thinking of saying ok for DD and thanks, but no thanks for DS.  What do you girls think?  WWYD?  I would only be ok with DD if she ended up sitting with DH for the ceremony.  The ceremony is going to be quick, only like 20 minutes or so. 

Anyone's LOs been in a wedding??  How was your experience? 

Magoy

I had my niece as one of the flower girls in my wedding.  I think she was just barely 3 at the time.  She walked down the aisle with the older flower girl and then sat with her dad for the ceremony.  While they are super cute as little flower girls at that age, you wouldn't want them to be a distraction to the ceremony and I'm sure the bride wouldn't either.  (Even as cute as it is on the funniest video shows.)

As for the new baby, I'd say no thanks, too.  What happens if he's cranky and fusses the whole time in the carrier?  I could see maybe you carrying him and having the option to hand off to your husband.... 

LCB34

I think your DD will be fine.  Especially if your DH sits up front so she can sit by Dad if need be during the ceremony.

I would say "thanks, but no thanks" to DS.  That just sounds like a stressful situation.

talentedgirl

My DS was in a wedding at 16 months, the flower girl was 17 months. Neither made it down the aisle, DH and I spent most of the wedding chasing them around the church yard and giving them snacks. The bride, my cousin and mother of the flower girl, didn't really care if they made it down the aisle, she just thought it would be cute for pictures. 

For us it was a fine experience and the kids were adorable. As for having a 6 week old in the wedding, I think it would be cute to dress him for pictures but I don't know about taking him down the aisle.

 And a cute aw pic!

qtpa2t

As someone who works with weddings for a living, I'd say no to both.  The kids will be cute in pictures, if you want to dress them up.  Sure, it might work beautifully, but honestly, to put them down the aisle is needlessly stressful - to both you and DH as well as to the bride.  20 minutes can be really long to little kids.

lckytabby3

Yes to DD and no to son.  I wouldn't even bring him in public with that many people at that age.  I that could just be me.