Am I the only one?...

Lolabug86

Am I the only one who would honestly RATHER throw their own baby shower?  It turns out that someone has already offered to throw mine and she is just the sweetest lady in the WORLD so I would never her her feelings and the other is being thrown by my MIL at her church, so declining that one is really out of the question, but I really would rather just do my own thing.  My perfect baby shower would include all of our friends and family coming over for a BBQ and just hang out without all the baby shower games or me having to be the center of attention.  Maybe I'm just weird, but I don't like the "forced" niceties that come along with baby/bridal showers. 

preppynewlywed

It's not a baby shower if you through it yourself.

It's just tacky.

Also?  Your signature is ridiculously long.

Lolabug86

preppynewlywed:

It's not a baby shower if you through it yourself.

It's just tacky.

Also?  Your signature is ridiculously long.

Wowzers!  The claws are really out today huh?  Icky attitudes today ladies!  I'll be sure to shorten my siggy JUST for you k? Good grief!

Azrayla

As I posted above..I always assumed people threw their own showers..or something close with some help from others..I never heard that you werent supposed to throw your own..I dont think throwing your own is tacky..maybe its just me.. I dont think I could sit back and have someone spend and do all the work..I'm co-throwing my own and it seems that is "wrong"

Abc15379

Yes, but only because I feel weird having people doting on me, or spending a lot of money on me. My girlfriend told me that she planned to spend atleast 200 on me, either by throwing me a shower, or buying me gifts. I accepted the shower, but I still feel weird, so I'm atleast going to help with invitations and whatnot.

Aliliv

Why not do something like that after the baby is born.  That way you could have the relaxing BBQ with family and friends to celebrate and welcome your LO into your lives.   It wouldn't be a shower - it would be a "come and see my baby, she's/he's so cute!"   All attention would be on the baby:)  IMO showers should be hosted by someone other than the guest of honor, otherwards it's tacky.

seells

preppynewlywed:

It's not a baby shower if you through it yourself.

It's just tacky.

Also?  Your signature is ridiculously long.

Your signature IS long. Why do you need 3 tickers?

Caryssa8

My mom is throwing my shower and she is having me get involved in it just because she doesn't want to do it all her own and we are very close, but I wouldn't personally throw my own shower.  I do believe it is kind of tacky, it is almost like asking for gifts, but that is just my opinion.

Wilwarin

Of course I would love to throw my own baby shower, but I trust my best friend to do a great job, she did on my wedding shower.  Thankfully, she will throw the baby shower that I want, and not one that she would want (we have very different tastes).

pwf

seells:

Your signature IS long. Why do you need 3 tickers?

 

I was going to write the same thing... LOL. 

melissainabq

Nothing in what anyone posted is false.

 It is tacky to host your own shower.

And your siggy is absurd. It takes up the whole screen. 

TeamReed

pwf:

seells:

Your signature IS long. Why do you need 3 tickers?

 

I was going to write the same thing... LOL. 

Ah yes, I love multiple tickers for the same thing...

And Ketch

Can you share your ideas with the potential hostesses?  DH and I have been very vocal about what we like and dislike about showers, since way before we were pg.  My mom knows this and passed it on to the women who offered to throw our shower.  So, we're actually having exactly what you want -  a co-ed bbq with picnic games, no shower games, and hanging out with friends.  I don't think you should host your own shower by any means but I also don't think the hostess wants the mother-to-be to be miserable either.

LCB34

preppynewlywed:

It's not a baby shower if you through it yourself.

It's just tacky.

I totally agree.  I personally would never attend a shower that is hosted by the bride or mom to be.  So tacky.

Lolabug86

OK...wow...First of all, I was never PLANNING on having my own baby shower, its just what I would rather have deep down.  I hate having to be the center of attention and I hate having people dote on me (other than DH of course).  Secondly, couldn't someone have told me NICELY that my siggy was "ridiculous?"  Honestly, it was like a free for all within a matter of minutes!  I've never experienced such hostility on this board before and it really hurt my feelings.  I guess I shouldn't be surprised and maybe I'm just a little sensitive right now or something, but do you guys have to be so mean today?  It definitely hasn't been just with me either today.  People have been getting picked on all day!   

preppynewlywed

Lolabug86:

preppynewlywed:

It's not a baby shower if you through it yourself.

It's just tacky.

Also?  Your signature is ridiculously long.

Wowzers!  The claws are really out today huh?  Icky attitudes today ladies!  I'll be sure to shorten my siggy JUST for you k? Good grief!

If you think that was bad you clearly haven't been around very long.

I was nice.

Wilwarin

LCB34:

preppynewlywed:

It's not a baby shower if you through it yourself.

It's just tacky.

I totally agree.  I personally would never attend a shower that is hosted by the bride or mom to be.  So tacky.

I wouldn't go that far, but I would talk about the tackiness of the situation behind your back. 

seells

Lolabug86:

OK...wow...First of all, I was never PLANNING on having my own baby shower, its just what I would rather have deep down.  I hate having to be the center of attention and I hate having people dote on me (other than DH of course).  Secondly, couldn't someone have told me NICELY that my siggy was "ridiculous?"  Honestly, it was like a free for all within a matter of minutes!  I've never experienced such hostility on this board before and it really hurt my feelings.  I guess I shouldn't be surprised and maybe I'm just a little sensitive right now or something, but do you guys have to be so mean today?  It definitely hasn't been just with me either today.  People have been getting picked on all day!   

I thought I was nice. I wasn't snarky at all. I just commented that your signature was big and I asked why you needed 3 tickers. That was all. I'm sorry if you took if offensively and felt I was attacking you.

melissainabq

You need to get thicker skin. No one was that rude or mean to you. It's considered a sign of respect for people you are asking advice of not to have a signature that takes up their whole screen. You can have a ticker - you just don't need 3 plus pictures plus badges. We know you're due in June when you have 3 tickers telling us that.

Lolabug86

preppynewlywed:

Lolabug86:

preppynewlywed:

It's not a baby shower if you through it yourself.

It's just tacky.

Also?  Your signature is ridiculously long.

Wowzers!  The claws are really out today huh?  Icky attitudes today ladies!  I'll be sure to shorten my siggy JUST for you k? Good grief!

If you think that was bad you clearly haven't been around very long.

I was nice.

No, I haven't been around very long.  I wasn't prepared for that at all!  Whew!

Lolabug86

seells:

Lolabug86:

OK...wow...First of all, I was never PLANNING on having my own baby shower, its just what I would rather have deep down.  I hate having to be the center of attention and I hate having people dote on me (other than DH of course).  Secondly, couldn't someone have told me NICELY that my siggy was "ridiculous?"  Honestly, it was like a free for all within a matter of minutes!  I've never experienced such hostility on this board before and it really hurt my feelings.  I guess I shouldn't be surprised and maybe I'm just a little sensitive right now or something, but do you guys have to be so mean today?  It definitely hasn't been just with me either today.  People have been getting picked on all day!   

I thought I was nice. I wasn't snarky at all. I just commented that your signature was big and I asked why you needed 3 tickers. That was all. I'm sorry if you took if offensively and felt I was attacking you.

Ok...well its fixed now so no harm done I hope.

babyblueize314

seells:

preppynewlywed:

It's not a baby shower if you through it yourself.

It's just tacky.

Also?  Your signature is ridiculously long.

Your signature IS long. Why do you need 3 tickers?

 

Glad i wasn't  the only one who noticed that:) 

TeamReed

Lolabug86:

seells:

Lolabug86:

OK...wow...First of all, I was never PLANNING on having my own baby shower, its just what I would rather have deep down.  I hate having to be the center of attention and I hate having people dote on me (other than DH of course).  Secondly, couldn't someone have told me NICELY that my siggy was "ridiculous?"  Honestly, it was like a free for all within a matter of minutes!  I've never experienced such hostility on this board before and it really hurt my feelings.  I guess I shouldn't be surprised and maybe I'm just a little sensitive right now or something, but do you guys have to be so mean today?  It definitely hasn't been just with me either today.  People have been getting picked on all day!   

I thought I was nice. I wasn't snarky at all. I just commented that your signature was big and I asked why you needed 3 tickers. That was all. I'm sorry if you took if offensively and felt I was attacking you.

Ok...well its fixed now so no harm done I hope.

 

And it is MUCH better.

Abc15379

Damn Lola, you didn't have to delete everything. Just trim it down some. I think you're being a tad sensitive.

Lolabug86

Abc15379:

Damn Lola, you didn't have to delete everything. Just trim it down some. I think you're being a tad sensitive.

I couldn't figure out how to "trim it" LOL  So, my one ticker will do just fine.  The only reason I had so many was becuase I liked being able to keep track of the different things that the different tickers displayed.  I honestly wish I knew this was such a big deal....and yes, I'll be the first to admit that I'm sensitive right now, but isn't that to be expected on a board full of pregnant women?

babyblueize314

Not to add to this already "high school" like thread but the comment was bitchy.  Whether or not she needs "thicker skin" is besides the point.   If it wasn't meant to be taken that way, then there should have been an "lol" after it.  

VampyGirl

Lolabug86:

Abc15379:

Damn Lola, you didn't have to delete everything. Just trim it down some. I think you're being a tad sensitive.

I couldn't figure out how to "trim it" LOL  So, my one ticker will do just fine.  The only reason I had so many was becuase I liked being able to keep track of the different things that the different tickers displayed.  I honestly wish I knew this was such a big deal....and yes, I'll be the first to admit that I'm sensitive right now, but isn't that to be expected on a board full of pregnant women?

 

Very true indeed. i'm crazy sensitive! lol But anyway. I myself dont think its tacky at all. I would love to throw my own. atleast that way it looks the way i want it...I'm getting mine(which i am insanely thankful for) without even a thought of what it will be like...I have NO say in any of it. And it'd be nice to have a little control.

KRISTA555

NO WAY would I wanna throw my own baby shower.     I am the last of my siblings to have children,  and I have personally thrown 3 showers for my sister.  It's my turn to be queen for a day! lol

Bride2bMO

It in real life, I can't imagine anyone I know ever throwing their own shower.

Have a party if you want to have a party, not a darn thing wrong with that! A non-shower party, that is, just a last big hurrah before the baby comes.

I also don't like all the shower "crap" like guess-the-girth and what kind of melted candy bar is in the diaper (blech!) but if you want the gifts, the only gracious and grown-up thing to do is wait for someone to offer to throw you one and then stay out of it, only give input when asked, then show up and let them run the shower as they see fit.

Anything else is tacky and pushy, imho. 

MrsBalletStar05

A shower is a GIFT you have been given.  You can't tell someone what you want to be given, unless they specifically ask you. 

UKMom1

I don't really care about the Baby Shower thing.  My family is throwing me one - which is fine, I do appreciate the thought and the gifts that people want to give.  That being said, I've decided to throw a party before LO arrives for all our friends.  It won't be anything crazy and it certainly won't be a "baby" thing, but more of a "come hang out before the LO arrives".  If you want to have a party - do so- just don't call it a shower.