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Sad, weaned the boys and DH doesn't get it

RinnieRinnie
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The boys are 14 months only.  I have been trying to get them to self wean, but they weren't doing it.  I was down to 1 feeding a day and that was the night time feeding.  I couldn't do it any more.  I had enough.

So since today is a friday and DH is home this weekend to help at night and such, I figured I would just take a stab at it and not BF them tonight.

I left DH & DD downstairs and did the bedtime routine myself.  I cried through the whole routine.

I think they knew something was up because they weren't their normal crazy screaming running around.

I cuddled with them and offered them a sippy cup and then sang to them because I forgot to bring up a book to read.

I put C down first and he gave me big fat lip and started crying.  I then put A down and he immediately got back up and started crying.  I turned the light off and layed him back down with his lovey and left.

DH asked me how did it go and I broke down in tears again.

When I told him why I was upset he just didn't get it.

He said this is what you wanted so why are you crying - you should be happy.

They are my last babies (we aren't having any more)

I am just sad and he just doesn't understand.

I am just so sad....

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  • lgurianlgurian
    sounds like something my DH would say. ::::hugs:::::
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  • jalaiaajalaiaa
    It's just different for them. I waited until 1 month to give the boys a bottle and had only BF before that. The first time we gave bottles of pumped milk I watched DH and my best friend feeding the boys and I felt so sad, like now someone else was providing what until then only I could provide. My DH didn't get why I was sad either. It's just not in their make up. Hope the rest of the process goes OK. 
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  • mamammamam

    DH's just don't get it.  In my puking (hyperemesis) misery DH said "suck it up, you wanted to get pregnant."  Thanks sh!thead.  Anyway, hugs we understand here!!

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  • mommyof4boysmommyof4boys member
    imagemamam:

    DH's just don't get it.  In my puking (hyperemesis) misery DH said "suck it up, you wanted to get pregnant."  Thanks sh!thead.  Anyway, hugs we understand here!!

    Mine told me I was making it up.  I looked at him and puked on his feet.  He never questioned me again Stick out tongue

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  • ktjune06ktjune06
    I haven't weaned yet but I can totally see mh saying something like that. They just don't get it. I can only imagine how sad I will be when I stop. I've been saying I was going to stop for the past 4 months but I don't because the thought makes me upset.  HUGS to you.
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  • lisa&andylisa&andy
    They don't get it. I pumped for 6 months and stopped because I couldn't take it anymore; I still felt guilty even though it was what I wanted. DH didn't get it, (TMI WARNING) he just kept asking when he could go back to playing with them. You've done a great job, you should be proud of yourself!
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  • janjagjanjag member

    i completely weaned by 7mos, and it was hard.  i was so sad the last time i nursed.  but my girl wasn't old enough to express anything... so that must've been hard.  but be proud of yourself... you did great!!

     

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  • amcam24amcam24

    They don't get it at all.  I have the most sensitive husband, and even he didn't get it.  I bawled my eyes out the first night I didn't nurse my son.  I had been nursing for 21 months on an elimination diet.  I couldn't eat a lot of my favorite things, so I was more than ready to be done. Yet, I cried for an hour.  It's a milestone, a new phase, and the end of the baby phase.  (at least it was for me)

     

    It was the same as you, the bedtime feeding was the last to go.  I almost think that makes it harder, because its such a special time.  

     

    I'm so impressed you nursed your twins for 14 months!  You rock! Go out and treat yourself, you deserve it!

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  • jennie13jennie13

    I totally get it and am sorry your husband doesn't.   I went to 14 months with DD, and cried for days after the last time.   It didn't help that she fell asleep on me which she didn't normally do and it took me forever to put her to bed, with me crying the whole time.    I can't even imagine how much harder it would've been if she cried for it the next night. 

    Hang in there, and thank you for giving me hope that I'll be able to BF the twins that are on the way!

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