Having a girl makes you more likely to divorce?

mrs.mulrine

So I found this article and wanted to know everyones thought... Personally, I am a little in shock and not sure what to think... https://www.slate.com/id/2089142/ (sorry I can't make a link on my iPhone :[ )

anvloveskme

As a divorce attorney, I think it is silly...finances, infidelity and down right immaturity are the main issues I deal with on a daily basis.  However, I work in a no fault divorce state, so you can't really sling mud in the petition or at trial, all we have to allege is irreconcilable differences.

jessikarabbit11

That is a crazy article....

June2007

BS. In some countrys where strong gender discrimantion that is socially acceptable, I can see it. But in America? I dont think so.

meghan_marie

IDK if I buy that or not.

kirkette

Meh. Correlation does not equal causality. There could be other spurious causes. It is hard to say anything about what is presented with out looking at the study's  actual research methods.

ncr279

My parents had me and DH's parents had two boys and they are both divorced so i call BS

rorygirl218

that is absolutely crazy!

genniemg

I just don't think your childrens sex means your more likely to divorce. I think I'd divorce (given certain circumstances) even if I had a boy vs. girl.

Brytany09

I think thats ridiculous and I am calling bs.

mrs.mulrine

Alright, now that I'm at home and off my iphone, this is what I think...

I can kind of see the logic, but that doesnt mean that I agree or believe it. I dont think that by having a girl it makes it any harder or easier to get remarried after a divorce. I do realize that other cultures and countries are far more sexist than America (DH even jokes that I should be happy we're not in China or else I'd have to be killed for bearing a girl; he's kidding of course.). This also made me think of all the girls I knew with divorced parents vs the boys I knew. Honestly, I cant really think of any guys I know with divorced parents. Granted the amount of girls I know is a pretty small bunch, but out of all the girls I could recall, most do have divorced parents. Now I'd like to believe that us bumpies are at the very least the minority of this study (however believable or accredited) and that we are far more independent than these women who do stick around for the sole reason that a "boy needs his father". But I do think there are quite a few ladies who are more likely to stay because their son needs a role model, then to stay and allow their daughters to witness whatever is causing them to divorce in the first place. But just because I can see what I believe is the authors side, does not mean I agree. I think its total horse shiit.

tomkat35728

anvloveskme:

As a divorce attorney, I think it is silly...finances, infidelity and down right immaturity are the main issues I deal with on a daily basis.  However, I work in a no fault divorce state, so you can't really sling mud in the petition or at trial, all we have to allege is irreconcilable differences.

This.

anmorgan32

mrs.mulrine:

Alright, now that I'm at home and off my iphone, this is what I think...

I can kind of see the logic, but that doesnt mean that I agree or believe it. I dont think that by having a girl it makes it any harder or easier to get remarried after a divorce. I do realize that other cultures and countries are far more sexist than America (DH even jokes that I should be happy we're not in China or else I'd have to be killed for bearing a girl; he's kidding of course.). This also made me think of all the girls I knew with divorced parents vs the boys I knew. Honestly, I cant really think of any guys I know with divorced parents. Granted the amount of girls I know is a pretty small bunch, but out of all the girls I could recall, most do have divorced parents. Now I'd like to believe that us bumpies are at the very least the minority of this study (however believable or accredited) and that we are far more independent than these women who do stick around for the sole reason that a "boy needs his father". But I do think there are quite a few ladies who are more likely to stay because their son needs a role model, then to stay and allow their daughters to witness whatever is causing them to divorce in the first place. But just because I can see what I believe is the authors side, does not mean I agree. I think its total horse shiit.

 

This.

Maria Agnesa

Wow... my parents (who have been together for 33 years)  should have been screwed..they had 3 girls!

Oh well... I guess I am calling BS on the article!

crysmike

kirkette:

Meh. Correlation does not equal causality. There could be other spurious causes. It is hard to say anything about what is presented with out looking at the study's  actual research methods.

This.  I would be interested to read the actual journal article that this came from. . .

Dec31stBride

OK, so I still need to read the article, but your post title made me chuckle. I noticed that the people I know with daughters seem miserable (esp the dads) - but none of them are divorced. In reality, I think the dissatisfaction is more related to some of those early years with children (no matter what the age) when life has been so fixated on the children for, say 3-5 yrs, that the couple just needs to reconnect.

I agree that money, etc. are the real causes of divorce. 

tessab2515

I'm pregnant with our second girl. Anyone lbowba good lawyer?? J/k!