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2nd Trimester
Furious vent! (long)
So I work in a fast-paced and higher end restaurant. I am basically a server, but with more running around and heavy work than some of the people that have been there longer than I have (and I've been there 3 years). When I told my CFO/HR guy that I was pregnant, he promised to move me into our business office whenever I felt like the work was getting too strenuous.
So, a week ago I sent him an email asking to be moved into the offices on the first of March, as the work is definitely getting more difficult on me physically. He emailed me back this Monday saying to come into the office yesterday and talk to him regarding the move. I assumed he wanted to talk about scheduling or hourly wage, etc. When I went in, he told me that they have no room in the office for me, and I have three choices: 1) stay working as-is, 2) go onto disability if my doctor says I can't continue the work, or 3) start taking my PTO and maternity leave before, if possible. I am LIVID. I am stuck now working in this fu$&ing place in a job that is sooo taxing because if I don't, I lose insurance, needed money, etc.
And if this wasn't bad enough, DH went out and got wasted last night after I called him in tears telling him about this before I had to work. So he passed out and FORGOT to come pick me up. So here I was, waiting outside at 1am for him. And he spent all last night being ill and keeping me up. I got like 4 hours of broken sleep before I had to go into the doctor's for my 1 hour glucose test without him. Lovely.
Thanks for letting me vent.
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Re: Furious vent! (long)
i'd be more concerned about your H than your job at this point.How often does this happen where he drinks so much he passes out, not to mention neglects to get someone to pick you up from work...because i hope he's not drinking then driving with his pregnant wife in the car, or at all for that matter.
talk to your dr. about getting disability, and see if you're eligible for FMLA.
No, he didn't come pick me up at all. Which is better since he was wasted, but I was just mad that he went out drinking knowing what a crap day I was having. And no, he doesn't drink often, either.
Seriously? Your only concern with getting so drunk that he passed out and forgot to pick her up from work is that he now owes her a massage?
That is serious and would so NOT fly for me. At all.
OP: "So he passed out and FORGOT to come pick me up."
So I think he didn't actually drive, he just got drunk and didn't come. That seems pretty clear from the OP.
Either way, sorry to hear what you're going through, and I don't really have any good advice other than sitting your H down and talking to him, and unless you're going to be getting paid leave through FMLA (which doesn't require any paid time) then I hope everything works out with your job. Hopefully something less stressfull comes along soon for you!
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I am not about to tell the OP how to deal with her husband, I am sure she is going to take care of it, however she sees fit. My DH doesn't drink at all so I don't feel like I can offer how to truly go about handling the situation.
I don't really see a big deal about your job situation. At least you have a job. It seems like they have a very valid reason for not moving you to the business office. Jobs are scarce these days. I'm not surprised they have no room for you over there... no one wants to give up the job they have because there likely isn't another job to move on to. I was job searching a few months ago and couldn't find anything.
You're husband on the other hand sounds like a real gem and I can certainly understand you being pissed about that.
Can't they have you hostess or bartend or something that requires less lifting? It stinks that he pulled that, but unfortunetly these days you have to have all that stuff in writing from an employer or they will f you over.
I would definitely not start taking paid time off because you'll just lose time w/ LO.
DD1 born 5/24/10.
Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.
DD2 born 5/14/13.
Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.
The job part don't bug me. I carry my 29 pound son around all day. Yes, I hurt, but well.....I do it. BTW, I take my son to work w/ me - I watch 2 other kids. Their (the kids) mom works from home so I am constantly running around & picking him up to make sure he does not disrupt her. The house itself is not childproof = exhaustion for me.
Now, about your DH - he is a total A$$$$$$hole for doing that. Sorry, he is. That is so irresponsible! He better grow up real soon - he has a child on the way & he better quit acting like a child himself!?
That sucks, I'm sorry. Honestly, the restaurant doesn't sound anything like any restaurant I worked (which included a couple of higher end places)...none of them ever offered or made any accommodations to pregnant servers, but then, they didn't have insurance, disability, or PTO, either (this has got to be corporate). I realize that doesn't make it suck less, but at the same time, if he doesn't have a space for you, he doesn't have a space for you, and a similar job in all likelihood wouldn't be nearly as accommodating as the options he gave you. Most server jobs are "show up for your shift, if you don't, you don't get paid".
As for DH, I have no idea how to respond to that. It's beyond messed up. For one thing, how did he get home from going out and getting wasted? Even giving the benefit of the doubt that a friend drove him home, it's pathetic he would do that knowing he's supposed to pick you up. Sorry, that's not a minor offense.
Not often, apparently only when YOU really need him. Very mature I'm sure.