When do you expect an RSVP by?

ArcticFox

I sent out my DD's party invites and I'm just curious as to when I should expect RSVPs - I didn't write an RSVP "by" date...

I usually have to follow up - its the same 'offenders' each time - they forget or assume I assume they are coming.  I would think 2-3 week before the party, since that is generally how long a cake order should be put in by?

(grr... how hard is it to just drop someone a line when you get the invite, instead of making more work for the host?)

jessica6283

I'm the type to RSVP up to a week before the event...I think you can safely start following up 2 weeks before?

MelissaSue81

I really wouldn't expect people to say if they're coming til a week in advance for a bday party.. Eve'sparty is Sunday and there are still a couple people I haven't heard from even AFTER checking up..

Its partially my fault though, because I'm a moron and put regrets only on the invites so I had to follow up with pretty much everyone..because I didn't really know how many people were coming.. Lesson learned. 

Telyco

Our families always do "Regrets Only" for parties. You'll have more luck that way...people seem to find it easier to drop a line saying they can't make it for some reason.

NikCole

I always put a date (usually about 5-7 days before the event) and still never get replies (from certain people)

When I threw my DH a surprise party, I had my email down (along w/ my phone #) so people could email a response and it worked really well. I think everyone RSVP'd on time. Of course this wouldn't work for everyone... my grandma probably doesn't know what email even is!