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Hmm which do you think is best?

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We are having Aubrey dedicated at church in April.  I am inviting immediate family to this.  I am trying to decide if after wards it would be better to have everyone over to our house for lunch or if we should go out.  There would be 12 people including me, Wes, and Aubrey. 

Part of me would love to just go to a nice restaurant, and bring a cake.  But is that okay etiquette wise?  Do we pay for every ones lunch?  

Or should I make a nice dinner and have it at our house?   

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Re: Hmm which do you think is best?

  • tippykinstippykins

    well i don't know much about etiquette. but i would think that if you invite everyone out to a restaurant afterward you would be the one obligated to pay (unless previously stated that everyone pays for themselves). and i think that some restaurants would agree to house your cake for a while and then bring it out after the meal. i've seen it done before. but of course it may depend on the restaurant.

    i think the more informal, less expensive way to go is to have everyone to your house afterward. i'm sure everyone would enjoy a nice dinner. or you can get some sandwich trays from sams/costco. and some other finger food.

    but that's just mho.

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  • RachelJohnsonRachelJohnson
    We had Abby dedicated this past Sunday. We invited our immediate family to the church service. Since everyone was already together we all decided to go out to lunch. Everyone paid for their own. We didn't have cake. My family is pretty laid back though. If I were to make it more formal and send out invitations and have cake I would just host something at our house, but thats just me.
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  • ricejlricejl member
    I haven't had to go through this yet but I know when my niece received first communion we all went to a restaurant and they paid for it. However my nephew is being baptized in a few weeks and after the baptism we are going to a family member's house and it will be a potluck. I think having it at a home is more family oriented than a restaurant.
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  • ameliaandmattameliaandmatt
    We've always gone to family member's houses for lunch after a dedication.  It's always been very casual and family-oriented.  Usually lunch is stuff like fried chicken, mashed potatoes, broccoli casserole, all those good things that you splurge on at family functions :)  That's how we'll do ours after LO is born.
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  • MrsAOMrsAO

    We are doing ours next month and I was pondering this same thing.  We are inviting too many people in order to afford taking them all out to lunch so we decided to have lunch for everyone at our house.  Getting pans of lasanga and chicken parm from a Costa's Meditteranean (a local fav here), comes with salad and we'll serve lemonade, sweet tea, and bottled water.

    Maybe you could do something like that.  You could make or buy a big pan of spaghetti, lasangna or bbq (shredded pork and/or chicken) sandwhiches could be a big hit! 

    Monica's shredded pork recipe was great for me.  Throw some baked beans in a big casserole dish or alumninum pan, and then maybe cole slaw or potato salad and you have a meal.  Maybe your mom and/or MIL would be willing to prepare something for you?  Just trying to help out w/ suggestions.

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  • star21gazerstar21gazer
    imageMrsAO:

    We are doing ours next month and I was pondering this same thing.  We are inviting too many people in order to afford taking them all out to lunch so we decided to have lunch for everyone at our house.  Getting pans of lasanga and chicken parm from a Costa's Meditteranean (a local fav here), comes with salad and we'll serve lemonade, sweet tea, and bottled water.

    Maybe you could do something like that.  You could make or buy a big pan of spaghetti, lasangna or bbq (shredded pork and/or chicken) sandwhiches could be a big hit! 

    Monica's shredded pork recipe was great for me.  Throw some baked beans in a big casserole dish or alumninum pan, and then maybe cole slaw or potato salad and you have a meal.  Maybe your mom and/or MIL would be willing to prepare something for you?  Just trying to help out w/ suggestions.

    I like your ideas.  It is a little out of our budget to pay for everyones dinner at a restaurant to be honest...but doing something like this would work pretty well....and we could really enjoy some family time :)  

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