MAJOR DH FAIL.

lazysusan

Please tell me I'm not crazy.  I'm pretty shaken up and need to vent.  I don't even really feel like being in the same room with him.  I got into a pretty bad car accident on the way home.  My car played bumper cars between the guardrail and 2 other cars.  Weather related, and totally not my fault.  I called DH and let him know.  He seemed frustrated.  I called again asking for my insurance number and he went on and on about how he couldn't find the paper and how the house is full of clutter.  Granted he was helping the 2 boys eat dinner, but I felt like I was a huge inconvenience.  I got home 2 hours later.  He didn't really greet me.  Left me with the 2 boys and went on the computer.  Left me to put them to bed eventhough I hadn't had dinner yet.  After they were in bed I asked if he was mad, and said his reactions were strange.  He said it wasn't my fault he was just sore from working out.  He went on to say he was frustrated about the papers.  I told him I'll take care of that, but wasn't really in the frame of mind to deal with it.  He got mad like I was brushing him off.  I work full time and can barely keep up with the day to day.  He helps, but not enough.  That's a whole other fight in and off itself.  I'm I wrong to think he's being strange.  I know he loves me, but he does have odd reactions at times to big stuff like this... 

ellemoney:)

I would be pissed if DH weren't more?concerned if I had just been in an accident. I don't think pissed would even?cover it.?

Are you ok, btw? ?

oparcm

Yep, he should've been asking how you were and all that.  His reaction is not what I would want or expect to receive.  You are not wrong at all to be a bit pizzed.

JOEBunny

You were in a car accident, and he was worried about organization?  Odd.  My DH is not the most affectionate man, but he is really good at taking care of me and business when it comes to things like that.  Hope he at least ask how you were doing and told you he hoped you are ok. 

I hope your ok.

joy143dh

ellemoney:):

I would be pissed if DH weren't more concerned if I had just been in an accident. I don't think pissed would even cover it. 

Are you ok, btw?  

um, ya... I was pissed when my DH didn't seem concerned when I got a flat tire... when I asked if he could look up a tow truck place around where I was he actually told me to change it myself... in the pouring rain with a 2yr old in the backseat.   I don't think I talked to him for week.  You got in a accident! oh my goodness.   Really, are you ok?

femmegem

Yep, that was a pretty assy way to react. I'm sorry. I wish I could say similar things never happen here, but they do.

I also hope you're okay.

ETA: Okay, I don't think DH would have reacted that way if I had been in an accident. He gets all pissy about stupid things (and so do I sometimes), but in that circumstance your DH was really out of line.

sarahjared

I hope you are ok.

I would be beyond pissed if DH wasn't even concerned about me after an accident like that.  Sorry he is being that way.

lazysusan

I'm ok.  I might be sore tomorrow.  Thankfully no ambulance was needed for me or the other people.  I'm pretty shaky still, and can't think all that straight.  It could have been so much worse especially if I had chosen the oncoming traffic lane instead of the shoulder.  I'm so glad my kids weren't with me!

femmegem

I'm so glad you're okay, and I certainly hope he realizes that's what's important soon.

Temp108743750006959

you are right -- that is a major DH fail. I'd be pisssed as hell. I am glad you are ok.

ellemoney:)

Glad you're ok. ?I think DH &I would be having a serious talk after I?cooled down.?

EMT

Not cool. I'm sorry he acted like a major AS$. I'm glad you are okay.

AnnapolisLari

Pissed would not have covered my reaction to that behavior.

DandR

There would be a SERIOUS talk happening.  Is he like this otherwise?  Are there other problems in your relationship?  (you don't have to answer...just something to think about)  Because that is not a normal relationship, but I can't really believe the "root cause" is your car accident OR the papers being a mess.  Sooo, there would be some serious evaluating of what is going on and WHY he reacted that way. 

DandelionMom

(((hugs)))  I'm glad you're okay.