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Multiples
just a few Q's
i dont have multiples, but i really am hoping for twins. i have nannied for couples with twins and it just seemed to come naturally i guess. but sometimes i think that i am asking for more than i can handle. does anyone have any stories or advice about what i am getting into.
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Re: just a few Q's
Seriously you are 19 years old, enjoy being young and getting married. Having twins and raising twins is the hardest thing I have ever done. It takes a toll on your body and it is dangerous for you and the babies to have a multiple pregnancy. Mutiple pregnancies come with a variety of risks that most people do not think about when they dream of having twins. Having twins is wonderful but not something I asked for or even thought was a possibility it just happened. I love my kids but it is hard!
Just a heads up that you are going to get some pretty harsh comments here with your post and I hope they give you a wake up call.
After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
I keep reading the subject of the post, and then reading the post itself. For the life of me, I can't figure out what the question, let alone 'few questions" are.
You're only 19 years old - why are you in such a rush to have a family? Why don't you wait until you are both finished school and enjoy being young and in your early twenties for a bit first? Travel, try new experiences...
I first started dating my husband when we were both 19 too - but we didn't get married until 7 years later. Now, 10 years later we're starting a family and feel like we're in a really good place in our lives to do so. We've both changed so, so much since we were 19 - we've lived and worked in 5 countries, have travelled all over the place and have drastically changed our careers from what we were first doing at 19. There is so much to see and do and experience in your twenties - why would you want to settle down so young?
::sigh::
I don't have any advice for you, since you obviously know everything you need to know. I mean, you nannied for twins so you're a natural!
Seriously, you're not even pregnant yet and you think you'll have twins because you're hoping for them? If only it worked that way...
This..
A lot of women on this board are having twins due to fertility treatments, not because they just hoped and magically they produced twins. I am grateful every day that I am pregnant with twins, but having killer heartburn, bedrest, a lot of pain and blowing through part of our life savings just to get ready for twins is quite draining, to say the least.
But Good luck to you- I hope whatever happens for you is a healthy success.
Agreed. Having the responsibility 24/7 is huge, and even huger is the risk to yourself and your babies and the toll it takes on your body--high-risk pregnancy, and multiples are also at increased risk for MANY long-term complications ranging from toricollis to cerebral palsy. Increased risk of m/c, etc. As others mentioned, multiples are hard financially, too, since obviously you can't hand stuff down from one child to the next.
Also, I didn't realize you're only 19. I agree, it's definitely worth considering putting off a family for a while!
Sure, they look cute. But twins are at higher risk of complications, as is a twin pregnancy. I was out on disability at week 20, my girls were 10 weeks early, and I have to worry about any developmental problems coming our way for the next few years.
You have an idealized view of what it is like to have twins. Reality is quite different. So much more $$, worry, risks, etc.
A) wishing for twins does not magically = twins. It took me 2 years and thousands and thousands of dollars to get here.
you make it sound like you know you're going to have twins! does it run in your family? honestly, its unlikely, so you are probably getting into nothing.
that said, its hard.
Hahahahahahahha..... ahhh that made me laugh really hard!
Don't have kids yet, you're too young. There's my advice. Babies are expensive on their own add twins to the mix and it's even more expensive. Not to mention MANY of us have had high risk pregnancies and premature babies often with medical needs that are costly. Just b/c you nannied for twins does not mean you know what it's like b/c remember YOU got to go home eventually. My nanny told me MANY times that she wasn't sure how we did it b/c hte girls were so good for her during the day and then fussy at night, etc.
I call MUD!
If not - best of luck...??
I don't think it's MUD....more like young, naive and ignorant.
Although my twins are not yet born - I agree with this. And I've been a nanny for many years as well, it's great to learn about young children and experience caring for them - but it's VERY different from parenting 24/7, worrying about finances, and health issues and little things that may or may not go wrong, safety, and development and feeding and discipline... Daily life, really.