I think we should revisit DH is my roommate

lo45fd98wq32

Because, and this is a little weird, it's comforting to me to know that we aren't the only ones. I am so appreciative that I can share things like this with you all and feel supported.

I just wish I knew what else to do from there!

FrauKlein

As a part of this group, and as my FFFC, I can honestly say that K and I haven't lived in the same bedroom for MONTHS now.  It's mostly due to his late hours and snoring, but still.

Feels like housemates.

buckin

I would say " just try not to focus on it." People get into ruts and life gets overwhelming and sometimes when you go awhile without the intimacy we second guess ourselves and put more pressure on an issue then it warrants.

aerotigergirl

Maybe this belongs in the FFFC thread, but...

Every now and then, when we've had a huge fight, he'll sleep in the guest BR. At first, I lie awake in our bed feeling bad that we're fighting. But, eventually, I love having the whole bed to myself. I fall asleep a little better by myself, honestly! I think it's because he's like a human space-heater, with his high metabolic rate and all that. It's like he's trying to set me on fire most nights!

hippotree

I have so definitely gone through times like this with my H.  It's really hard and sometimes it lasts for months at a time.  My only advice is just to stick it out.  Marriage is a total roller coaster - you're not always "in love," but you always love each other.  You will have an "up" again - hopefully soon.  Don't give up, and don't dwell on it too much.

::smooshyboobyhugs::

akalutts

hippotree:

I have so definitely gone through times like this with my H.  It's really hard and sometimes it lasts for months at a time.  My only advice is just to stick it out.  Marriage is a total roller coaster - you're not always "in love," but you always love each other.  You will have an "up" again - hopefully soon.  Don't give up, and don't dwell on it too much.

::smooshyboobyhugs::

This. I am really almost glad DH and I waited as long as we did to get married. 10 years showed me a lot of this roller coaster, and I've found sometimes the "downs" don't last as long now- maybe because I know they are temporary.

lo45fd98wq32

akalutts:

hippotree:

I have so definitely gone through times like this with my H.  It's really hard and sometimes it lasts for months at a time.  My only advice is just to stick it out.  Marriage is a total roller coaster - you're not always "in love," but you always love each other.  You will have an "up" again - hopefully soon.  Don't give up, and don't dwell on it too much.

::smooshyboobyhugs::

This. I am really almost glad DH and I waited as long as we did to get married. 10 years showed me a lot of this roller coaster, and I've found sometimes the "downs" don't last as long now- maybe because I know they are temporary.

DH and I were together for 6 before we got married, so I agree. I know that it's temporary, but it's hard when so many things (the limbo about where to live and the future) culminate together and it seems like everything's imploding.

armandos_girl

As much as I joke and complain about our lack of sex, sex has never been a good meter for the status of our relationship.  We're still talking, and we still love each other.  We're both just too physically exhausted for sex, and in my case, I'm emotionally exhausted from caring for my family.

Sex will come back, someday.  Or at least it better.

akalutts

AuntIsha:

DH and I were together for 6 before we got married, so I agree. I know that it's temporary, but it's hard when so many things (the limbo about where to live and the future) culminate together and it seems like everything's imploding.

I can totally understand this. It's been a while for us since so many things happened at once, and I have to say, I really do prefer a calmer state-even if it is more boring.

Hugs lady.

 

horizon1322

I'm definitely a member of this group. DH is really starting to get impatient, but I just have zero sex drive. He's so great and understanding about everything else, and I can't blame him for being frustrated. I'm so ready for this stage to get better.