Needing help with gentle redirection

EveryNameIWantIsTaken

Seriously, ds wants to get into everything that is not a toy.  He wants to climb across the couch, which really I wouldn't have an issue with, but he doesn't know how to get down or understand that he can get hurt if he falls.  If I take something away he shouldn't be playing with (ie my cell phone, if I hop on my laptop quickly, pushing any buttons on our entertianment center, etc) he screams.  I swear if he knew how to throw himself on the ground and kick his legs and scream he would.  Any ideas?  I try to distract him, move him to something else, give him something new to play with, it doesn't work.  He is determined.  Please help!

kat.in.the.hat

the easiest thing to do is just to remove it all at this age.  Make one area of the house totally babyproof and just stay with him there.

In another month or so, he'll get better about it.  There's a huge difference between almost one and over one (at least there was for us.)

Also, when he screams like that, squeal back at him, or tickle him, or make funny faces.  Just be goofy and silly - dance a teddy bear in front of him or something like that.  Oh, and just don't snatch things away from him - we learned the hard way that all that gets us is a baby that snatches things from us.  As dumb as you might feel, say "Could you please give that to mama?  Here's your toy instead of playing with mama's phone."

EveryNameIWantIsTaken

kat.in.the.hat:

the easiest thing to do is just to remove it all at this age.  Make one area of the house totally babyproof and just stay with him there.

That would be easy, if we had more than the small amount of living space we have.  

Certain things he will hand to me if I ask.  Other things, like the things he isn't supposed to have (the pacifier from the child I babysit) he holds far away from me because he knows he isn't supposed to have it.  This poor little boy gets his pacifier ripped out of his mouth about 50 times a day.  Ugh.

I guess I'll just keep trying and hoping than in a couple months he will get past that stage.

mominatrix

welcome to the Toddler years!

 

some days, some moments, are about survival, pure and simple...

 

one thing I try to do with DD (who, at 3, has more ability to grok this), is understand that doing something like taking something away is an affront, so I try to give her the opportunity to give it to me... often, you will find me saying, "Bella, give that to me in 5-4-3-2-1." 

Otherwise, I try to frame a lot as choices: "Would you like to be more quiet in the TV room, or go to the playroom to be loud?"   She's starting to make these choices and decisions on her own.

 

JulieandBen

All I can say is be consistent and eventually your little guy will get it. And I agree with the not snatching things away that he shouldn't have. We always told Jack what we were doing and why. As in I'm taking Dad's phone because he doesn't want you to slobber all over it:) Here have moms. Kidding of course but you get the idea.

We don't climb on the couch (bad example as my son jumps on our couch) because you can fall and get hurt. Instead let's jump on the cushions on the floor. That sort of thing.

cindy453

it's a game- a really fun game! If he wants a paci, could you give him a different one? When Emmy was smaller I watched a 1 year old 1 day a week. She was fascinated with pacis. Since Emmy didn't really love them anyway, I let her carry them around. She used them like teething rings. Once I let her have one to carry around, she lost interest pretty quickly. 

EveryNameIWantIsTaken

cindy453:

it's a game- a really fun game! If he wants a paci, could you give him a different one? When Emmy was smaller I watched a 1 year old 1 day a week. She was fascinated with pacis. Since Emmy didn't really love them anyway, I let her carry them around. She used them like teething rings. Once I let her have one to carry around, she lost interest pretty quickly. 

Ah, I wish it could be that simple.  He pulls it out, and puts it on the floor.  I've offered Elliot his own, no go.  When my niece was here my sister gave him hers she was using and gave my niece a different one, he only wanted the one she had.  He has no interest unless it is in someones mouth, then he wants it.  This is probably one of the more annoying things for sanitary reasons if nothing else lol.  Honestly, i find myself hoping that the little boy just doesn't want one much longer, but I don't think that is going to happen.

mominatrix

fredalina:

mominatrix:

welcome to the Toddler years!

 

some days, some moments, are about survival, pure and simple...

 

one thing I try to do with DD (who, at 3, has more ability to grok this), is understand that doing something like taking something away is an affront, so I try to give her the opportunity to give it to me... often, you will find me saying, "Bella, give that to me in 5-4-3-2-1." 

Otherwise, I try to frame a lot as choices: "Would you like to be more quiet in the TV room, or go to the playroom to be loud?"   She's starting to make these choices and decisions on her own.

 

How odd that i just ordered "Stranger in a Strange Land" to re-read today from Amazon...

 

snickerdoodle27

I literally had to move every single thing that I didn't want ds to touch. I know they say to teach them not to mess with things, but how do you explain that to a one year old? If I moved him and tried to give him a toy he would just scoot himself on back to what he wanted to play with. He is so good at daycare and at othe people's houses not messing with things, but at home he was bad.