Courtesy of 2nd Tri

lildevil968

I think you ladies might get a kick out of this if you haven't seen it already!

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/1/31284299/ShowThread.aspx

DandR

omg....yeah, SHE is the person who gives daycares bad raps.  She scares me.  I feel bad for her unborn child already.

DandelionMom

Ew.  I agree that working in an infant room can give you a lot of experience but she sounds like a judgy meanie.  And in the daycare I worked in, if a baby cried, they got picked up as soon as possible. 

DaiLyght

holy hell. I only made it through page 2 of the replies. I wish i was her friend IRL so I could witness the realizations first hand.

I can't stop thinking about the sleeping baby = not hungry baby. I hope her baby isn't like my DS1, or else he'll starve to death with her attitude like that.

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I thought I knew it all as a teacher. somebody shoulda smacked me.

she deserved the crap she got, even if I agree with some of these 'basics'

what you DO NOT know before you are a mother is the blinding love that explodes out of head once you give birth. it impacts decisions that are a lot easier to make on a 'stranger's baby'

DandR

Thats the thing vccake..some of the things, aren't exactly HORRIBLE advice, if used correctly, in moderation.  Sure, you don't need to hold your baby all day...but d@mn...she makes it sound like if you hold your baby at all, you will ruin him/her! 

Don't feed your baby every time they eat..if they don't stay latched on they weren't hungry.  Ok..maybe an older baby who DOES just need to suck and could benefit from a pacifier...but a newborn??? NO EFFING WAY!!!  But she doesn't state that.

She just is ewwwwwww with her high and mightyness.

shouldbworkin

While I don't disagree with much of what she wrote (except the last one ... that is bad, bad advice IMO).  I agree that someone is going to take it the wrong way!  And really, she shouldn't talk until she has a baby who is only happy or will only sleep in someone's arms. 

hopefulmom

I actually agree with a lot of what she said.  Unless you are a SAHM it is not a good idea to pick up your infant as soon as it cries or holding your DC all the time because it only makes it harder for the caregiver and the child.  As for the every 4 hours...a bit much for BFing moms...although my kids were on a 3 hour schedule and I never had issues with depleting my supply.  I think if you have a child with digestive problems then both of those things would change (more frequent feeding - picking up for comfort because the warmth of your body could/would soothe the baby.  I don't agree with a sleeping baby is not hungry.  Maybe they are sleeping because they are starving!  Mom just has to make sure they stay awake during feedings so they get enough.  Can't remember the other things.

I do agree with most of the pps...she will change her mind about a LOT of things once her baby is born.

isabella22

hopefulmom:

I actually agree with a lot of what she said.  Unless you are a SAHM it is not a good idea to pick up your infant as soon as it cries or holding your DC all the time because it only makes it harder for the caregiver and the child.  As for the every 4 hours...a bit much for BFing moms...although my kids were on a 3 hour schedule and I never had issues with depleting my supply.  I think if you have a child with digestive problems then both of those things would change (more frequent feeding - picking up for comfort because the warmth of your body could/would soothe the baby.  I don't agree with a sleeping baby is not hungry.  Maybe they are sleeping because they are starving!  Mom just has to make sure they stay awake during feedings so they get enough.  Can't remember the other things.

I do agree with most of the pps...she will change her mind about a LOT of things once her baby is born.

Sorry, but this is a load of crap, at least in my experience.  I held DD a lot, for hours when she slept, and went to her all the time when she cried.  What did it teach her?  That she was loved and she could depend on me.  Transitioning to daycare when I went to work was very easy.  There are many books from 'experts' that say that being very responsive at the beginning leads to children who cry and cling less because they have a lot of confidence.

hopefulmom

Sorry...I don't agree with you (or the experts as it seems).  JMO

Did you hold your DD 24/7 for 6 weeks and then send her to daycare and she had no problem transitioning?  Good for you and her if that is the case.  She must be a miracle baby.

lildevil968

I agree with most everything she had to say, but I don't like the way she went in thinking she know's everything because she worked in a daycare. Although Iam an experianced Mommy, I would never tell someone how to raise their teenager...

isabella22

hopefulmom:

Sorry...I don't agree with you (or the experts as it seems).  JMO

Did you hold your DD 24/7 for 6 weeks and then send her to daycare and she had no problem transitioning?  Good for you and her if that is the case.  She must be a miracle baby.

24/7?  LOL That was not what I meant to imply.  I held her a lot, there would be afternoons that she would nap for 4 hours and I would just sit and hold her.  I took 3 months off, then my husband took 2 months off, then she went to daycare.  She did great with the transitions.  Her daycare is 10 infants with 5 staff, so there was still a lot of 1-on-1 attention.

hopefulmom

I think it makes a difference as to transitioning when they are older rather then when they are 6-8 months old and have been held constantly.  I never worked in daycare but I have worked in church nursery and we could always tell which ones were held all the time...because if one of us was not constantly holding them they were crying...even if they were in bouncy seats, had toys to play with, etc. 

BTW...there ARE mothers that do hold their babies 24/7.  I have a friend who has done this.  Either her, her DH, or mother or her father are holding the baby.  She is now over a year old and has yet to even try to crawl or even army crawl because she is never let down.  When they do attempt to put her down she cries...so they just pick her up again.  I don't think she even cries to get down (like my kids would) because she has always been held.