This is what I hate about being an OB nurse.

Lambie.

I hate being blamed for people's miscarriages/losses.  I am very sorry for what has happened, I am not trying to minimize their loss but it isn't my, or anyone elses fault.  I have someone who we just put in a room who is convinced I somehow killed her baby. Yesday, my friend who does u/s had a couple freak on her because she had a loss (she should have been 9 wks, but baby was measuing 6 with no heartbeat) and they said she killed it with her vaginal u/s.  One time I spent weeks dealing with a couple who had an ectopic pregnancy and they were threatening legal action because they said the doctor did surgery to STEAL their baby and keep it for herself.  WTF?  I am in shiit city over here.

armandos_girl

That's ridiculous.  I would hate it too.

KKM

Im a nurse too, but not in OB.  I had a pt once accuse me of trying to kill her since I didnt have her rinse her mouth out after using an inhaler. 

You have a really tough job.  I know nurses are human and make mistakes, but we always seem to be the ones to get blamed first.  Aka-that dumb nurse didnt know what she was doing. 

buckin

Wow...I'm really sorry. I would never have thought to blame my nurse or OB for my M/C. That is so bizarre!

Lambie.

Oh, I am sure there will be plenty of biitching about that dumb nurse who killed her baby.

baze2

 can't imagine...I am a nurse too. I hate when people blame a "stupid" nurse. Now, don't get me wrong, there are stupid people in every  profession. But really blaming the nurse for a miscarriage is awful!

stuzyq14

Lambie - I am so sorry that you have to deal wih that 

greenclown

Not that it makes it okay, but I think people look for someone to blame as a way of coping.  I'm sorry, Lambie.

Lambie.

I understand that assigning blame makes coping easier.  I get that, I think we are probably all guilty of it at some time.  Having people screaming at you because you killed/stole/or otherwise harmed their baby, is rough and I will admit I am particularly sensitive right now.  We aren't in the baby killing business.  I don't do this job because I hate people and their expected children.